help my puppy doesnt love me?

Question

we have a family dog and she is 2 yrs old and my mum walkes her and feeds her and there always playing and cudle up on the sofa but the dog doesnt do any of that with me if anythink she avoides me at all cost she is quite scared of me ???????????? mum says its cus im quite tall and the dog is very small and i have quite a loud voice .She hides when i come in the room what can i do PLEASE its realy bugin me

Answer 1

It's OBVIOUSLY your MOTHER'S DOG!!!
NOT "yours" & NOT a "puppy"!!!
DUH???

You'd think you'd have figured that out in ***TWO YEARS***,eh?

Answer 2

Some dogs are bonded to one person - and one person only. That doesn't mean that you are an enemy, however - it just means that Fifi views your Mother as "her human."

That doesn't mean you two can't get along - and even be friends.

Your height and loud voice can be frightening her.

Consider crouching down to her and speaking to her in a very soft, rather high pitched voice. Move gently - no sudden moves.

And this is ONE place where I emphasize treats. Keep a few goodies and morsels in your pocket. When Fifi comes to you tell her gently "Good girl." and give her a treat.

She may dart away - but eventually she will see you as less of a threat.

Also, try taking over some of the care duties - walkies, play time, etc. from Mom.

Answer 3

A large, loud person can be quite intimidating to a small dog. How did you behave with her when she first arrived in your family? Did you chase her to pick her up, or let her come to you in her own time? Did you shout at her for messing in the house, as all puppies do? How does your mum act with the dog now? Does she say, "Oh, you poor puppy, I won't let that big mean Chris hurt you!" and reward the dog for running away from you, or does she leave the two of you alone to work it out? I would suggest you try sitting alone in the room with the dog and some really high-value treats, but ignore the dog until it comes out of hiding. Then very quietly and matter-of-factly (not acting like you're about to start sneaking up on her or anything threatening) just speak pleasantly to the dog and toss her a treat. Keep your voice low and your tone pleasant, don't make any sudden moves, and don't try to grab her up if she gets close enough. Just carry on watching telly and tossing treats out until she learns that you aren't a threat. This can take a lot of patience, but remember the dog has had 2 years to learn that you're scary to her and it will take a while (but not 2 years) for her to decide that you're OK. Then just be careful not to raise your voice or play roughly with her and scare her again!

Answer 4

Your mum has formed a strong bond with the dog and she feels secure and comfortable with her. Your mum is the one that feeds her, plays with her and takes her for walks. Maybe without you realising it, you probably raised your voice to the dog and caused her to become very warey of you. Dogs are very sensitive and smaller breeds are even more sensitive. If you want to regain the trust of the dog, I would suggest you play with her and speak in very gentle tones to ease her and make her feel welcomed and at the same time try to stroke her re-assuring her.

Dogs can also sense whether you are going to cause them harm or not. Try by giving her some treats, keep it in your hand and call her gently. It wont happen over night if the dog is afraid of you. She will have to re-gain the trust between the two of you. Eventually if she takes the treats from your hand, start by giving her food, playing with her and over time, you will see the difference in manner.

Having a deep voice means nothing, only if you have used it to shout and go on. Try it, I hope it works out for you!

Answer 5

Walk the dog without your mother, the walk will help you develop a bond with the dog. Don't let the dog rule the walk either make sure you teach her to walk properly on a leash not pulling. It seems as though your mother has over pampered the dog and now the dog believes it owns you mother. I do a lot more with my dog than my husband does but he loves for my husband to come home and he loves to play with both of us.
You can also try buying a toy that only you and the dog play with and try to find a special time that you play with the dog.

Answer 6

You need to spend some time with her the way your mom has. Right now your mom is her security but she may eventually warm up to you. Just be patient and lower your voice when you are around her. Good luck.

Answer 7

Try take the dog for a walk your self and feed it then it should get used to you and hopefully it will like to be around you more and when you near the dog dont make to much noise and pat,play,brush.feed and walk it reguly
Good luck!

Answer 8

If you start feeding it, bathing it, holding it, petting it, taking it out on walks, he'll love you too. It is really impossible to demand that he be your dog when you are not doing all the work! Remember not to shout at it, not to stand very tall right nextto its face (kneel when you go pet him), not to hit him, etc.

Answer 9

first give him food so shell come to you then gently grab him and put her on a high chair .this should force her to be with you and reduce the height problem.give her lots of food so he will get used to you . also try to be the one who feeds him dogs are easily motivated by food. i tell u this by experience

Answer 10

Offer it treats. Dogs normally don't turn those down. Eventually she will warm up to you.

Answer 11

the dog is probably uncertain of you...try to get her trust first... u can gain her trust by feeding her... The way to a dog's heart, is through her tummy... Dogs LOVE food... if u give it to them.. they'll love you... this will help you gain her trust... then slowly pat her and get her to come to u...when she comes to u...give her lots of praise and cuddle her... Spend quality time with your dog... Remember..dogs are a life time of commitment... Good luck...