What should I do?He does not want to let go...keeps telling me he loves me,I do not want to make him choose me over his family...Any advice?
2007-05-22 23:00:47 · 35 answers · asked by Reta 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
good greif
you are never going to win, and just get hurt, it will get worse
there is no way he will leave his family.
he is playing you.
2007-05-22 23:04:23 · answer #1 · answered by rosie p 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you are wasting your time, love!
who can say how he truly feels about you maybe he does have some love for you but is it enough for him to leave his family? i don't think so. if his love for you was that strong he'd done it already. how long have you'll been in this relationship?
so many deciding factors. remember once a cheater they'll cheat again. so if he does end up with you expect the same thang to happen. people always stay in a relationship
because of the children don't it causes them more harm especially if there is arguing and fighting all the time.
who knows what is really happening at his home him and his wife could have a great relationship.
men will always say there is trouble at home to get another females sympath and we always end up thinking all give him the love he deserves! when he's already getting it at home.
p.s. when you do get your husband
someone will be giving him the love they think he's not getting at home.
2007-05-22 23:19:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do about it. You are just going to have to accept the fact that you are just a side piece that he does not want to let go. What you need to do is put that in love business to the side and get yourself a man with no baggage so you can have a family of your own. And him telling you he loves you is nothing action speaks way louder then words. Gifts and pleasure are a plus but they still mean nothing if you can't even express your love in public.
2007-05-30 21:09:07 · answer #3 · answered by richelle114 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should "do" what you have been doing! You say you both "love" each other. Well so be it...keep on enjoying each others company till it ends, and trust me honey it will end. It's not your fault this man can't stay loyal to his wife whether he loves her or not. It's not your fault if his children are affected in any way. they are his responsibility and under his love and care not yours. but make no mistake sweetheart you can't make this man leave his family, unless he wants to. Do you really want him to? This situation might not only be good for him, but for you to right? So take it for what it is worth...because trust me, if it's not you he is having an affair with it will be someone else and if you end it I'm sure it won't be long till he finds another.
2007-05-30 19:40:48 · answer #4 · answered by lmonte 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you are married to the married man you should not have a relationship with him no matter how the two of you feel. Unless he is divorced and only then if you want to take on the responsibility of being a step-parent. Think long and hard about all of the lives that are affected when people cheat on their spouses. His wife, their kids, their families, their jobs, their neighbors, etc.
2007-05-22 23:07:27 · answer #5 · answered by Patrick E 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't care what he tells you or what you want to believe. The reality is, he is married and living with someone else and doesn't intent to leave. I think you're kidding yourself. I think you're settling for someone else's leftovers. I think you're going to wake up one day feeling used, ripped off, and betrayed. Any woman having an affair with a married man with children needs to realize one thing: you are making it easy for these guys to have their cake and eat it too.
My advice: End this relationship now. Do the honorable thing for yourself, for this man's wife and family, and yes, even for him. Do some serious work on healing the emotional wounds you are carrying that lead you to believe that you don't deserve all of a man's love. Get back to a state of integrity and respect with yourself, so you will be free to find someone whom you don't have to share with anyone.
2007-05-30 21:03:20 · answer #6 · answered by ravishingV 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is better if you put an end to this relationship. The married man may take undue advantage of you, perhaps even have sex (promising he would divorce his wife and marry you) and leave you to face the wicked world. You may be young, try to find a job and keep yourself busy (or you can read some good books, have good hobby) and pass your time. A man who is meant for you will enter your life.
2007-05-22 23:32:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave them alone. Why are you and him being so selfish? Do you really believes he loves you? This is a man with wife and kids. How irresponsible he should be to be able to say he loves you? If he can cheat on his wife, do you think he would not do that to you one day? Grow up, wise up and let go of something that is not yours to start with. The word 'I love you' is easy to say and it might mean nothing when it comes from this kind of guys' mouth.
2007-05-22 23:12:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I find adulterous men (and/or women) the lowest of the low. They are absolute filth and you chose to sleep with one. They are incapable of love. Lay down with dogs and you get fleas. You want sympathy because you are now infested? PUHleeze.
I'll give you advice for next time. NEXT time you think it's a good idea to sleep around with a married man...potentially tear apart a family with children...and expose an unsuspecting wife to whatever venereal diseases you may have --- DON'T. IT's a BAD idea. Also, get tested for STDS because if you think you are his first little fling, you are sadly, sadly deluded.
2007-05-22 23:05:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-05 02:29:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not love its lust,..........think of it the other way around. What if you were the wife??? If he is being with you and he has a wife and kids he don't love you cause he don't even care about what he is doing to his family..........I think you should leave him for the kids and cause eventually your going to get hurt,............and specially WHY???? are you wasting your time with him???????? You could find someone single and with out NO No's in his life, someone to start a family with,......why are you going to be with a person that is not faithful??
2007-05-30 13:23:14 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋