please help on child custody?

Question

Dear Sir and/or Maam

I'm writing this letter in regards to my sister. She was recently in a child custody case

& I do not believe that justice was served.. In the following

I will tell you 3 stories at which I believe will shock you and prove what I say is just.


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The first story is of her oldest child. A daughter. The daughter is 9 years old

and an honor roll student who this year recieved a merit "O" award for being on the honor

roll the whole year. My sister became pregnant with her at the young age of 14. The man

whom is her father was at the time 18. When she informed

him of the pregnancy he went to tell his father and the mother of his other children. From the

information we later recieved we learned from his brother that on his way back from Tulsa to

Okemah he took an entire bottle of Pills, he then drove over to our house spent about 15-30 minutes

speaking with my sister,then left and had a wreck 3 blocks from our home. The next morning his brother

showed up at our door and told us about it and was asking if we knew if he took anything. He told us

that he had overdosed and they had to pump his stomach. he and his father showed up at our door to ask what

the options were for the baby. My mother told them that abortion was out of the question because

we do not believe in them and that my sister was keeping the child.They then offered to pay her any

amount of money to abort the child After being turned down They left and we didn't see

him for 4 more years and that was only because my sister filed with the Dhs child support

and they requested a dna. The DNA came back 99.99 %. Still we did not see him again until

the day of her 5th birthday. He called and asked my sister if he could see her and my sister

let him. Over the next 4 years I would say that he has visited her 4-5 times a year.He sued

for custody once but was only granted visitation every other weekend at the daughter's decretion. If she said

He could not force her.
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My second story is of her 4 year old son. My sister married a man

in the year 2004. They had their son in the year 2003. During the year my sister was pregnant by this man

he was arrested on several misdameanor drug charges. They divorced 6 months later because this man could

not give up his beer. Since then this man has taken her to court at least 5 times. Each time he was

only allowed standard visitation.(My sister later remarried a man in the Navy and moved to Virginia

after she got the all clear sign from her attorney. This man couldn't afford to fly out for visitation.

So upon returning from Virginia my sister and her attorney agreed to let this man have her son

every other week for the whole week for the next 4 months to make up for the visitation he missed.)
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My last story is concerning my sisters youngest child a 1 year old daughter who

belongs to her current husband(soon-to-be-ex). My sister and this man married in

2005. My sister moved to Viringia with him since that was were the Navy stationed him.My sister later returned

to Oklahoma and remained married but, they are now filing for divorce. He is being sent to

sea for 4 years of sea duty.He is only fighting to sign rights over to his parents He himself will not be raising this child.

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Now here is the twist in my story. My sister and her first husband were scheduled to go to court

to redo their custody since the first man had made up his time missed seeing

that my sister was only in Virginia for about 5 months. Well we were then informed her current husband would be going

to court with her that day too before with her first husband and then her oldest daughters father would be following. When we

got there it was a closed court room. The only ones suppose to be aloud in there were the man suing

for custody, his attorney, my sister and her attorney and the judge. Well it was not that way.

the 3 men were allowed to combine their cases and fight her as one and testify for each

other. So in the court room were my sister, her attorney,all 3 men and their attorneys

and This Judge. They called in 2 witnesses both were supenade by her first husband. They were her sons

teacher and his school superintended . The superintended testified

that her son always looked cleaned, well dressed and well taken care of when my sister brought him to school.

His teacher contradicted that and said that he was dirty. Then all 3 men

were allowed to testify where they bashed her. The judge and/or my sisters attorney

caught them all in at least 1 lie and her first husband was caught in 3. He also refused to submit to a

drug test. They brought no papers, no statments ,no physical proof of neglect, abuse, or misconduct

on my sister. In fact once just a few months ago her first husband and his attorny went to court alone with dhs

to pull records and prove her unfit and dhs testified that all reports made on my sister we false

and they found her to be a fit mother capable of caring for her children and the judge they went infront of

(diffrent from the judge in the current custudy case) had it dismissed

So all this judge has to go on was the word of these 3 men who don't pay child support regularly. 3

men who ganged up on her.He never took in any of her witnesses or put her on the stand. He closed

court and ruled that all 3 fathers were granted temp-custody until they returned to court a month from now

On ground of what the boys testomy implied.They all accussed her of being bi=polar yet they had no

medical records to back this and none of them are doctors. This judge is taking a 9 year old girl from

the only home and parent she has known and letting a parent who sees her 4-5 times a year take her to

Arkansas. He is doing this without a transistanal councler. If the childs best interest were being

served wouldnt tramitc situations be avoided. He is taking a 4 year old boy and giving him to a known

drug user. He is giving a 1 year old little girl to a man with very immoral conduct and that will

have to sign custody over to his parents so that he can go out on his military order to sea for 4 years

so this man wont even be raising his own child.On top of that fact he hasn't seen her in about 4

months.Not only that he is seperating them from their siblings and family.From a mother who has cared for them

on her own, a mother that doesn't drink, doesn't do drugs and has no crimanal record.If he was concerned for the child

why wasnt someone who was in their life everyday appointed guardingship until court decided like my mother or I?

Does this sound like the best interest of the child is being met? Does this sound like justice

is being served? Does this sound like my sister's Civil rights were served? Im sure most people I'm

sending this to will agree it does not!

Answer 1

Um. I can't really give you any advice but I can relate. Sad. :(

Answer 2

There is no such thing as a military divorce. All divorces are civil matters. Having said that, the amount of child support is based on income. If there is a court order in place that states how much child support he should pay, then that's what he needs to pay. The only way he could petition the courts to lower the amount is if his circumstances changed and he suddenly started making significantly less money. As for sending more money whenever his ex asks for it, he is not obligated to do that and he is in fact a fool to do so.

Answer 3

It is very difficult in most cases for a father to get custody of a child over a mother. What exactly did they say about her that made the judge make this decision? Are you leaving something out about your sister? It sounds like there are many dysfunctional facets to the whole family history to me. I think all of these parents need to grow up and learn to work together for the sake of the children.

Answer 4

the same thing happen with my grandson.i raised him for 3 yrs.,his father was 29 his mother was 16 got pg at 17 had him 18.he took her to ar from ft worth,he gave her 2 sexual diseases while p.g,at 6 mns. p.g. he dropped her off at truck stop and left her there,never looked back.when she was giving birth there was problems we called him he wanted nothing to do with baby,when he was a yr old took him 200 miles father said he didnt want to see him,red headed little bastard not his,the mother got him in custody court when child was 2,farther was order by judge to met his son,father had restrainting order on him first 9 mn. of battle,the first time father took the baby ,his little 4 m old brother pated from sids,the father lied to cps,drs,lawyers,judges and got for 30 days,the baby lost 10 in 7 days,thfather s drs records shows it,the fdathers girlfriend drs says in report was to concern about child penis,thast his visit to father,he had onlky seen him 1 -30 mins, judge order.so the next was yr later we went to keep him over wkend as father was suppose to have for 2 mns,the baby had bruise on face said daddy did it also said father girlfriend messed with him,we took him back to ft worth ,he told few people,a councler.and cps,this man is military.cps said didnt have to let father till finding,well court came they gace him to father because they my daughter ran with him.that cos said he was not crying out enough,hoiw much do you have to cry,its been 9 mns they want let us see the baby because he crys and beggs to come home,he says they are mean.the judge after hearing this baby scream and begg inb court the day she gave him to him,he screaming he hits me,the judge order me out of court room cause baby was beggindg me to get him and order father no corpeal punishment,mother got supervise visits,me nothing so you tewll me is court system fair,this baby was still crying the clast time i got to talk to him 5 mns ago,its like everyday is just as painful if not more like the they took him,he was my life,now i9 have nothing,he has a sister with cancer 1 yr younger that crys for her brother as she was in social isolation for most of her life so he was her only playmate,she will put on his clotrhes play with his toys and say bubba no go bye bye,she has maybe ayr to live that has to done wanting her brother,what is going to do to him when she dies because hes not here with her,they was so close.i cant afford a lawyer to fight father for access i not with the truth i could get him but i spent every dime i had on lawyers foer daughter and to buried my other grandson,god will one day send me a lawyer are help to get him back.i pray every day somedays i9t seems like hes not up there,i just hope that this babys make it hes not the next child that will die and system fell us,