and why or why not
2007-05-22 18:48:46 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
lol, no im not offering, im just want to know if you can, or would
2007-05-22 18:51:24 · update #1
I have. It's great. a consensual F-buddy is perfectly fine. I am married now and I have been faithful, but Caorlyn and I are still good friends.
2007-05-22 18:52:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, from personal experience I would say "NO!" More than likely (could work either way) the woman would start to feel emotional attachment to the guy. I don't think he would reciprocate because of the way it started..."friends with benefits", and that's all he's looking for. As the woman tries to get closer, he will become less available for her. She'll be hurt and he may feel like a heel to some degree and the friendship probably won't ever be the same. It could end up different, but I've seen it happen to others and it's happened to me. Not a good feeling!
2007-05-23 02:01:18 · answer #2 · answered by Carribe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, because it is your friend and after that it is going to feel weird when you guys talk or even the things you did together and what if you start having more than a friends feelings for him/her, what then? I would rather not do friends with benefits!!! It doesn't work for me
2007-05-23 01:57:10 · answer #3 · answered by lalla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have done it before and everytime someone always wants to enventually date and be a couple and not just have benefits. Either that happens or one person gets a bf/gf and the other still wants to see them and it's a big mess. So no, don't do it unless you have rules in advance.
2007-05-23 01:51:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have and it gets messy. You never remain friends because technically you're not dating and that means you can see other people. Then that leads to you thinking well why can't they just date me? You'll most likely lose a friendship or a whole group of friends because after feelings get tossed in, there is no turning back.
2007-05-23 01:58:27 · answer #5 · answered by Shayna S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, most definately. A friends/ w benefits is good because it helps you both. Just let there be an understanding in place, before it happens, that chances are it will not go any farther.
2007-05-23 01:52:59 · answer #6 · answered by pressman22001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya know, it depends on the friend. I went there twice. One a total wreck, the other, was good for about a year. Still friends but the benefits have expired, she went serious with a good guy. we don't talk about our history. I'd do it again depending on the friend.
2007-05-23 01:54:36 · answer #7 · answered by relono 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me personally, no. I would feel wrong. I wouldn't know how to treat them after and everytime I saw them. A few of my friends have friends with benefits and seem fine. But again me, I can't. Plus I'm married
2007-05-23 01:52:39 · answer #8 · answered by vidots 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't want any benefits from my friends. I don't like guys that way lol.
2007-05-23 01:54:34 · answer #9 · answered by Michael M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that. Unfortunatly, it never lasts. Someone always gets hurt. Someone always falls for the other one. But it is safer then going to the bar and doing a stranger!
2007-05-23 01:51:17 · answer #10 · answered by boit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋