Millions of people come on here daily looking for attention. I seek neither attention nor happy thoughts on why I shouldnt go through with an attempt. There are millions of other people who are in a worse position then I am. Im a healthy and good looking 23 year old guy with many aspirations, a little weirded out by the fact that Im still a virgin but Its all right, I dont mind that because Im so well with women. My life and dreams have always been there and I never knew how to chase them. To face I am a shell to the world, I smoked weed for the 1st time with my friend who is a psycologist and wound up crying for hours about bottled things. Im an emotional mess but I never demonstrate that to people. And Lately, this is what goes thru my mind. My Question is . . . Is there anyway to stop these thoughts or to better my attitude towards life?
2007-05-22 18:34:40 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I am an old man who attempted suicide when about 33. I think nearly everyone thinks about doing it when really depressed but doesn't. Little children don't think about it nor do they attempt it. I have never heard of a 5 year old commiting suicide. That ought to tell you something.
Little children, in general, have a very positive attitude toward life. That is because, for one thing, they love themselves and others. And in general they know they are loved. I just asked a question on love in Yahoo! answers and got an answer back, which I rated as best, which said that love was to her simply, "permission to live!" If you cease to love yourself you may cease to give yourself permission to live..The reason you cease to love yourself is mainly because you have given yourself the impression, right or wrong (usually wrong), that you are not loved; that you have been denied permission to live. I believe the only conscious being who can deny you permission to live is yourself and God. God does not do it so why should you do it?
Every night you go to sleep, which is a state of complete unconsciousness from which you have no power, on your own, to revive yourself from. But every morning you are revived! You are "dead to the world" but you rise again. Who awakens you? I think it is God! He has given you permission for another day!
The thought that someone who I didn't really know, loved me enough to give me daily permission to live, was one factor which convinced me to never again try to end my life on my own. That someone gave me someone to think about positively beside my negative thoughts about my own life. And since He does that for all humans there are many others, incuding women, who are someone deserving positive thinking about.
If you stop thinking about yourself in a negative way by thinking about others (including God) in a positive way your attitude will start to change to one of love, which is giving yourself and others permission to live. Get back into the state of mind you had as a five year old by knowing again you are loved and expanding your love for others
Good luck, good health, peace and love!
2007-05-22 19:37:51 · answer #1 · answered by Mad Mac 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey first off, you have your whole life ahead of you and if your still a virgin. No big deal. I was one until I was 19 years old and off to college I went. I wanted to wait until I was married. So if your down go see a therapist and if your depressed they can get you some medicine right away to start helping you feel better again. Maybe your a confused 23 year old and thats perfectly normal. Just think you have your life ahead of you. Theres tons of fish in the sea. Trust me. You would regret doing something awful. Life is what you make out of it. Have fun. So you tried some weed. Thats a drug thats a downer and it will bring you down. I would stay away from it; its whats causing you to think of bad thoughts. Keep strong and motivated. If your a good looking guy. Life will only bring what you make out of it. Go after what you really want. A girlfriend, a job, school. Theres a whole life out there.....
2007-05-23 01:47:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a virgin also, by choice, as a 21 yr old. I don't let my emotions out either, I havent' cried at my last two grandparents funerals or my favorite uncles... I have tried weed, but i didn't have a break down. I would say that you should do what makes you happy more often, in my case, it's feeling loved and appreciated, I like to have women want me and need to be around me. I'd get a girlfriend if I was you and give her things that make her happy, it will make you happy to do so. Also, have you found god? Go to church and become part of the community there, it is very fulfilling and makes you a healthier, more rounded person.. not to mention Chicks dig it.... lol, best of luck
2007-05-23 01:40:21 · answer #3 · answered by Michael M 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
get some help from family, friends, and/or a professional, preferably those who will not let you smoke weed. just mention what you wrote down here to the person you are closest to - parent(s), best friend, sibling, etc. - or whoever you will feel comfortable opening up to. you said you have many dreams and aspirations. the conversation may be as simple as asking some people on how you may direct your life closer to your goals.
2007-05-23 01:46:41 · answer #4 · answered by iceman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've tried suicide three times unsuccessfully. I went to a psychiatrist and found out that I was bi-polar and had clinical depression. She found the right drug combinations and I'm doing much better. I also thought of my family and friends and realized of how this would affect them. I didn't want to hurt my parents, children, grandchildren and best friend. I realized how they would question themselves if it had been their fault. We must consider others when we make a serious decision as suicide. There is nothing to be ashamed of to admit you need help with your problems.
2007-05-23 01:58:15 · answer #5 · answered by puddin 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop trying to be a stuffed shirt. Get out in the world and meet people. Find a few friends you can trust and talk to about your hang ups. Get laid.
2007-05-23 01:49:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You try to sound like a strong guy who doesn't need anyone but in real life: everyone needs someone. Don't feel ashamed that you do too. Life is not much if you have to spend it all alone without friends.
2007-05-23 01:47:13 · answer #7 · answered by sand 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound very depressed, depression sneaks up on you. You may think that your not, but trust me read up on it and see just how many of the questiond you say yes to. I didnt think I was But sure enough i answed yes to nearly everyone of the questions. Look it up and have a read, if you are unable to do that make an appointment with your doc and have a good talk to him/her let it all out. thats what they are there for......
2007-05-23 02:02:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
reach out!
talk to people!
seek professional help.
Trust me, you can overcome these thoughts.
don;t be embarassed about it.
Tell people!!!
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make a promise with someone, anyone, a doctor, a psychiatrist, a friend, a family member that before you do it you will let them know. Usually the thought of facing that person to tell them will be enough to deter you. . . .this is a clinical practice that REALLY helps!
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My thoughts and prayers are with you. I know you will find a way through this!
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sometimes people have chemical imbalances that can easily be treated
2007-05-23 01:38:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to the bed with ur Wife and tell her tht u want to sucide. the idea that she will give will be the most forcefull and effective way to do sucide.
2007-05-23 01:44:33 · answer #10 · answered by Lalu 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋