What should I do? I need him and love him and won't leave him. Help!!
2007-05-22 18:00:28 · 11 answers · asked by JuDyLicious 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
is this abortion for the best........... are you young? still have to finish school? Do you still have to live it up and do some partying? if you answered yes to any of these questions chances are it might be for the best
2007-05-23 06:25:15 · answer #1 · answered by bust15nutz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen. Here is what I have to say. I know what you are going through. I know. I can put me in your boyfriends place and my girlfriend in your place. We had the abortion. Do I regret it? Yes. We actually went to the clinic two times. The first time she didn't get the abortion; she didn't want to anymore. After that I acted like a total jerk and she went back three weeks later and got the abortion. The hardest part was that the first time I got a copy of the ultrasound which show a semi-recognizable baby.
What you need right now is sound judgment and some time to yourself. I realize that your boyfriend is a HUGE part of your life, but you have a child inside of you. It was very hard for me to grasp this idea. A person. And who knows, if you don't give this child a chance maybe someone will not be able to find their soul-mate, if you believe in such a thing, or their lover, for it will be in a surgical waste site somewhere.
I am not here to judge though. Let me just say one more thing. Me and my girlfriend are separated now and one of the major issues that always came up between us was this abortion. In my opinion, a relationship would be less stressed with a pregnancy than with an abortion. Emotionally, mentally, and even physically. If I could take it back I would in a tiny little heartbeat. And is this the same guy who punched you in the stomach when you were late? I think it's time you let go.
I just wish the baby had a grave, so I could go say sorry...
2007-05-23 01:34:12 · answer #2 · answered by satelliteboy123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems the Father of this child is NOT interested in being one at this time, yes, it IS your body, but it IS his child too. Please consider everyone involved, and make the best decision for EVERYONE, not just YOU. Abortion is not enjoyable, but there is very little risk with today's technology. It's much more humiliating than anything else, and very final. If you need and love this guy, ask that he be with you if you decide to do as he asks - that's only fair - then get some very reliable birth control and stick with it - good luck whatever you decide - this is a very emotional issue and a very difficult choice to make.
2007-05-23 01:52:35 · answer #3 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its your body he can't make you do anything!! If he wasn't ready to be a father you two should have been more careful! If you don't want an abortion no one can MAKE you get one! I would leave his as$ just for thinking about it. Obviously he doesn't care that much about you to put you through something like this. IT S YOUR CHOICE!!!! If you want the baby have it! I'm sorry for seeming b!tchy but that's just wrong of him! Remember your the once that is going to have to go through all the pain and agony of an abortion! and if you really want this baby its your decision!
2007-05-23 01:08:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you love somone that is wants you to kill your child? You would rather live with the guilt that you and your BF created out of a drunk night probably this innocent child and now want to abort it just because you realized that in the heat of the moment when CONDOMS (trojan girl) were the best solution and weren't obviouslly there is now the result of a baby. Here i am a 23 year old woman attempting over and over again to have a baby with my HUSBAND and can't...and here are you a woman with obviouslly no self respect for her or for the child she's carring asking a group of strangers to make the desision for you. Who made the desision for you when you decided to open your legs and have unprotected sex? I think you should answer your own question!...
2007-05-23 01:10:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well u need to think real seriously about this. talk to ur parents even.
u need to think can i support a baby?? if i have this baby what will happen?? can i have the baby and give it up for adoption rather??
u have 3options dear: abortion, adoption or keeping the baby. ur boyfriend cannot force u into anything u don't want, but if this was a mutual decision then i guess u have a tough road ahead of u.
2007-05-23 01:07:35 · answer #6 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right to take his opinion into consideration ...... but if you want to keep the child then you should. He is just your boyfriend, he is not dedicated to you like a husband should be. He can walk away any time he wants and you will be there alone if he does.
How does he feel about you? Does he need you, love you and will he not leave you? If you can't say that for sure .... keep the baby.
Shi
2007-05-23 02:28:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is so hard to imagine loving a person who does not value life at all. And I don't see any reason why he wants that abortion. But you don't have to follow him just becasue you need him. Your child needs you the most. Be an instrument of life ad your mother did you.Life is a gift!
2007-05-23 01:08:46 · answer #8 · answered by bagi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't have t get an abortion, its your choice, not his, its in YOU. you make the decision, adn if he's gonna leave you cuz you won't get an abortion then he doesn't really love you. its your choice you can put it up for adoption, care for it yourself, or if you want to abortion, your choice. but I think you should at least put it up for adoption if you don't want your child.
2007-05-23 01:04:19 · answer #9 · answered by sydy 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
having a baby is such a big responsibility do what is best for you. There are abortion pills if you are early enough.
2007-05-23 01:06:34 · answer #10 · answered by mariliz 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋