How many children?

Question

I have 2 children, which I love, but I still feel like I need another one. I really wanted a son, I have two daughters. I think this is the problem. I love my girls, but feel like somethings missing? My husband has told me he doesn't want anymore kids. How do I stop these feelings? I feel like I should be having children now, like I started too early. I'm 27 now. Some advice please!!!

Answer 1

I think, perhaps that you and your husband need to sit down and discuss the real reasons behind both your positions. Make a list detailing the pro's and con's (if it were) of actually bringing another child into the mix. That might be the first place to find compromise.

As a mother of two girls first, followed by a boy, I can assure you that it wasn't a miraculous change in our family balance. It was another beautiful baby that was a new part of our family, but not necessarily a missing link.

I would honestly try to dig deep into your relationship and how it has changed since becoming parents, because it might be a part of that you feel you are missing.
I wish you much luck in this adventure, and bless you and your two little girls.

Answer 2

I had 2 girls, 2 years apart, the first when I was 28. I wanted to try for a boy also. Things happened, I got very sick, became caregiver for my grandmother for 12 yrs. I never had a 3rd kid. I'm 44 now & my girls are 16 & 14 yrs old. I think it's too late to have another one now for sure (still possible) but I'm OK with only my 2 girls. I think about it from time to time. You still have plenty of time, but don't forget how fast time passes by! It went so fast for me, I loved every minute of it. Take lots of pictures & don't put off things you want to do together & don't be to serious, or impatient. Have as much fun as you can everyday! Love them with all your heart!!!!

Answer 3

The more important part to remember is can you afford another child. There is no point in having another if its going to take away things from your current two, plus the added financial burden could reak havock on your marriage. Weigh it all up and if you still feel this is a major need that you have the reapproach your hubby with all these answers then he may change his mind once you show him that this is something that you have thought through from every angle.
Good Luck

Answer 4

I want another child, too! My only problem is that I'm TOTALLY in love with my son and I fear losing my one-on-one time with him. I know it will happen and I'm afraid. :o( I'm 25 and I want all of my children before I'm 30. I'm thinking about trying to adopt though. There are so many children that need homes and our earth is so over populated. Anyways, another story for another time.

Good Luck!

Answer 5

You still have plenty of time to have children. Wait a couple of years and decided then if you still want another or two.

Answer 6

i heard they have new technology just like IVF where they can pick out the sex.
A customer of mine who is very wealthy had problems carrying kids, so she did that and was able to pick out exactly what she wanted. Maybe letting your husband know this can change his mind about having a son. But like i said, she was wealthy, so she can afford it, I hear its very expensive.

Answer 7

Jennifer S, that is one of the coolest, most insightful answers I've ever seen. If I could flag as Best Answer right now I would - but I can't seem to. Thank you.

Answer 8

Research has proven that the higher the education for the parents, the lower # of offspring they typically produce. So, stay smart...save a kid!

Answer 9

I'm sorry I don't have any advice, I just wanted to let you know you aren't alone. You just described me, although I just turned 28.

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