Yay, we're official... So now what???!!?

Question

I've been dating this guy for a few months but he lives almost an hour away. He drives down to see me a few times a week (I never drive my lazy butt to go see him). Anyways, last week he asked me to be his gf and I casually said sure. Now what happens? He doesn't feel like my bf until I'm with him. I never call him unless he calls me first. It is now Wednesday night and I haven't talked to him since Monday. Is that normal? Once a couple is "official" are there certain things or rules in the unwritten book of couples that I'm suppose to follow? I must be the worst gf ever haha

Answer 1

Congrats on becoming official!

Now as far as unwritten law goes, I only pay attention to the fact that it means you are off-limits to other guys and he's off-limits to other girls. Other than that you just kind of make it up as you go. Perhaps you should try calling him on your own, every once in a while.

Good Luck!

Answer 2

If you dont feel anything, ur not in love with him. Why even waste ur time? Before i go tmy bf, we were best friends for about four months, but we knew each other a little bit before that. Didnt you feel some kind of boyfriend attraction to him while u were just friends? If not then u dont like him in the way you are tryinf to act.

Answer 3

Sounds like he's pretty into you if he's the one doing all the driving, he's the one that asked you out, and he's the one who calls you. You don't sound so into him though. Either that or he's spoiling you with attention and I don't mean that in a good way. Doesn't sound like you have much communication, and I don't mean chatting on the phone, I mean about each other. You "should" want to talk to him if you accepted his offer of boyfriend-ism.

Yeah. You kinda sound like you could use some improvement on your dating skills.

Answer 4

U sound like U are 12. There are no rules to casual dating, most people do it. If you don't see each other much and you don't call him, that isn't dating. It won't last either. He'll be with someone else wherever he is. There is no "official" in dating, grow up.

Answer 5

I was in a situation like yours, it only lasted less than two weeks. I really didn't like him, he would never really call me either only when i did. Then on days i didn't call i wouldn't call. So i broke it off because it didn't feel like i was with him. no chemistry.

Answer 6

it sound like you are not really ready to be a couple, and that
'normal, it only been a couple of months so give it time but
if you really dont want to be with him like that then you need
to be honest with him and tell him how you feel. it would be
wrong to play games with his feeling. because trust me
you will not like that if it happen to you.

Answer 7

You sound as if he means very little to you
and that your word is as shallow as your
feelings for him. You don't go to see him
or call him first. Seems as if you're using
him to fill time until someone better comes
along.

Now you want rules of the game because
you are official, but you are unsure of what
official means. It lacks meaning to you.

You laughingly refer to yourself as the
worst gf ever. Hopefully he will realize
how little you value him or the relationship
and drop you soon. If you are unable to
be sincere, why bother with him?

"Official" is whatever it means to the
couple. It can mean having someone to
date, going steady, having sex, living with
each other, planning a future together,
engagement, or marriage. Mostly it's a
tag that implies some stage of continuity
of a meaningful relationship.

Answer 8

umm.. aren't u supposed to feel butterflies and stuff?? maybe you don't like him as much.. or the distance thing is keeping you from enjoying each other as much... why don't YOU call HIM for a change?

Answer 9

There isn't a rule book. Just do what makes you both happy.

Answer 10

You have to put some work into. it doesn't seem like you care for the guy. you have to at least call him.