Parents of Adult children....Empty Nest Syndrome...?

Question

I have 3 good kids, healthy, normal(for the most part LOL!)polite and respectful...BUT, they drive me nuts..with the lying, breaking things(of course no one knows who did it) not following through, fluctuating grades, eating EVERYthing in sight, not helping out with chores (they are assigned specific chores)bad hygiene ( the boys, if you dont SAY everyday, take bath/shower/brush you teeth)then to them it DOESNT have to be done.... but again, normal... I cannot imagine a life without having kids in it... My question, im sure many of you have experienced this, when they were all grown up, successful and independant, did you look back and wish you could do it again, or were you glad that you finally have your peace, freedom and a CLEAN home? just wondering. Any tips, suggestions antedotes will be appreciated.

Answer 1

With one child already moved out, and two more growing up, I must admit, I am looking forward to the time when they are grown up and on their own.

Then I will know that I did a good job and that it's now my time. With the oldest gone I now have a craft room/library. I can work on sewing, crafts, projects with the other kids and I have a place to leave it out so it can dry, whatever.

I hear these stories about empty nest syndrom and I don't get it. Maybe it's becase even though I'm a parent, I still have my interests and I balance them out. I have not lost myself in my children, nor do I live through my children.

I cherish them, teach them, help them, educate them, play with them, support them, etc. But I know that one day, my job will be done and I'm okay with that.

Answer 2

I love spending time with my kids and was a stay at home mom for 13 years. I loved being with them when they were growing up. They are both in college and have occasionally spent periods of time back in the house with us. However I also enjoy the time my husband and I have alone. Some women only define themselves as mothers. I have a life other than motherhood. I miss them when I don't see them for a while but all little birds must leave the nest.

Answer 3

It's strange, and if you are emotional like I am, it gets to you sometimes when it's quiet when they are grown and gone. Sometimes I smile and remember them chasing each other through the house, and fighting about who was watching what on tv, who was cheating playing board games, etc, and you actually miss it. But, the good part is, you finally get to do the things you used to wish you could do, and do it whenever you feel like it. Then comes the grandkids, and that's the even better part. I have 9 of them now, and I love it when they are all here and driving me crazy!!

Answer 4

My house wouldn't be complete without my kids driving me nuts. ALthough two have left the house, the other five are here and it feels so good to hear them run around the house, tearing things up. I know that without the love and guidance from us, our children could be somewhere else being misguided.

I don't really get the chance to miss my two older boys because they still come over after work and school to eat dinner and do laundry. It's a good feeling and I wouldn't trade it for anything in the world....

Answer 5

I'm not a parent. But I think my parents are happy I'm out of the house. They said I was a pretty good kid. I think they enjoy focusing on their goals and hobbies. The important thing is to make sure you don't lose yourself to your kids. Once they leave the nest you start back where you left off. Make new friends and update your lifestyle. I know my mom and dad miss me alot and I miss them. But when that happens we just visit or call each other.

Answer 6

i have two grown kids and two still at home teenagers i went through the empty nest thing with the oldest when he left but i still had kids at home but it didnt take very long to come out of it all the kids live very close and i have lots of grand babies i feel like there is no place like home my doors are always open