CPS showed up today at my house and interviewed me and my son and asked me to provide paperwork from doctors proving there is no signs of abuse.. "sigh" I knew she did this because I kicked her out of our house last week, and she did this for revenge. What should I do? I am a good mom to my 10 year old son and have never put a hand on him.... . I am on a green card and I am worried this stuff will mess up my opportunity to become a US citizen..And not only that, mess up my happy marriage and happy family life!.... Any advice will be greatly appreciated...
2007-05-22 16:17:17 · 20 answers · asked by sunflower 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Take the child to a doctor and have him write a note stating "there is no sign of physical or emotional abuse."
That's it!
Don't worry about the immigration status. That's not even the questions they ask, and when the case proves false, it will be null and void.
On the other hand, your daughter has some explaining to do and she may even be prosecutable if she knowingly filed a false report.
2007-05-22 16:22:16 · answer #1 · answered by tkquestion 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Calling child protective services is a very serious thing for your daughter to do. How do you know for sure that it was her? Here in Michigan we don't tell the person being investigated who turned them in. If you did nothing wrong, then your child can not be taken from you. It can be a very stressful time and you and your husband, and your son need to stand by each other and not let this destroy you. Its up to you on how to deal with your daughter from this moment on. Do you in turn file a complaint for false accusations or do you try to make amends. Only you and your hubby can decide that. & Good luck with that.
2007-05-22 16:26:28 · answer #2 · answered by mom_of_2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well the damage is already done and it can't be taken back unless you get your daughter to admit to them that she lied. Fat chance that is gonna happen cause they can bring up charges on her for it. All you can do is comply with the authorities and hope for the best. Tough love sucks cause the kids always hate you for it. Not much you can do there. At 20 years old she clearly needs to move out and start living on her own. Whatever you do don't let her move back in you need to be very firm on that. You also need to let her know that if she continues to cause trouble for you and your family that you won't ever speak to her again. She isn't going to understand now but hopefully she will in the future and you will be able to have a healthy relationship. Good Luck.
2007-05-22 16:23:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Amazing how they are 'on' you but others actually who do abuse get around CPS all the time. All you need to do is get a doctor to give your son a physical and turn it in its not that big a deal. Then you get a restraining order on your daughter, and make sure CPS knows that you know who called and why she called. You need to defend yourself against her she is being a very mean spirtied person.
2007-05-22 16:21:43 · answer #4 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter is being crazy- just don't lie to CPS and prove that you are indeed a good mom! Do whatever the CPS wants- Keep food and a clean house at all times, your daughter is vengeful and manipulative. Don't let her come back and one day she will learn how to respect, maybe even repent!! Pray that she will be safe and okay! That is all you can do!
2007-05-22 16:21:06 · answer #5 · answered by justagirl 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I know CPS has to investigate any allegations or accusations. They are required to look into any reports made. If you have not done anything, and your home seems stable, I'm sure it's nothing to worry about. They might interview your son alone but if he tells the truth, there is nothing to worry about.
2007-05-22 16:24:01 · answer #6 · answered by amyaz_98 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As long as your home interview went well, they will likely talk to your son alone... and then give you a call letting you know that the investigation is over, but the file will remain open. You should have nothing to worry about if this all goes well.
2007-05-22 16:21:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Use reverse psycology.Ask, if she was a mom "why would i kick her out of the house?" Certainly not because u wanted to but something she did. She should own up to herself and say " am i the daughter my mom would want" Hope this helps
2007-05-22 16:25:19 · answer #8 · answered by Run to the Hills 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this country you're innocent until proved guilty. They're assuming your guilt and telling you to prove your innocence. Bummer!
You have to choose:
Fight the matter on the above basis, demanding they provide the evidence or get off your porch.
Or, charm them, explain the "revenge" angle, and do whatever they demand.
Your choice.
2007-05-22 16:24:19 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be open, honest, and forthright with CPS and you should be just fine. The want to intervene only when a child is endangered. They won't care a bit about your card or anything else but the child.
2007-05-22 16:23:19 · answer #10 · answered by DelK 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋