Do u think it is rude when people keep talking about something which you don't have?

Question

there are some women in my company, always like talking about their families. babies or boyfriends. It was ok with me for first couple fo times, But soon I found out this issue seemed the only topic they wished to make. I mean no matter when where and whom, once they have a chance. hell, no, there came a conference for bunch of momies.
I don't judge them only if I don't hear them, But mostly the work tie us together, like we have a meeting with one of the people, and during the break they tell you what was new yesterday, the baby dropped her barbie, the baby learned a new song, the baby threw out.....etc, which bored me to death, but no place to run.
I don't criticise those parents and I know deeply they may be proud of their children, I just hope they go to someone who would like to share. not to the one who is single and not have a baby.
and one more thing they go too far, I just need them shut their mouth in front of guys when they focus about breastfeeding.

Answer 1

aww, come on. whats the big deal really, if it bothers you that much excuse yourself. maybe make a comment like "you know ladies i really don't have much to add to this so i will just excuse myself." and maybe they will get the hint that you really don't want to talk about kids with them.

p.s.
mommy's rule and i am probally one of the one's making you uncomfortable.
sorry.

Answer 2

People do tend to talk about the things that interest them the most. Consider it this way-you are there to make a living, not to be entertained. As long as the discussions aren't interfering with the job, you have no place to complain. As far as the breastfeeding talk-if it makes you uncomfortable, politely let them know, maybe "hey, ladies, that's TMI-save that for when I'm not here, OK?" After that, if they continue, that's called a hostile workplace and you have rights under anti-harassment laws. Other than that, there's just not alot you can do unless you want to try to turn the tables and start talking incessantly about things you like that bore them-e.g. working on cars, sports, belching, etc. Good luck.

Answer 3

Do you ever try to change the subject to something you like? You can't expect them to come up with topics you like if you never start about them, maybe they don't even realise you're not interested but they assume you're just shy in general, not taking part in the conversation no matter what would be discussed. Now if they always ignore your comments on other things, then they're being pretty inconsiderate...

Answer 4

No, I don't think it's rude. People like to talk about themselves and things that interest them. If no one brings up another topic, then why should they change the subject? There's nothing wrong with discussing breastfeeding either. As long as they're not discussing their nipples or things like that, I don't see how anyone should be offended. If someone had complained, that would be another issue entirely. The bottom line is, if you don't like the topic of conversation, come up with a different one.

Answer 5

I won't call it rude, it is just insensitivity. And they must be all singularly single-dimensional people if day in and day out they can't find something more interesting to talk about. Why don't YOU try to inject more variety in the conversations? Surely there must be some topics of common interest other than kids and breast feeding?

Answer 6

Actually, the way you describe them makes me think that they are very unhappy with their lives, and are trying to get someone, ANYONE, to validate them.

I avoid people like that as much as I can. Sadly, they do usually seem to be mothers that act that way (at least in my little corner of the world).

Answer 7

tell them how you feel. Try not to be rude, i know it's hard sometimes, but if they do not comply be rude....because then they are being rude if you have already expressed your feelings to them.