How mad would you be if your 16-17 year old daughter got pregnant to a guy that was almost 18 and was on a great carrer path and who was a great guy? Would you even be upset at all? Just a question.
2007-05-22 15:37:38 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
sell the kid to the circus that will teach her
2007-05-22 15:44:59 · answer #1 · answered by bubbarub 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I got pregnant when I was 16 years old. My mother was very upset at first...but she came around. I am now married to the man I got pregnant by. Granted, he was 22 at the time (and no I don't need anyone degrading me or my husband for that thanks) so he was a little more grown up and ready to settle down. We've been together for 4 years now and have a beautiful 2 (almost 3) year old daughter. He has a great job and I am able to stay home with my daughter. No I'm not the mother of a teenage girl who has become pregnant, but I've been there and I was lucky enough to have supportive parents and a great guy
2007-05-22 23:20:13 · answer #2 · answered by Arcangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey,
I'm 18 and have a son who's 4mths old.
I had a great job in which I lost because I was pregnant and I left his father at 12weeks pregnant and met a new guy who has taken my son on as his own.
My son's father was 20...
My new partner is 23 and a fantastic guy!
Don't be mad at your daughter...
Remember each child is a blessing and you never know why it has happened maybe she can't have kids in years to come, maybe she is destened for the wrong path in life soon if she doesn't have this baby.
Sure she is young and will have to grow up fast but I believe weather you 16 or 36 you have to grow up and be responsible!
Honestly if my son came home at 18 and said "Mum got my girlfriend pregnant but im going to be a stand up guy keep working hard for my child and keep loving my girlfriend and that baby" i'd be with him every single step!
If I was in the position and they needed a hand they could live with me until they were able to move out!
I support each and every child in this world and I'm sure your daughter would be hoping your arms will be wide open for her and full of love at this time in her life.
Please support her, sure accidents happen but they are the best accidents we could ever have!
Goodluck!
Cassie xxx
2007-05-22 23:54:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be kicking myself for not getting her birth control.
Would I be upset, yes for sure, having a baby puts all plans on hold for my daughter, and, great guy or not, a 17 year old boy is too young to settle down with a kid and it would interfere with his great plans. So either they have to work, or I would have to take care of their baby and pay for everything myself. If they have to work to pay for their baby, and they should, then school and careers will take a back seat to getting a job to pay for shoes and pediatrician visits. That's a lot to ask.
You can't just drop a baby and that's all there is you know, someone has to look after it 24/7 and pay for it too.
All that takes time and jobs and money and my daughter wouldn't have much left of her teen years as any teen mother can tell you.
2007-05-22 22:44:51 · answer #4 · answered by justa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be upset with her for getting pregnant, but I'd pull myself together and try to be a parent. What does it have to do with the guy? Are you saying I should feel better because he's "on the right path"? Really, he can't be that responsible if she's pregnant, and he's now put a huge burden on his "great career path". I would be worried about her future being compromised. I wouldn't feel better because he could take care of her (unlikely).
2007-05-22 22:40:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let's just say i wouldnt praise my daughter for being pregnant. Good career path or not, there still rather young. He doesnt have this career yet so who's to say he ever will? Plus your daughter is still in school. Are you perpared to have a drop-out as a daughter or be a nanny? These are all things to consider, along with some many others.
2007-05-22 23:08:13 · answer #6 · answered by LP's Mommy, RN 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would be a little disappointed because of her age, but **** happens, it really does. im actually 14 and had gotten pregnant but was forced to have an abortion because if i went threw the pregnancy the baby would eventually end up killing me and most likely not surviving labor, so i had to give it up. just explain to her, dont yell or scream or anything, have a heart to heart tlk with her. let her know how you feel personally and reassure her that your on her side. about the age of the guy, at least its not some 23 year old guy tht works at mcdonalds. if she has to be pregnant, just thank god that its someone who is on the right path and not some cracked out scrub that you cant stand. also have a tlk with the father, tell him that he needs to stick around this family and get a job if he doesnt already have one and learn to support that baby. tell him that your not mad, just explain to the both of them that they have had their funn and taken their irresponsibility a bit too far and now its time to grow up sooner than expected. its gunna be hell for awhile, but just make sure your daughter and her boyfriend understand that your on their side. just try to make the best of it. i wish you all the luck =]
god bless
shia dudley =]
2007-05-22 22:48:05 · answer #7 · answered by shia =] 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be very upset. No matter the how great the guy was or what a good career he had, that is way too young to make such a major life decision.No way do I think that a girl that age is ready to be a mother
2007-05-23 00:45:51 · answer #8 · answered by Troy & Cole's mommy in L.A. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so silly in love with my daughter (and with babies) that if she was happy about the baby, I'd probably be happy about the baby, after an adjustment period. Very sorry that she'd made such a serious commitment to a child so young, but probably not mad. If the guy was great, that's wonderful. If the guy wasn't great, I'd be there for her.
In the situation you're describing, I'd do everything I could to keep them both in school. Very important.
2007-05-22 22:44:51 · answer #9 · answered by Mother Amethyst 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Finding out my 17 year old daughter was pregnant did not upset me...it disappointed me. Parents have high hopes for their children. My husband on the other hand was pretty mad. He got over it eventually and our granddaughter is the apple of his eye. Anger passes....good luck to you.
2007-05-22 23:53:03 · answer #10 · answered by grams2faith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course I would be mad at first, it's a normal reaction. Unfortunately teenage pregnancy is a reality and how you deal with it going forward will likely define your relationship with your daughter during and after the pregnancy. If they decide to keep the baby you will want to make sure that you have a good supportive relationship with both of them so you can enjoy your beautiful new grandchild. Good luck!
2007-05-22 22:43:37 · answer #11 · answered by Christin B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋