I accepted my ex's "friend request" on facebook tonight even though I told him a couple of months ago that I didn't think we should email anymore because he told me he had gotten married. We have a long history together and even though we grew apart we still kept in touch over some years.
Part of the reason I told him I didn't think we should email each other anymore is because if I was his wife I wouldn't want him emailing me...the other part is because I admit I'm not truly over him and it wasn't doing me any good to hang on. So in this moment of weakness I accepted the friend request. NOW how to I get out of it without looking stupid? If I go in and delete it he'll know I accepted in the first place and will wonder what I'm doing. Should I just leave it but never send a message to him? What if he sends me a message?
I know I should have left well enough alone but I didn't. Now what?
2007-05-22 15:34:20 · 2 answers · asked by jenny s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, you should have left well enough alone but you're not stupid. Listen, love can't be turned on and off like a light switch so don't beat yourself up. The important thing is that you acknowledge your mistake and want to fix it. While it would probably be most convenient to ignore him, the mature thing to do would be to wait until he messages you and tell him that you have moved on with your life and that you are not comfortable with having a friendship of any kind with him. Apologize for accepting his friend request, wish him well in his marriage and let him go. Delete him and voila! problem solved. If he attempts to contact you beyond this point you can then ignore him without feeling guilty. Good luck.
2007-05-22 15:45:24 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already made your point across to him that you two are no longer lovers and are just friends. As long as he sticks to that as well as you do, then it is ok to email each other as long as you are not sending each other anything that can be construed as romantic, flirty or sexual in content.
On your part, you do not hint at anything that you are interested in him that way anymore. If he sends you flirty emails, then you simply tell him that he is married and save it for his wife. If he takes exception to it, then break off all contact with him.
At the same time, you can start getting over him by getting back into the dating game and further distance yourself from him.
2007-05-22 22:41:40 · answer #2 · answered by davester1970 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋