my cousin told me i'm really picky and yea i guess its true. i've had guys ask for my numbers and stuff but they're all..not so attractive. don't get me wrong, i've liked guys who weren't all that cute but their personalities made me like them but yet they never feel the same way.
just askin..im scared that my whole pickyness will leave me boyfriend-less :( im 16 yrs old btw.
im not trying to find the PERFECT guy because thats very hard. i just want someone who i am comfortable with and all. thats what im real picky about
2007-05-22 15:26:49 · 14 answers · asked by loon_wave 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you're picky with guys, you'll save yourself for a great one, and let all the jerks fall by the wayside. It sounds smart....to me at least. Don't worry about your cousin. And just 'cause you're 16 doesn't mean you have to be going steady with someone, or even dating anyone. If you're not comfortable about someone, whether it's because of their actions or their personality, DON'T DATE THEM. Do what your head tells you, because obviously in this case, it's doing a great job.
-By the way, I've younger than you. :-D
2007-05-22 15:32:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being picky is not a bad quality (especially for girls). There are so many guys out there that us women have to be careful with. You don't want to end up in a relationship that will make you unhappy. When I was 16 years old, my friends used to tell me that I was too picky and that I would never find a boyfriend. I really didn't care what they thought because I was more interested in enjoying my youth. Being 16 is a hard age to be...you want your independence from your parents and acceptance from your peers. My advice to you is to become friends with guys you think you would be very interested in. Get to know them. Date a guy that genuinely likes you for who you are. You are still young and I promise that you are not going to end up alone. Oh...and trust me..there is no such thing as a PERFECT guy, but you can get pretty darn close to it. Good luck!
2007-05-22 22:39:37 · answer #2 · answered by Fran 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your pickiness belies a lack of readiness to actually have a boyfriend. Work on forming friendships, but be open to something more. It usually happens when you least expect it.
You also sound like you have a little bit higher standards than the average teenager, but you are feeling pressure from your cousin to go somewhere you really aren't that interested in going just yet. Hang tight and have fun--
Oh to be 16 again!
Youth is wasted on the young! (I mean that in a good way)
2007-05-22 22:36:22 · answer #3 · answered by wildatheart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry, your not alone. Im 20, and ive never had a boyfriend. I guess im picky...i only want one guy...but hes gay so it will NEVER happen between us. So i mean im trying to find another, but no one seems to stand up to him in my mind. My advice is that you dont worry about it. If your only 16 you have your whole life ahead of you. Somone will come along and sweep you off your feet. High school is not the greatest place to find a guy if u ask me. Most are not mature enough, not that they arent smart ...just not ready for a relationship. It all takes time. Be patient, even if you dont want to or its hard. Just remeber you are not alone. Good luck to you!!
2007-05-22 22:39:11 · answer #4 · answered by cakeo123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u have a high expectation im not sayin that isnt good but no one out there is the PERFECT ONE for a person just loosen up and go with someone that has a nice personality and is faithful to you ur 16 right now u stil have plenty of time right now u need to use this time to explore the world have as much fun if ur boyfriendless now doesnt mean u are boy friend less FOREVER be independant for now and just wait
2007-05-22 22:34:20 · answer #5 · answered by MizDimpulz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you are looking for in a potential boyfriend. If you are looking for someone who is tall, dark, handsome, rich, etc, then you may be setting your standards a little too high. If you are keeping it reasonable like you state in your questions, then you will eventually get a boyfriend.
Another thing you may want to work on to make yourself attractive to others is to be a little more open a approachable. Smile more often. Socialize and flirt more. Most importantly, list everything you are looking for in a guy. Don't be afraid to try new things within reason. Date more with the attitude that it isn't serious unless you want it to be.
Makes sense?
2007-05-22 22:34:50 · answer #6 · answered by davester1970 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it's just normal to be 'picky'. Remember that you're definitely be affected by your choices, so why settle for someone you don't genuinely like just because you're afraid of being 'boyfriend-less'. Besides, you're still young, there are many things that will happen and many guys will come your way. Be yourself, love yourself, and someone will take notice of you.
I believe that it's better to be single than in a 'worthless relationship'.
2007-05-22 22:40:11 · answer #7 · answered by ces 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OOO I am the same way! I' It's so annoying because I talk to people and they're like "well maybe you're just not ready for a boyfriend" I'm all "Uhm OKAY NEXT." I know I am ready for a boyfriend, but the right one hasn't come along yet! Your in the same boat as me....just have to wait until someone does come along!
2007-05-22 22:33:40 · answer #8 · answered by LuvUrGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok im very picky with guys and have only had 1 bf but it didnt work out (we broke up within a week) so if u like someone just get to be ther friend and casually bring up the idea of going out ( as a casual conversation ) and if they like the idea, ask them out. so if someone asks u out and they arent attractive, say you wanna be ther friend and maybe u cna see if things will progress any farther. good luck!
2007-05-22 22:32:26 · answer #9 · answered by oMg, ItS mE! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u have to be picky @ times...bu then, u do not want to be alone.
U should work on u 1st..how can u like someone else and not be happy.
Also there is a SOMEONE out there for everyone...that is so true, take care and try not to stress on that too much...laterz and good luck
2007-05-22 22:32:16 · answer #10 · answered by itsa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋