My son has always been pretty good. Lately he has staerted whining all the time and will not do a thing I say. Just in time for summer. So I have to spend all summer with two kids- a 9 year old girl- and now a boy that's 5 and won't mind me. He has also started hitting his sister.
Anyway- I need tips!!! Please help.
2007-05-22 14:11:50 · 5 answers · asked by momof2 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I had a similar problem with my son when he turned 5.... I do think its partly the age.
For my son, I found the whining, fighting with his siblings, etc, occured because he was simply bored. I don't know if its all 5 year old boys, or what, but at that age, my son definitely gets bored if he's inside, not doing much, and in turn starts whining and picking on his siblings. For your son, if at all possible, get him busy for the summer - try a daycamp, swimming lessons, lots of outside time.... anything like that. My 5 year old can be entertained by me putting him outside with a hose, lol.
As for being disrespectful - definitely goes with the territory... for my son, we just really had to clamp down on him. Be very consistent with punishments and always following through. Its not always easy but it worked with my son. We also reinforce positive behavior with rewards and praise. Sounds simple but it works well. Good luck!!
2007-05-23 01:55:03 · answer #1 · answered by Mom 6 · 76⤊ 8⤋
I am dealing with the same thing. I have a son that is 5 and he has gotten in a bad habit of hitting his big bro (7 yrs.) and not wanting to clean up his own messes he has made when he plays. He also has started whining a lot but I have noticed that most of his whining was late in the afternoon and evening so I put naps back in his schedule. I let him sleep for about an hour then wake him up and he is in a lot better mood. As for the hitting, he has to go to time- out for 5 min. when he hits and if he does it again I start taking away privileges and If he still doesn't straighten up I put him to work doing chores around the house. By that point he decides that it is best to apologize and go play somewhere where his brother is not. Hope this is helpful. Good Luck.
2007-05-22 15:46:35 · answer #2 · answered by 3J&2A 3 · 14⤊ 1⤋
At his age consistancy is the answer! It is never ok for him to hit his sister even in play because he is unable to differentiate at this stage. Children whine because it gets a reaction. When he whines, you get irritated or you do what he wants quicker because you don't want to hear the whining and it clicks in his head "that worked!!!" this perpetuates the problem. Children (whether we want to believe it or not) thrive on standards whether it's trying to reach them, do better than them, or rebel against them. If you clearly set your standards for your son he will more than likely work hard to be who your require him to be because it's more rewarding when you're proud of him. Maybe he's whining and acting out to get the easiest kind of attention there is to get-negative.
2007-05-22 14:35:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 22⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your son is testing you. My daughter was just coming out of that phase at that age (she was terrible from 2-5) and I had to let her know that Mommy was a brick wall! If you make a threat of punishment...follow through with it! Rewards for good behavior work wonders too.
When mine was four or five we started a sticker chart for her and at the end of the week, depending on how many stickers she had earned, she got a treat.
Include six or seven good behaviors on the chart that he is currently having problems with. We wanted my daugher to ask to be excused from the table and so every time she asked (w/o being reminded and w/o a fit) she got a sticker in that square. She also threw fits in the bathtub so when she had a good bath, she got a sticker on her chart.
The hitting must be something that is 100% NOT tolerated. Whatever punishment/discipline you use for that one, make sure it is swift and consistent. One thing we did with my now nine-year-old-son was to have him do "wall sits". He stood with his back against the wall and squatted down about half-way, with his arms straight out infront of him. It was a very helpful deterrant.
2007-05-22 14:42:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 23⤊ 4⤋
That hasn't happened to us yet, (thankfully), but here is what I would do, I would give him rewards if he acts real well. (A new video game, a piece of candy, etc.).
2007-05-22 14:19:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 10⤊ 41⤋
DEAR MISS
PRETTY
PLEASE TRY SPANKING THEM ON THERE LITTLE
BOTTOMS IT WORKS WELL AND GETS THE JOB DONE
RIGHT TRUST THE SPEAR THE ROD AND SPOIL THE CHILD TOUCH IT WORK WONDERS JUST LIKE WHEN
YOUR CAR IS BROKEN AND IN THE CAR SHOP OK AND NEEDS FIXING UP OK
TAKE CARE
2007-05-22 21:20:26 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 30⤊ 42⤋