ok i just watched a show, i totally forgot the name, but it's an old show...these 4 old women, one of them thought that her husband was cheating on her and the 3 others knew for a fact that he was but they kept on saying no! burce is a saint! no! dont divorce! and i asked my mother and she said she would never leave her husband if he was cheating, she would jsut turn her head away and ignore the other woman. my friend [24]just got divorce because her husband had an affair. my mother evern told me if my husband [by the way i am not married, single here!] was cheating she would never tell me! i feel so hurt because i'm the only child thus the only girl, she said it would be her protecting me but how is she protecting me?? i felt so betrayed by her saying that to me!! i really did. why would she do such a thing to me? also is there a different view on adultery for young v. old people??? what she said really upset me! i am so pissed, i felt so betrayed!! i really cant get over that!
2007-05-22 13:45:35 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
i tihnk that as a mother, it's her right to inform me!! i am so sure that if i got an std from him, she would be like i am so sorry, i didnt see it like that and all that...i'm sorry but i am so upset at this even though i'm not married or anything like that but i feel very betrayed about he comment!! i dont think it was motherly!!
2007-05-22 13:47:21 · update #1
i pesonally think that a marriage can overcome certain stuff, the person can only take so much or only one thing...i'm sorry but that's my opinion
2007-05-22 13:57:27 · update #2
thank you lookin_for_my_thong_pa...
2007-05-22 14:00:25 · update #3
Having her Blood run though your veins must not mean enough to your mother.....She'd rather sit proud and save Face than to help you? WOW
2007-05-22 13:49:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
It certainly could be a generational thing. Women of my mother's generation (probably your grandmother's -- LOL!) were more likely to feel that this was just something they had to put up with.
You don't, though.
On the other hand, many marriages have recovered from an affair and become stronger and more fulfilling. Other people have open marriages, believing that a little on the side can keep a marriage from getting stale.
You would be right to be concerned about STD's though -- if you are ever with a person who cheats, your health should be of grave concern.
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2007-05-22 13:51:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact is a very high percentage of both men and women cheat. It is a fact of life many times it is just a spur of the moment taking advantage of an opportunity and doesn't effect how one feels about their spouse. In such cases to preserve their relationship with their spouse it is best to forget the incident ever happened. If your partner should find out continue to deny it if possible If not possible The both of you should fight to preserve your marriage and not lit the incident destroy your lives together. There are other cases where infidelity can not and should not be tolerated. Kisses BB
2007-05-22 13:59:45 · answer #3 · answered by Betty Boop Oop A Doop 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Aww I'm really sorry about that.
I personally don't believe in divorce either BUT the Bible says that divorce is not an option UNLESS it is a matter of being unfaithful.
Hopefully you never have to worry about that problem tho =)
2007-05-22 13:52:41 · answer #4 · answered by Miss 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Adultery is adultery no matter what the age. If your family and friends know you and know that you would want to know if something like that was going on, then they should respect your wishes and tell you if they ever found out about anything like this that affects you.
2007-05-22 13:51:31 · answer #5 · answered by God's Child 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the bible is clear on the subject of divorce...the ONLY reason GOD accepted for divorce was adultery. however, it was the spouses choice wether or not to try to forgive the guilty one and so preserve the marriage or not. my mother chosen to stay with her unbelieving husband, even though he has committed adultery. she loves him, plus she believes that GOD has given him to her for her trial, to strengthen and prepare her for HIS return. if she left him, there would just be some other trial to face, and at least she loves him.
it is hard for one who has never been married, like myself, to understand why anyone should choose to stay with a cheater, one who has destroyed your trust in the sacredness of the marriage and the cleaness of the marriage bed, as well as the trust that your spouse loves you...if they truly loved you why would they seek elsewhere? if i ever got married, it would be for life...but i dont know wether that included him cheating on me.
as far as your mother, i once heard a saying; the road to hell is paved with good intentions...we ALL do things for the best of reasons, as far as we can see or understand...and hindsight is 20/20 and almost always comes back to haunt us. forgive her, for she is doing only that which she believes is best, and she is doing it out of love for you. it doesnt make it right. but she doesnt know any better. and holding a grudge against her will only end up hurting you, and maybe her too. you wouldnt want a wedge between her and you and she die with out peace and love between you, would you...it isnt worth it...besides this, GOD says to forgive that HE might forgive you.
2007-05-22 14:24:52 · answer #6 · answered by Tammy M 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
deliver it on...I even have been instructed i glance youthful than i'm...i could purely worship somebody that tells it love it particularly is. could desire to you do this, Zorro? thank you and characteristic a large day!!
2016-12-11 17:40:05 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once upon a time, marriage was about more important things than giving someone control over your genitals.
Now, it seems, that's all that counts. I think it's called 'progress'.
CD
2007-05-22 13:53:34 · answer #8 · answered by Super Atheist 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Listen to your mother. She has valid reasons for not wanting to tell you.
I'm an old people.
2007-05-22 13:50:12 · answer #9 · answered by S K 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋