I want to be okay with being single. But some days I'm just not. I don't want a quick fix or another raggedy relationship. I want to learn more about being completely and solidly okay with just being by myself...even when I don't have a date or my phone isn't ringing off the hook.
2007-05-22 13:22:45 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
learn to love yurself first...
2007-05-22 13:28:54 · answer #1 · answered by coffee37man 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's easy to be lonely, but by doing things that you like to do, you don't dwell upon it. If you have a library nearby, go and borrow a book. If for no other reason than to have a conversation with someone. You can ask about the book, and see if someone has read it, and recommends it. Rent a movie, at a video store, ask about the movie, and what might be recommended in that genre. Obviously, if you are working, you have a chance to talk with others, and discover mutual interests. If you are religious, than a church function, could get you to meet people. If you can do some of these things, it may be difficult for you to reserve some time for yourself.
2007-05-22 20:52:01 · answer #2 · answered by Beau R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I guess you could try expanding your circle of friends. Maybe, have some single guy friends. And, try to get involved in some activities where you spend time with guys that you aren't really dating. Maybe get to know what they are about before dating.
Believe me. I'm married and I have lonely days too. It's just that there are people in the room with me. But, my needs are no more met than if I were alone. So, it may be part of the human condition to feel lonely sometimes.
On other days I'm not lonely.
2007-05-22 20:29:10 · answer #3 · answered by 354gr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do things that force you into situations where you're with groups of people. Sports, clubs, after-school activities... anything! The more time you spend with these people the less you'll feel lonely. It will build friendships and it will increase the chances of you getting a boyfriend. I'm single and I love it, I have lots of friends, and if I'm ever feeling like I wish I had a man to kiss... or do other things with there's always masturbation.
2007-05-22 20:30:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a class, learn a musical instrument, get a second job just for fun, like at a theater. Write a screenplay and send it to Hollywood, plant a garden, teach a dog how to play frisbee. Any one of those things can be done without another person in your life.
2007-05-22 20:28:17 · answer #5 · answered by Shepherd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recently lost my fiance of 7 yrs so i know what lonely is like.we have a 5 yr old son so i try to stay active as i can and it helps with the loneliness ...hanging out with friends that arent criticizing and are nothin but fun helps...whatever u can do to keep u goin and eventually bein by yourself will b ok..im getting used to it ..u will have ur good days and ur bad days...u just have to make life a challenge and dont let it beat u down.
2007-05-22 20:33:14 · answer #6 · answered by lil country gal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
loneliness is a hard thing to accept. We have been bought up to believe that we should have a partner in our lives and it is very hard to change that thought. Dont give up on the partner yet when your least expecting it ,that is when you get it. If it doesn't happen then I guess you have to put yourself out in the world in different groups or volunteering for something. At least you won't be as lonely.
2007-05-22 20:27:54 · answer #7 · answered by jeannie f 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be active do stuff you love for example if you love to run run more and if you want to cure loneliness then i sgugest you talk to your freinds more you'll come to find sometimes a friend is WAY better then a lover :)
2007-05-22 20:25:47 · answer #8 · answered by deathtrooper69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hobbies.. hanging out with friends...going to the movies to see action films... eating sugar stuff;ice cream, candy, etc. just not too much and dont become a candy-a-holic..lol... and probably watching comedies. get involved in activities to take up your free time.. and keep a book or something to read or do for the times when you have free time..
best wishes
hope this helps..
2007-05-22 20:29:32 · answer #9 · answered by Alex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are so lucky!!!! I am in my 40's.....my phone rings off the hook mostly from people WANTING something from me. Sweetie, it's OK to be alone. Enjoy it!! One of these days you are gonna be married with kids....neighbors.......in-laws......they will drive you CRAZY!!! Enjoy your freedom. You can do ANYTHING you want right now. Don't let life pass you by.
2007-05-22 20:33:16 · answer #10 · answered by how_bout 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
eat chocolate and hang out with friends ALOT. think of the bad things about having a guy. and PLUS if your not dating anyone, you dont have to impress guys. so just be yourself! and mix things up a bit!
2007-05-22 20:26:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋