I want to use the stork story as long as possible with my own son. However, I don't want to lose credibility with him by using it too long. At what point should you admit there are no magic storks that drop babies from the sky?
2007-05-22 13:01:44 · 18 answers · asked by Graciela, RIRS 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I'd go to a middle ground story. Going from the stork to "well mom and dad.." is a BIG jump. I'd wean them into it. Doesn't he notice the baby growing in your stomach? I'm very curious on how you got away with the stork story!
I said something along the lines of Mommy and Daddy loving each other and their wish came true and they got a baby... I'm currently pregnant and told each of my boys this when it came time for them to go from "the baby" to the "big brother." My oldest is now 9 and no longer really goes for the "Wish came true" concept. We told him the basics of the bird and the bees and made him promise not to say anything to the other two. He think it's gross and can't believe that's how babies come about. I think you should start explaining the whole situation once they get to be about 9, 10 maybe 11. That's when they start to stop believing in all these silly stories we tell them.
Best wishes and good luck! =]
2007-05-22 13:36:26 · answer #1 · answered by Sam 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I learned way too old at six, but i never believed in a ****ing magic stork. I kept asking till i got the answer. If you tell them a stork delivered them to you, they will think they are adopted. Also, they will think they are part stork and that they could fly. You really need to be a better parent than this.
2013-11-19 00:21:06 · answer #2 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was never told a story about a stork or a cabbage patch. I knew from the time I was 4-5, as early as I can remeber, that babies came from a mommy and that daddy helped put them there. Tell you son the truth now.
2007-05-22 20:08:19 · answer #3 · answered by parental unit 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When you feel they are ready and when they start asking more than just little curiosity questions. Because if they don't find out from you, they'll find out from their friends. My son, is eleven, he knows there are no storks, but he doesn't know all about the birds and the bees. He's not that curious yet! Although he's very into girls. I'll tell him when he gets to next level of asking more curious questions, why rush it, I like his innocence right now.
2007-05-22 21:59:54 · answer #4 · answered by sweetnsassy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ohmigod Do people actually still use the stork story. Gimme a break please please. As soon as it is brought up in school (health class) is the appropriate time to tell the truth.
What if... down the road he doesn't know the truth and he and friends are talking about it, because for example one of his friends mom's gonna have a baby. and he says to him"the magic stork is gonna bring your baby sister" His friends are gonna LAUGH at him
2007-05-22 22:41:48 · answer #5 · answered by morrigansstar 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, you don't need to tell the child anything until they ask.
THEN... keep it simple... don't over explain and don't waste time telling them the baby was brought by a stork. You can tell them lots of things that don't explain exactly what happens and aren't outright errors like the stork story is.
You can tell a child the baby is a gift from God.
You can tell a child when a mommy and daddy love each other, God brings them a child to raise.
You don't have to explain the sex act to answer young children.
2007-05-22 21:02:38 · answer #6 · answered by Nedra E 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Imagine the day your son realizes the fact that a fall of about one foot for a baby could be fatal, then remember what you told him about the stork dropping babies. Not going to last long let me tell you. Between the ages of ten and twelve is when he's going to start asking these kind of questions, if his little school friends haven't already told him the "answers" that is. For crying out loud, don't be too graphic as this may throw him for a big loop. Talk to your pediatrician for age-appropriate materials for him. After reading this over, then give it to him. Be ready for those oh so quick questions like, "what's a tampon used for?". Yes, my god-son asked this one of his mom one day right in the middle of the feminine hygiene products at the store. She asked me to field this one for her as she really got embarrassed by it. Being as his father isn't ever going to be in the picture again, I told him very carefully what it's used for and why. This of course lead to a lot more questions and a lot more answers. Finally satisfied with what he got, he went and played video games for a while. I on the other hand wanted a month's paid leave at a spa for THAT mental exercise let me tell you!
2007-05-22 20:42:15 · answer #7 · answered by mangamaniaciam 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
When they start asking serious questions that they can understand the answers to when explained. It really depends on when your child is mentally ready. If he's not buying the stork story,it may be time to start telling. I remember when my mom told me,I had already heard everything at school lol.
2007-05-22 20:07:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I tell my children the truth. I have 4 kids, so it's mighty hard to say a stork brings the baby when they can see it moving in my stomach. Or see other pregnant women or family members.
But,... I only answer the questions they ask. If they ask a question, they are old enough to know the answer, but I don't go into details until they ask for the details.
2007-05-22 20:32:50 · answer #9 · answered by wada670 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Its never too early, you just add facts as they grow older....... with girls getting pregnant at 9-10 now a days..... you have to be open with your kids at an earlier age....
I dont believe in using the STORK at all...... The baby is growing in your tummy, nothing wrong with them knowing that at a young age...... I knew at 5. So did my children, and so will the new baby.
2007-05-22 20:07:01 · answer #10 · answered by tammer 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋