my 12 year old brother is not complian?t at school and defiant at home, what do i do?

Question

i took his yugio cards and told him he could not watch stuff on youtube and get of the computer. so he put on some socks and left the house wtf? i never had a older brother, am i messing up as one?

i took the inititive to tell him that i would start checking his agenda. and told him i would be checking it on monday. at this moment i realize i forgot to check it till today. i think he worte in it monday? i wanna check but i dunno where he put it. im 19 by the way.

thanks guys some ppl pointed out its my parents job, my family dynamics is kinda strange, my dad works 9 to 6, my mom is a buddhist monk, and she is sick, wtf, i gave my parents so much ****, feel somewhat responsible for what behaviors my brother adopted, ignorance, and difiance

thanks guys some ppl pointed out its my parents job, my family dynamics is kinda strange, my dad works 9 to 6, my mom is a buddhist monk, and she is sick, wtf, i gave my parents so much ****, feel somewhat responsible for what behaviors my brother adopted, ignorance, and difiance

he have been gettin all F in reportcards last 2 semester, today ive called his teachers and left messages to set up parent teacher comfrense(a teacher suggested it on comment on report card) i wanna be the one to go meet, but if its a bad idea, how could i help me mom make the best of it

Answer 1

Let your parents be parents, you have the opportunity to be a friend. Talk to your brother and tell him that he can talk to you if he needs some help with school work or anything else he needs help with. Tell him you would like to help him before all his decisions impact his future, but that at the end, it will be his choice to allow you to help or to face the consequences of what he is doing now.

Don't judge, don't push, talk to him as a friend. You mentioned you made some mistakes... he'll have to make his own, just let him know he is (and will not be) alone.

Answer 2

You are his brother, not his parent. Bring it down a level, and just be a brother that thinks his 12 yr old pain in the butt younger bro is pretty cool. You may be surprised at how he suddenly looks up to you, or asks questions or advice.

Answer 3

first off \dont take his stuff, next dont butt into his buisness or his agenda he will think you are annoying might not ever look up to you or anything so be a little nicer then later on you will see that wut you have done by letting him do his own stuff has really paid off.

Answer 4

where are his parents?

it's not up to you to discipline your brother. let your parents know about the problems. and take care.

Answer 5

Why aren't your parents handling this? You're just a kid yourself.

Answer 6

teach him the realities of life.

Answer 7

lol, sad though, talk to him ask him if you hurthis feelings

Answer 8

well, youtube is NOT for kids. good job dude! ;)

Answer 9

you're kind of strict?