I was just wondering, because my future mother in law is basically wearing a mini wedding dress. It is white & strapless like mine.
2007-05-22 12:47:48 · 19 answers · asked by SUZANNA J 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Rest assured, as the younger woman, your beauty will outshine any attempt to upstage you. Smile knowing how many years she has on you! :)
2007-05-22 12:52:12 · answer #1 · answered by biffthepurplebear 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The rule of etiquette says that nobody but the bride should wear white. The mothers of the bride and groom are supposed to coordinate their colors. The mother of the bride picks first and then lets the mother of the groom know so they do not match. they also should avoid the color the wedding party is wearing so that they don't look like they are trying to be part of that as well. As for the mini dress it seems that your future husbands mother does not have the best taste anyway for this occasion and you will probably have other issues like this with her in the future. Everyone else will be aware of what a social faux pas she made so if it means not rocking the boat I would just know that you are the most beautiful person there, it is your day, and know that everyone else is talking about it behind her back.
2007-05-22 13:05:02 · answer #2 · answered by Ann B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its considered poor taste and poor manners for anyone but the bride to wear white to a wedding. When someone shows up in white at a wedding, its like she wants to be the bride or the center of attention. I would be a tad worried that your future mother in law is wearing white to her son's wedding. Actually, from the description of the dress, I would be a lot worried, it seems like she's having a hard time letting go, or living vicariously through your day. People are not supposed to wear white to the wedding because it is supposed to be the bride's day, and she is supposed to stand out in white. I would talk to your future mother in law, if you can, because I know it can be hard, and tell her that you're uncomfortable with her choice in attire. Good luck.
2007-05-22 18:16:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no rule, but there is an Etiquette, or appropriate behaviour. It seems to be far more important to brides in the USA than in the UK (well I won't get worked up or angry at anyone wearing white at my wedding, EVERYONE attending knows who's wedding it is). I guess if you are in any doubt then avoid it, but you know I have never been to a wedding and confused a guest for the bride, everyone's attention is focused on the couple.
2007-05-23 00:40:59 · answer #4 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like your future MIL is trying to upstage you. You should definitely sit her down, with her son, and explain to her that you really would LOVE it if she would choose another dress for YOUR special day. Tell her that you especially adore the tradition of only the bride wearing white on her wedding day. If she's a normally self-centered, self-important person, play it up that you know you're being silly (you're not), but it is really important to you as you've dreamed of this perfect day for so long.
If this doesn't work, and she still wears a dress that is not only inappropriate in color, but also makes her look like an old lady trying to look young (nothing is more pathetic), just be satisfied that everyone else there will know that she is being inappropriate and will pity her for her lack of understanding and class.
Also, unless the invitation specifically asks for it (and some do) it is ALWAYS inappropriate for women to wear black to a wedding as it denotes disapproval of the union, in which case, they shouldn't even attend.
2007-05-22 13:10:14 · answer #5 · answered by frankiquilts 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... it's not a rule that's written in a law book, but everyone knows that the whole point of the bride wearing a beautiful white dress is so that she stands out and all eyes are on her on her special day. It's common sense not to wear a white dress to a wedding... maybe you can tell you future husband to have a talk with his mother... unless your'e comfortable enough to do it yourself... if no one tells her anything I guess she won't know any better, and if you let it, it'll ruin your day..
Hope all works out for the best =]
2007-05-22 12:55:01 · answer #6 · answered by Nina 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
To be on the safe side, guests usually do not wear white because they do not want to "compete" with the bride. It is, after all, her day! I have read that since the bride usually wears white it is OK to wear ivory, though to err on the side of caution and in order to avoid glances and hushed whispers about the colour of your outfit, I would NOT wear a similar colour. Also, there are many brides out there who choose ivory for the colour of their gown. A friend of ours (my sister's and mine) recently got married and we attended her wedding. My sister had the same dilemma, where she really wanted to wear this white dress she brought but considered that it would be safer to wear a dress of a different colour from the bride's. Our friend's gown was ivory in colour and the dress my sister wanted to wear was white but it was seen as a mark of good etiquette for her to not wear a dress similar in colour to the bride's.
2007-05-22 13:20:24 · answer #7 · answered by mitzubishi4338 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually the bride is the only one wearing white. Some believe you can wear any color to a wedding except white.
2007-05-22 12:51:17 · answer #8 · answered by dptstdnt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
back in the "old days" the etiquette was only the bride was supposed to wear all white...now a days folks come in cocktail dresses and pants to a church!
once I saw a teenager at a church wedding wearing a outfit which stopped at her midriff
leaving her stomach exposed
lots of folks just don't know any better
IMO your mil just wants to strut her stuff that day by wearing a white mini dress.
ignore her please if you try and tell her that she shouldn't ....it will be the start of WW 3!!
2007-05-22 17:57:49 · answer #9 · answered by creole lady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one but the bride should wear white. It is rude and your soon to be mother in law is wrong for wearing it. It take a way from the bride.You sound like you are in for a bummpy ride. just for gigles i would watch monster in law. They do something like that .
Good luck
2007-05-22 14:11:56 · answer #10 · answered by movievixin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is one tradition that must remain. NO ONE BUT THE BRIDE WEARS white. Normally i'm all about doing what you want and not caring about tradition but if i got married and someone at my wedding was wearing white i would make sure that my Maid Of Honor "accidentally" spilled cranberry juice all over her. Fair warning.
2007-05-22 12:57:05 · answer #11 · answered by Monie Balonie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋