I think that if a child is left in the care of another adult and acts up, it should be brought to the parents attention, and they should handle it. I don't want anyone else disciplining my son.. what do you think?
2007-05-22 12:41:51 · 15 answers · asked by ... 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Me and the Lord. That's it.
2007-05-22 12:56:50 · answer #1 · answered by bossbiyatch1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My boys are older now, but if I trust the person enough to leave my children (when they were smaller) with that person then that person should discipline at that time. Waiting for a parent to come get there kid when something happened hours ago does no good. The kid got away with whatever....
Being I have one who is epileptic (and other health problems) I also had to have certified day care who had to have experience with such children, so this might be a little different then just dropping a kid off at any day care?? If someone even threatened to spank him (yes this is what used to happen), or discipline in any way back then he would go into convulsions, so I quit work to be home with him....
But whomever has to say no when whatever is happening not hours after.....then I feel the parent needs to back up whomever is watching the child. These days people know better then to physically touch a child, or I hope they do?
I also have horror stories of daycare with my oldest child.....
2007-05-22 12:54:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the age of the child. If my three year old does something naughty, it has to be addressed immediately, not wait two hours for mommy to come back. An older child can understand the correlation between the action and getting disciplined later, a younger one cannot. I have left my children with my mother and she has given them time out if needed, that doesn't bother me a bit, but she always tells me about it later. I, too, do not want my children to think that if I'm not around it's acceptable to misbehave since there won't be consequences, at least for a while.
2007-05-22 16:55:19 · answer #3 · answered by n2mama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me it depends largely on the situation... Generally I only want my immediate family members involved in discipling my children. But I have also told friends that if my children are acting up, they should feel free to set boundaries if I am not there. I do not want my kids thinking that they can get away with any misbehavior just because I am not there. If my kids are mistreating my friends then they should accept the consequences...Now of course the actual punishment is reserved for myself, my husband and their grandparents if the need should arise, and again..Only if I'm not there...
2007-05-22 12:55:38 · answer #4 · answered by All I Hear Is Blah Blah Blah... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually the parents. But I think its okay for close family members to, when you talk to them what the rules are for your child. (and your form of discipline) My brother puts the kids in a time out if they act up at his house for example.
2007-05-22 12:47:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your kid is acting up then who ever they are with should disapline then in some way, like a time out or something. But anything over that should be the parents duty.
2007-05-22 13:20:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's ok for family members to be able to say atleast SOMETHING...When i use to babysit my aunts two sons...the eldest was going through this phase where he use to bite his younger brother and spit on me...(i was 15 then) and well, because my aunt and uncle weren't going to be home 'til late....I had my cousin go to his room to sit and think about what he did. (he was 5) And after 10 minutes i went up to his room and told him how it hurt my feelings and how it's not nice to hurt his little brother and spit in my face.
I don't think i did anything wrong in that kind of situation...and i think it's ok then. If it's some random stranger off the streets who walks up to your son and tells him to settle down or be quiet...i just think that's rude and kind of creepy. lol Take care! Peace.
~ Vee
2007-05-22 12:50:50 · answer #7 · answered by xxchromedollxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband and myself, there older brothers can say no but cannot use time out without our permission, but no usually works fine, but to be fair to others we also do not leave our 2 youngest with anyone except us or there brothers, so the subject could not really come up, i mean if they are acting up the person who is caring for them would have to do something, i mean are you saying they should allow or ignore bad behavior, that doesn't seem right or fair
2007-05-22 12:58:23 · answer #8 · answered by melissa s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up to the parents to discipline their child. If you don't want anyone else disciplining your child- make it known. I agree with you.
2007-05-22 12:44:34 · answer #9 · answered by minalerie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Family only. Parents usually.
2007-05-22 12:44:20 · answer #10 · answered by Zachary A 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't leave your children with anyone else. If they are misbehaving and disrupting an environment such as daycare or school someone else has to intervene. Don't like it? Keep your kids with you
2007-05-22 12:50:03 · answer #11 · answered by TAT 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋