I have two beautiful step kids on of whom is in elementary school and I get stares, as if I was some child rapist psycho when I drop her off at school because we don't look the same. She works and I am the stay at home parent. Once my GF got a call from school about me because somebody reported me as a threat the first week I dropped picked her up because I was being all mushy and hugging her!
I ignore it all but that one phone call really made us furious at the school and we felt like transferring our daughter except for the fcat all her firends are there.
2007-05-22 11:53:35 · 8 answers · asked by windowtreatmentofdeath 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Some people just really need to stay out of other people's business. They stare at you because you don't look alike? That's ridiculous! I've seen many parents who don't look like their children! If I were you, I'd wait the next time I was stared at until my stepdaughter is in the school and then politely ask the other parent what they're staring at.
2007-05-22 12:02:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm a teacher, and I wouldn't have called about you hugging your daughter unless you were fondling her. That's what is wrong with our society today...when there is a case of rape or molestation, it takes FOREVER for the law to handle it appropriately; however, when a parent shows affection to their children, it's take WAY out of context.
If you were such a serious threat, don't you think the police would have been called? You aren't a registered sex offender, are you? If you aren't, then there shouldn't be any inferences to be made that you are some kind of creep.
If you are part of a small community, rumors usually generate in like...let's see...30 seconds! It would be in your best interest to nip this in the bud because these would be serious allegations that could lead to some serious complications within the community.
Firstly, I would call the Superintendent's office and ask for a meeting with the principal, your step-daughter's teacher, and the person who called from the school to speak with your girlfriend. Your girlfriend needs to be present as well.
2007-05-22 19:13:55 · answer #2 · answered by futureteacher0613 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it's time for a meet and greet with the school. Send a note or call and schedule a conference with the teacher(s) and principal.
Try to view it from the positive aspect that another parent, whoever cared enough to watch out for your step-daughter when they saw her with an adult that didn't 'look' like they belonged.
If possible, try to attend a PTA meeting or fundraiser just to get to know some of the parents.
2007-05-22 20:38:16 · answer #3 · answered by stressedmom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If another man posed a real threat to your stepkids, would you want the school to call your GF? They were doing their job--checking to make sure everything was ok. To let them know how much you love your sk, visit a little with the office staff, walk them into their classrooms to ask the teacher a question, chitchat with the other parents as you drop them off. The questions and small talk don't have to mean much--"could you tell me if there are any special events this month?" "getting here this early is a killer for me!", but it will help everyone else relax and recognize you as a loving presence in the kids' lives.
2007-05-22 19:08:52 · answer #4 · answered by Goingbananas 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Honestly, you have the right to be mad. Though it is the school's job to check on their students, being a loving father does not turn into a child molestor. Whoever reported you should have watched maybe some more and gone with their intuition and obviously theirs is pretty bad. Molestors are not very open about their behavior and a hug does not qualify you. So shrug it off and laugh at their stupidity.
2007-05-22 18:58:52 · answer #5 · answered by Okay.... 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would get a lawer and actually sue the school. The reason I say this is because. I think a message needs to be sent not only to the school but to everyone.
2007-05-25 12:55:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should go in sometime and introduce yourself, possibly with the child's mother, so that the school staff is clear on the situation and won't freak out again. It never hurts for them to know you.
2007-05-22 19:21:28 · answer #7 · answered by KC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Public school can really be a pain. I think that if you cleaned up a little, and went in together to have a heart to heart, maybe they will understand. Just let it be clear that you are concerned parents, who cares about the welfare of your children. If you continue to have problems, start going to the board meetings and the PTA. That should get their panties out a bunch. Best wishes!
2007-05-22 19:01:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋