I'm 17 and I'm dating a guy thats 19. Hes the most respectable guy Ive ever met and would do anything to make me happy. But my parents do all that they can to keep me from hanging out with him. Theyve made my curfew 8 for the whole summer and mine and his shifts are opposite so theyve blocked all chances to seeing each other. They say that theyre trying to keep me from doing anything that Ill regret but what they cant see is that Im growing up and I know how to avoid bad situations. How do I make them realize that Im growing up and that they cant keep putting all these restrictions on me or Ill just start to rebel?
2007-05-22 11:14:37 · 20 answers · asked by wit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes my parents have met him, theyve known him for 2 years. They say they like him they just dont know how Id handle certain decisions.
2007-05-22 11:25:27 · update #1
They're not right to put all of these restrictions on you, but granted they're right that you shouldn't be hanging around him. Or any other guy. Relationships just cost you money and time and potential heartbreak. Just like smoking - don't start it in the first place.
2007-05-22 11:18:26 · answer #1 · answered by aelius28 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Unfortunately you are a minor and he is an adult. The problem for him would be if you two were intimate and your parents found out. They could prosecute him for statutory rape. And he would then have to register as a sex offender. This label would stay with him for the rest of his life. It sounds like your parents aren't very accepting and this could be a reality. BUT.......
I would sit down with them and explain your feelings. Tell them past incidents where they put trust in you and you didn't let them down. Perhaps, even your boyfriend could talk to them with you and you all together could come up with guidelines for the relationship. Talk with them about everything from sex, to eating dinner....etc.
Have a plan and think of answers prior to the questions you know they will ask. Be open and honest....show them your maturity...rebelling will not get you any closer to your goal.
Be matter of fact...be an adult and show that you have thought this through...
WOW...good luck.
2007-05-22 18:29:37 · answer #2 · answered by 2beme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello. I'm a parent,and I'm surprised you haven't rebelled already.Your Seventeen for goodness sake. I expect your pretty knowledgeable about sex and dating,and drugs,and all those things that parents worry about. Eight pm is quite unreasonable. Your not a baby. Are your parents religious nuts or something?Maybe they are not sure of the guy? Is there not a Counsellor in your school,or college, or church, you can talk to? You need some adult helper to make your parents see your not a baby,and he's not a threat. Good Luck!
2007-05-22 18:24:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully you are only a few months away from 18.
When you are 18 you can move out and do what you want.
Unfortunately until then unless you can reason with them, there really isn't much you can do.
Maybe if you could say to your parents that if this is a mistake, then it is your mistake to make, not theirs...in the most respectful way possible.
2007-05-22 18:19:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should probably sit down and talk with them. It's not the easy way to take, but at least that way you'll get a reason other than they're trying to keep you from doing something you'll regret and then maybe that way you can argue with them and push your curfew back or something. Or at least have a little more piece of mind.
2007-05-22 18:18:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you told your parents how you feel? Start there and that will show them you are maturing. Tell them you are not sure where things are headed with this guy but you feel you can be in control. Ask him to come over to meet them or have a bbq if he is interested the more they see you trying to make attemps to be grown up and mature the better the chances are of them treating you the same way...and accepting you and his relationship.
2007-05-22 18:19:44 · answer #6 · answered by Don't make me beg!!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off... have your parents met this guy? If not I would suggest maybe inviting him over for your parents to meet. If they have maybe sitting down with your parents and trying to discuss ways that you might be able to see him that wouldnt enable you to do things that you may regret as they think. Maybe go out with a group of friends, dinner, or a moive.. Just some ideas. Hope they help.
2007-05-22 18:20:59 · answer #7 · answered by Kris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well seeing as how you are 17 and still living at home I think it is best you respect your parents wishes. They are your parents and they are only trying to do what is best. Maybe if you have your boyfriend over for diner or a night of family time so they can get to know him they might ease up on you a bit.
2007-05-22 18:18:43 · answer #8 · answered by Sara K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
O crap! almost the same thing happened to me when I was young. It was then that I found out the woman who gave birth to me was a complete whore and a huge liar...the dude was my half brother. Thank God we never kissed or anything. Maybe he is your brother...even if he's not you should ask your folks that just for harassing you so much about it. You deserve the laugh you'll get from doing this.
2007-05-22 18:20:29 · answer #9 · answered by AuntTater 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well then rebel. Come home later, but be a good behaved daughter to them too. The only reason they are doing this is to protect you. Your almost an adult and they are trying to keep you a child.
2007-05-22 18:19:21 · answer #10 · answered by jettabrat8 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋