are we just making more and more excuses for naughty; bratty kids?

Question

every brattish kid i see has ADD or is hyper or the parents have some technical excuse for the lack of discipline...

Answer 1

Yes, parents don't seem to be interested in disciplining their kids anymore....It's always somebody else's fault--the teacher, other kids,etc...Parents are absolutely horrified at anyone else's attempts to discipline their kids, and they think the rest of the world is obligated to put up with their bratty kid's behavior...It's just unbelievable...I don't know what happened....

Answer 2

Throughout my lifetime I have met 12 people (10 of them were children and 2 of them were adults.) whom had been "diagnosed" with Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) or Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD). Based on what I know about these disorders and what I have witnessed in those whom I know have been diagnoised with it, I have no doubt that these conditions are very real.

This is in regards to your statment about "naughty, bratty kids"; Children with ADD and ADHD have difficulty with learning and consentrating and sometimes they can be a bit disruptive, but one thing they are NOT is naughty, bratty kids!

Still, I must admit; I have also met a fair share of outright naughty, bratty kids. Let's face it though; there is no need for technical terms when it comes to explaining the real cause of inappropriate behavior in children; ie. neglectful or abusive parents (Perhaps this is why parents of naughty, bratty kids come up with so many "technical" excuses.

Answer 3

You know, I hate how so many kids are being diagnosed with ADD/ADHD when its obvious that some good parenting would solve a lot of issues. With that said, the reason that it bothers me so much is that I am ADHD and I have 2 children who are ADHD and one who is ADD. They are all 3 very well mannered and well behaved, they help out around the house, and are very loving and caring. They are 10, 7 and almost 3 and not one of them would think of behaving like half the children you see today and they arent medicated either. We use relaxation techniques and other natural ways of keeping control. We still have our moments when the house gets wild but nothing like the things you see in your local Walmart every day. I would be mortified if they acted that way and my children know this and know that I will not put up with it and it is that simple.

Answer 4

I think alot of parents try to make excuses for their children without realizing how bad it makes them look. My son has ADHD and he knows I would NEVER tolerate him acting up. I tell him if he can't pay attention, ask for a small break to refocus. We all have bad days but acting like you have no home schooling is just not acceptable. I think parents are lazy and let tvs do too much of the babysitting. Alot of what these kids see on tv is being acted out and then the parents, who pay no attention whatsoever to what their child watches, wonders why or where this behavior is coming from. Until the parents get off of their asses and do what should be done, they will continue to make these excuses. Thank God I'm not a lazy parent because my kid has ADHD but he also has manners and compassion

Answer 5

Kids will be kids. Sometimes they are not well-behaved, have short attention spans, and are excessively needy. The occasional parent might actually use it as an excuse to avoid having to give them the proper supervision, attention, and guidance; but most of them probably really do believe there is something wrong with their child--they just don't quite get yet that parenting is hard, kids are high-maintenence, and we can't have the same expectations of them that we have of adults.
But ADD does exist and there are kids who really do have serious problems.
I think the solution really rests with doctors--they should be better trained to diagnose ADD, not overprescribe medication/give it to those who don't have it, and help counsel new or overwhelmed parents.

Answer 6

Yes, I do beleive this is true. Another excuse that comes to mind is the parent that says that they don't want to "curb their child's energy". I recently had a 40th B-Day party for my husband. I absolutly could not beleive how horrible the children that attended were, the parents never even looked up. I had 3 boys running through my house, opening the back screen - running screaming through the house, down the stairs and out the front door, leaving the back door wide open. First off, this was an outdoor party and 2nd, I have 3 indoor cats. I asked these children 3 times to please stop running through the house and when they did enter the house to please close the back door. I made sure that I asked very nicely in front of the parents, thinking that maybe the parents would take a stand. Nooo, of course not, by the 3rd time, I cornered them in the house and said that's in, none of you are allowed in the house again. If you need to use the washroom, get one of your parents to bring you in. I thought it was wrong that I had to do this myself, shouldn't the parents have done it?

Answer 7

ADD/ADHD are legit reasons, but once treated and treated properly then there is no excuse except and I hate to say it because not bad parenting, just not parenting as that particular child needs. I am a mom of 3 boys, ADD/ADHD, Autistic. It takes a lot to treat these children but even more energy, time, disclipine to parent once they are treated properly.

Not only ADD/ADHD kids are like this but others as well. For the rest of the population I am sorry to say but parenting is a full time job, an exhausting job, a wonderful job. Just like any other job, you have to work at it.

I think there is no reason for a "brat" or a ""bully"

Answer 8

although I think that sometimes there is an actual medical reason for bad behavior, I find that these cases are rare and all of the terminology you speak of is entirely over diagnosed. While every parent wants to believe that they are good parents and that they have good children......and that there must be a "good reason" for his/her bad behavior.....there is a good reason!!! You have to be consistent....! if it is no....it is always no.....young children do not understand if you are wishy-washy.......We allow our children to make choices at entirely too young of age ....as they have no experience in which to make an informed decision with yet by doing so we teach them independence at much to young of age.....but you want then to listen to you??? not gonna happen when you allow a 2 or 3 yr. old to have choices.......You must step up and be the parent not the friend.....and upon doing so if you still have these problems try a properly applied hand to the "ass" not the face! not the back but the buttocks!(Note: I said hand...not a weapon such as a stick,a belt or anything else you can pick up..only your hand!!) if these things don't work now you can feel comfortable with the diagnosis! There is no such thing as a bad children only bad parents.....!!!

Answer 9

You may not be seeing the whole picture.

My daughter had ADHD and a 'touch' of autism called 'Asperger's Syndrome.' I educated myself and refused medication for her; I never even told her about it! She found out by being diagnosed separately as an adult.

However, I also raised her more by example than by setting rules; did more organizing and groundwork than barking orders. She thrived just fine. To authoritarian types, it looked like I wasn't disciplining her, but even my in-laws had to admit at her sixteenth birthday party that she'd turned into a fine, well-behaved young lady.

She's now an Ivy-League graduate in biology and a second year med student, so I can safely say that the difficulties caused by having to 'work around' these children eventually pay off.

Answer 10

I think that there are legitimate problems with a few kids, but most of the time, there is a lack of rules, consistency, discipline, and attention in that child's home. Kids crave boundaries, and when there are none enforced, they go wild. We are making too many excuses for ourselves not to do what's right even when it's hard to do.