My ex boyfriend broke up with me 2 weeks ago, he said becuase he has to many problems to deal with at the moment and he doesn't want to deal with worrying that i'll cheat on him becuase he says a lot of guys hit on me and flirt with me, and after all these problems calm down we can go back out, but the thing is nothing between us has changed he still calls me after work or after he gets home being with his friends and before we hang up he says i love you and when were together just hanging out he always sits with me but the thing that changed is he won't hold my hand or let me even give him a kiss on the cheek. I have no idea whats going on between us or f he really even wants to go back out with me.
2007-05-22 09:31:12 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Before we broke up we were going out for almost 2 months, the only reason he thinks i'll cheat on him is my past relatioships he knew i did it once BUT that was 3 years ago and i haven't done it since and i regret the cheating. and yes i love him.
2007-05-22 10:28:40 · update #1
Sounds like he does not know what he's got till it's gone.
Tell you what.
If he wants to treat you like a friend, then treat him like one too.
Stop going over his house and when he calls tell him that you'll have to get back to him even if you do not have anything to do.
He will see what he is missing out on and come around.
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2007-05-22 10:28:25 · answer #1 · answered by jetski 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there still is something there. After any relationship you still have that connection you had during it. It takes a while for all the feelings to go away. If you guys had been dating for a long time, then you probably built a very good relationship. It also sounds like he doesn't want the stress of a relationship, but he still wants the attention, or at least some of it. You guys were friends and you still are. Plus two weeks really isn't that long. Wait a while, then see if things change. If they don't ask him how he feels about you two.
2007-05-22 09:37:08 · answer #2 · answered by Lizzy M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he does either, he sounds confused.
He may be trying to tell you something and can't get round to saying it, or maybe he really does have problems that he can't work out at the moment.
Either way, its up to you how you deal with him. Try giving him some space for a few days, go and hang out with your own friends and don't call him for a few days. If he gets back in touch, take it from there, otherwise you'll know where you stand.
2007-05-22 09:36:41 · answer #3 · answered by gary_j_hay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-05-22 15:07:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to make a new plan Stan, Dropp off the key Lee and get yourself free.
I smell a rat. Listen a man with problems, one of the last things he does or wants to do is break off with a Princess like you. Move on and leave the headgames behind. All the signs are there GET OUT!!!!!
2007-05-22 09:40:52 · answer #5 · answered by JOHN 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From lovers to good friends.Its really difficult to survive in this particular changeover. But its good and great that you want him back.Let that not bother you much and be steadfast in your freindship.I appreciate your love as well as your sincerity.He needs a good friend hence keeps in touch with you lest he my lose you.Just be with him he will realize what an asset you are.If you really want him you should have tonnes of patience lots of empathy show lots of care and maturity and in no way create any kind of problem to him from your side.
I am sure one day he will hold your hand and kiss you. Be brave because LOVE KNOWS ONLY TO WIN
2007-05-30 01:08:42 · answer #6 · answered by bnsrrinivasan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds classically like my ex. Let me tell you what it was. HE was cheating on me.... His "problem" was that he liked both of us women and was getting something different from both of us. He didn't want to let me go completely and he loved my attention and our conversations and friendship.
His staying in touch with me and putting physical limits on our relationship was his way of not feeling guilty about sleeping with the other woman, but he still wanted all the other benefits of a relationship with me.
*** Hole!!! Don't even give him the time of day. He doesn't get to have it both ways....Using both of you. Cut him off.
2007-05-30 09:00:06 · answer #7 · answered by allthat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been in the same situation.it seems 2 me that ur ex bf is confused n duznt kno wut he wants.if hes having problems then he shud want u there 2 help him out n stand by his side.maybe he jus needs a break.how long have u been going out? maybe he jus needs time to himself. u shud ask him wut is really bothering him. if this duznt work then maybe he wants 2 be with u n wants things 2 still work out but the only thing he duznt want is the commitment, u kno the no strings attached guarentee. he obviously still loves u but tell him that hes really confusing u.
2007-05-22 09:42:43 · answer #8 · answered by tiny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he have a reason to believe that you would cheat on him? Maybe he has a guilty conscious about cheating... Generally if people are freaking out cheating its because they are... Just something to think about. If all else fails Ug it up baby........
2007-05-22 09:45:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maby he just needed a break, i think that in this case if you show him that you'll respect his decision he will want to get back together eventually, but even if he doesnt, you should be glad that he still wants to hang out with you and be your friend instead of just severing all ties
2007-05-30 07:57:04 · answer #10 · answered by A Guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋