I told mine that they don't have to have toys, tvs, etc. in their rooms and if they can't keep their rooms clean they won't have these things until they can keep it clean. We are about to move to a new house w/new carpet, paint, everything and I don't want it ruined. They are pigs.
2007-05-22 09:23:24 · 12 answers · asked by kyeann 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
They are 4, 7, and 11.
2007-05-22 09:23:47 · update #1
By the way, the tv's aren't for watching tv on, as we do not have cable, but for video games and watching dvd's.
2007-05-22 09:30:09 · update #2
ok they are not pigs, but they are slobs.
2007-05-22 09:32:53 · update #3
I wouldn't throw their things away, but I would pack them up in the garage and make them earn them back one by one by having a clean room.
2007-05-22 09:40:26 · update #4
if they can't respect their things then they don't deserve to have them. all that stuff is a privilege not a right. one option: if they keep their room clean for a week give them one item back, the next week another item and so on. but, if their room gets messy again take back all the items. just keep starting over until they get it. teach them they have to earn things so they'll respect those things more, before they turn into messy adults and are set in their ways.
2007-05-22 09:36:50 · answer #1 · answered by christina m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This works for my two boys, 8yrs & 5yrs, who share a room, but not for our 10yr old girl. She has an "I don't care" attitude about it. We finally took her door off because she would just go sit in her room for hours and not clean. She was just hiding out. We found that not letting her hang out with friends or do activities worked better. We also have a rule that there are no play dates or sleep overs, at our house or anyone else's unless the room is clean. We don't allow tv's or gaming systems in the rooms so that has never been an issue. Now if I could only get them to stop dumping stuff in the living room, life would be great.
2007-05-22 10:23:17 · answer #2 · answered by Myriah_Tx2Oh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good job! You can even take away their door if things get bad enough...or if they slam the door.
Any sort of discipline like this is good as long as it's fair and consistent. Of course your 4yr old will need a little extra help from the siblings but they all can manage. It will also help prepare them for adult life in teaching them actions and consequences.
My hat is off to you...good job...too many kids nowadays don't have parents...they have adults trying to buy affection or to be their friend...that doesn't work. Kids need to be taught these lessons at an early age and they will be better adjusted and happier adults later. They'll even be happier kids when they see that you mean it and are serious about it...as I said, keep it fair and consistent, and reward every now and then...and they'll be OK.
2007-05-22 09:35:10 · answer #3 · answered by VodkaTonic 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, I have two children that are now 15 and 11. They were messy and lived in a pigsty. I took EVERYTHING out of their room, TV (DVD'S and VHS), toys, video game system. Left ONLY clothes hanging in the closet, clothes in the dressers, their beds and bedding! I did not ask them more than once to clean after that. I told them pick it up, if they chose not to and had to say something again that meant to me that they did not want it and it was given away!
2007-05-22 09:31:39 · answer #4 · answered by PSYCHO DAISY MAE 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ive done this before my daughter refused to clean her room refused to find her shoes and i just got soo tired of it one day and i told her if you dont get in there and find your shoes im going to throw all your toys away...shes 4 by the way...and she leaned over and goes i dont care..so i grabbed 6 trash sacks loaded them all up she was just standing there and i threw them all in the dumpster!!! She didnt even cry she just kept saying you missed one you missed one...anyways her room is al ot cleaner now and she also always cleans it lol cause theres not hardly anything left in there !
2007-05-22 09:34:57 · answer #5 · answered by cutenwild1769 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes..if they can't respect it and take care of it..they don't need it....it just a lesson in life.
BUT....If you don't teach them properly on how to care or clean the way you want it..then you can't expect them to do it either. Maybe you are setting your expectations too high and they don't know what you want.
2007-05-22 09:32:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely!!! We occasionally permanently take a toy away to emphasize the point.
Shouldn't have a TV in there anyway.
2007-05-22 09:28:48 · answer #7 · answered by WhydoIdothis 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
go it for they have to learn to keep things nice, if u dont do it they will never learn, its all about respect, but if u threaten to do it u must carry that threat out or they will always walk all over u.
good luck with the move and the idea.
2007-05-22 09:31:17 · answer #8 · answered by babybaby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't have kids so i haven't ever done this with my kids...but my parents did it to me...and it made me keep my room alot cleaner...they would treaten to take away my car or phone...things that i thought i couldn't live without...lol
2007-05-22 09:30:01 · answer #9 · answered by carolyn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good plan
2007-05-22 09:27:48 · answer #10 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋