2007-05-22 09:06:52 · 37 answers · asked by Simply Me© 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
After should be the answer or at least what you should say.
Thats the only way you know your not being used for sex. If they hang around waiting then you got a good one. If there isn`t that commitment to marriage your being used until the day he pulls the "get out free" escape card.
You can always check him out the weekend before the wedding. Many do and its always a hot passionate weekend that continues through the honey moon. He has been waiting a year for it.
Glad you asked
2007-05-22 09:12:55 · answer #1 · answered by Gone Rogue 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sex is a beautiful thing shared by two people who love eachother. If you love that persona nd you trust eachother very much and you know that they will not use you for anything at all and that they'll respect you then it wouldnt really be a bad thing at all. After marriage is the same thing pretty. But just remember that it shouldn't become a symbol of your relationship. That is not like the only thing that you want to do with eachother, you should have a lot more coming out of a relationship than just having sex.
2007-05-22 09:12:18 · answer #2 · answered by BBallplyr255 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think this is a really personal question for everyone and everyone's answers are going to be different.
For me I dated lots of guys before I got married, because I thought they were the one, I protected myself and had the guys protect themselves also.
But when you are going out and meeting guys and they are attractive, and you think that you can date them for a long time, and you do not know where the relationship is going, and you are living in the moment and having fun and enjoying the two of you, then for me I just went with my heart!
Getting dumped after that was hard because of my first time, but after getting dumped time and time again, it made me learn a life lesson, and become stronger for who I am, and made me feel stronger about not being so easy for them.
Then I did not have sex until I met my husband of fifteen years. I just wanted to make really sure!
2007-05-22 09:16:02 · answer #3 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's what's best for the couple. If they want to wait, then they should.
I didn't wait and I'm glad I didn't. What if I would have married someone who was inadequate in bed? Maybe for some that would be ok, but sex is an important part of my life and I'm glad my husband is exactly what I need!
You test drive a car, right? :)
2007-05-22 09:10:43 · answer #4 · answered by Drew 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before - I have had relationships that were great, but the sex wasn't. you get to where you sex is a chore and it starts to take it's toll on the relationship, because she starts to feel insecure that you don't want to be with her, or she thinks you are sleeping with someone else.
Plus If you marry a virgin, there will always be in the back of her mind, wondering what it would be like with someone else.
If you are lousy in bed, then you would want a virgin, because she wouldn't know any better.
But if you are good then you want her to have experience, because she will know that you can satisfy her.
Personally I want someone who knows what she's doing.
2007-05-22 09:25:23 · answer #5 · answered by Casual Cool 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
AFTER, I'm trying to wait until I get married to have sex. I just feel like I will enjoy it more because I am completely in love. It would be the ultimate gift to my husband.
2007-05-22 09:11:11 · answer #6 · answered by Calista 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's a personal decision...i don't think there's a right or a wrong way to go. for me, i would say before as well as after. i think that in your late teens/twenties you are at the prime of your life...why waste all those opportunities to be with great lovers? but i have a lot of respect for people who wait. i just don't like those who oppose their views (either way) on others
2007-05-22 09:15:31 · answer #7 · answered by xangel123x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before. Because you may not enjoy each other sexually OR you may be disappointed with your partner OR he may have unusual inclinations that you wouldnt know about if you waited for marriage (like s&m or bondage :)
Some sexual experience is a good thing. Its fun, too.
2007-05-22 09:12:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not many people wait these days, but I definately don't think that is a bad thing. I personally wouldn't wait. If a guy sucks in bed or has a small dingaling...I want to know BEFORE I marry them!!
2007-05-22 09:12:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Before, and lots of it. I would NOT marry anyone I wasn't sure was compatable in bed...bed is where it happens. If I married a cold fish, trust me, there would be a divorce in the near future. Considering the cost of divorce, no way, Jose.
2007-05-22 09:11:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋