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I am recently marred and i was a virgin. I asked my husband how i could spice things up and he asked me to learn how to (m@sterbate) there's just one problem. ON A SERIOUS NOTE..I dont know how..What are some pointers what do guys like? I'd hate to loose my husband or for him to find a sexier sex life somewhere else cause of this.. Thanks for your SERIOUS answers..

Answer 1

Yes I don't think I know one man who doesn't LOVE watchinga girl masterbate.

Now it doesn't matter that you are a virgin you don't looes that by materbaiting and I Think personally every girl SHOULD masterbate to get to know what they like and I can promise that ultamitly you will know how to please yourself the best.

You can do it both ways, you can start compleatly naked and just go for it or you can add stripping as half the fun.

You can use you fingers or a toy or both (both is amazing!)
Vibrators, dildo's whatever you like.

Once you are no longer a virgin which I expect you aren't as you said you're married then you can use a dildo which is just a rubber penis.

Lie or sit with your legs spred open and just experiemnt. I'd suggest experimenting a little on your own first just to understand what you like and get to know what to do.

Once you have your legs open just feel around, go inside deep, or just rub, use the vibrator and make sure you use lubricant it makes it much more enjoyable.

Lube up the vibrator or the dildo and just move it slowly up and down the vagina on the outside teast your clitoris and then try inserting it into the vagina like sex. If it hurts then take it out and continue.

To make a women Orgasim which is the end result that man LOVES and wants to see usually clitoral stimulation works best. So just stimulate it a bit with a toy or with your hands and finger.

Experiement with one figure, two fingers and so on. Use objects from around the hosue too like a pillow etc...guys love that.

Pile two or three pillows on top of each other then spred the legs sit on top and ride them it's a turn on for the men and great for you too.

Get creative. Use food like whip cream and lick it off your breasts. Rememember touching the breats is as much masterbaiting as teh vagina.

So just be creative. My first advice would be try all this on your own for a few times before putting on a show. You can even film this on a webcam and then play it back for your man.

Or have him film it while you do it.

Be creative

Answer 2

Tell your husband that you want him to show you how because it will be fun learning for both of you. But if you don't feel comfortable with that, I suggest that you spend some time alone and explore that area and see what feels the best to you. You can do that by massaging the areas that feel the most stimulating and then obtaining some type of rhythm. Also, this is a great idea too, rent some porn and watch how they do it so you can have a better idea and drain some of the mystery from masturbation. Men really dig that. You could even watch together - have some fun. Your husband will think you are the greatest wife ever, watching porn together. The worst thing to do though is to get jealous of any of the beautiful big breasted women in those things, men know those aren't the way real women are anyhow. Also, I really don't think your husband will try to find better sex some place else just because of that, he loves you obviously - he married you - he just wants to spice it up together - he's not criticizing you - he told you what he wanted and how he feels because he wants that type of great sex with you and you only. Otherwise, he would have just lost interest and not asked you to do that at all, instead he verbalized what he wanted to you. Have fun, do some wild things. This may help you to do this, I always plan wild nights for my husband where I am someone totally different than his wife (I even give myself a name and an occupation like, Madame Pussy, owner of brothel), I wear a wig (like a fun color, orange, red, purple) and I dress in a euro-looking outfit or some other fun type of outfit and I keep myself in the role of someone else the whole time. That helps me to be more adventurous and outgoing and you will feel more comfortable doing things like that. Believe me, he will flip his wig. If you need help making up character or outfits, I can give you more pointers. think outside the box, nothing is too crazy between two lovers.

Have fun, and Great sex to you!

Answer 3

Ok sweetie if he leaves you due to that his loss. He knew you were a virgin before you married him, if anything he should be teaching you some things and showing you how good sex can really be. To answer your question, first you have to get comfortable touching yourself. I would suggest you do this by yourself at first, and after you get use to it let him watch. You can learn some things by watching porn or you can just close your eyes and go with the flow. Just make sure you're doing it because you want to. Sometimes no matter what you do or how much you do you still cant please a man. Just make sure your pleasing yourself in the process.Good Luck

Answer 4

Don't fret, dear. Relax! You have already taken the first step...you asked him how to spice things up. He understands this is new to you...both of you for that matter...marriage. Just relax and explore each other. Don't be afraid to tell him if something makes you uncomfortable, if he is willing to please you as well, he will understand. Touching is just as enticing as making love. Time and patience will prevail and pretty soon you'll find so many things that you both like that you'll be too tired to experience them all in one night. Do what feels right and comfortable for the both of you. As far as masturbating, have him show you on yourself then if you don't like it, tell him you don't feel comfortable doing that right now but you're willing to try other things and maybe try it again later when you're more comfortable. Let the love flow. Don't worry about him finding others because of sex, it will probably boost his ego to know that he is teaching you. Karma-Sutra has great pics and exotic points explained for each one. Good luck for a long and happy marriage. Relax and smile...he loves you.

Answer 5

Honestly, I never learned how either but working at work with people who seem to have experience in that department I too am a Virgin and believe me they are teaching me a whole lot of information. First off they recommended that i buy the SILVER BULLET and create a ritual of what felt good, and they also recommended that watching videos would help a great amount. Seriously I considered all the above things and went out and bought a couple of how to's and the SILVER BULLET I havent used it but all my co-workers explained to me that this has worked for them and their husbands you may want to try this...Hope this helps.

Answer 6

Yes, you should ask your husband to teach you. It will be fun and entertaining for the both of you. I have been married for 15 years, and I went through a phase where sex seemed more like a chore to me than anything else. But experimenting with new things with your spouse is always fun and the best solution. He would find it a turn on if you asked him to show you how. I promise.

Answer 7

First of all, if your husband truly loves you, he isn't gonna care if you learn to m@sterbate or not. That is not what is important in a marraige. Now love making this is different. Tell him to teach you how...if this is something YOU wanna do. Dont do anything if you dont want.

Answer 8

Vanessa

You shouldnt have to worry about loosing your husband because you dont know how to masturbate. He married you for the qualities(hopefully) you have outside of the bedroom that makes you who you are

Play with him have him help you share moments together, talk to each other, remember spicing things up is awesome but its what you 2 feel inside that counts too....good luck

Answer 9

Relax. The hardest part is feeling like you don't know what you're doing. When u get some spare to ALL TO YOURSELF, practice. My boyfriend wanted me to do it and I thought it was the strangest thing to have someone watch me do something so private and well dirty. But once you start, you will know how you like to be touched. The whole idea is that he wants to see you PLEASURE yourself, and bring yourself to climax. Just relax and follow what your body says to do. If playing with your clitoris feels good then do it. If it feels good to have a finger inside, then do that. If both feel good, hell do them both. Just know what your body wants, relax and enjoy yourself, and i'm sure he will too. Oh and toys are always an added plus!

Answer 10

Honey because I don't want to be too descriptive I won't go in to a lot of detail. Go to a sex store and get some cool toys in there. The also have videos you can watch, a lot of them will have masturbating in them. Also ask your husband his fav positions and his fantasies. This should start you out...