My twin sister Emily died Friday and some of my family memebers are not christians and they beleive God took her out of anger but i dont i beleive it was her time and i know she thought that to she would always brighten up a room no matter wat condition she was in. Emily was 18 and she had a 2 year old daughter she loved her and us her family with all her heart before she died she told me i will see you again someday.. Now my family is saying they will never go back to church but i have been back ever since trying to help my family stay on track how am i suppose to do this please help!!
2007-05-22 09:01:47 · 19 answers · asked by ZAC 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Sorry to hear about your loss.
This is a very hard thing to deal with. Last year my aunt lost a 26 year old daughter this was very devastating to that family. My aunt literally grieved herself to death 3 months later. They were not Christians either.
The best things if they will even receive it is to have Christians showing the love of Jesus Christ around them.
They need to grieve and they need someone to lean on. This is a trying time and nothing will bring your sister back. If they think God done this why do they think blaming God will benefit them? It will not. The devil killed your sister, God allows these things sometimes to try our faith. I don't know what kind of church you go to. I hope they are spiritual because the power of God is able to deliver.
I have known stories where members of family's have turned their back on God and claimed he doesn't exist. No matter what happens you need to continue to live for the Lord. Being a light sometimes is the best thing you can do.
The survivors of my cousins family are starting to come around. It's been a year the first of June. They are somewhat beginning to lean toward the Lord.
Hope you'll be able to say the same someday.
I'll pray for you and your family.
2007-05-23 02:18:15 · answer #1 · answered by Old Hickory 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry for your loss. I can't begin to imagine what you and your family is going through. It is common for people to blame God, especially if it is someone young who has passed on. I don't think there is anything you can say or do to make them change their mind. It will have to come in it's own time. Thank God you have her daughter to be a reminder of her. All things do happen for a reason. Remember the good she's brought into your life and know you'll see her again. Her mission here was done and it was time for her to go.
2007-05-22 09:09:14 · answer #2 · answered by QaHearts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your loss. My dad's twin sister died a few months ago and it's been very difficult for him.
I lost my husband a few years ago, so I understand how it feels to lose someone to whom you were so close.
You really should be thinking about yourself and your relationship with your sister right now instead of trying to tell everyone else how they should be handling their own reactions.
Above all, celebrate her life and her love. You may be the closest person to your niece for the rest of her life. Don't ever let her lose the love your sister showed her.
Make a journal about your sister. Invite all your family to write the things that they want to be sure are never forgotten.
If you want to argue with your family about whether/how soon they want to go to church, you are diminishing the memory of your sister, who has been gone less than a week. Instead, you should all be looking for the things that will keep her close to you always.
2007-05-22 09:12:47 · answer #3 · answered by Suzanne 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well four years ago I loss my grandmother that lived with me for most of my life, it was just me and my grandpa home and I had to make all the calls to the family. There is no easy way to work though the pain you feel, over time it will get better, but when it comes to dealing with it now, just talk about the good times don't think about the bad. Remember her as she was not as she is. Think not of how you will miss her, but of all the great things she has done in her life.
2016-05-20 02:27:01 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry for your loss. If your family were believers before they will come back around right now they are hurt and angry. This loss was a shock being that your sister was so young and as a parent I do not know how I would respond if I lost one of my children. We the parents are supposed to go first we are not prepared to bury one of our babies. I would allow them to grieve in their own way they will come out of this grief in time. Again I am sorry for you and our families loss
2007-05-22 09:07:47 · answer #5 · answered by dlee_75 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey Zac, I know how everything is going Emily and i were very close just like we are I love all you guys and im praying for you always, all we can do is pray for your family and stay strong for them and Emily's daughter Angel will be a blessing to all of us Zac OK i am here for you day and night
I LOVE YOU!! talk later k.
2007-05-22 09:18:26 · answer #6 · answered by amanda2008 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, the number one reason for christians turning Atheist is the Catholic church, or any church that idly says 'It was God's will." This is anything BUT God's will. His will was that humans to live forever on a paradise on earth. THAT IS his will still today. Jesus said that anyone who believes in him certainly will not die. You sister is sleeping my friend, and she will open her eyes once more, God promises this. Staying away from God is not the way to see her again. But refrain from coming in contact with those 'Christians' who blame God for everthing bad, and not the true culprit of evil.
2007-05-22 09:08:31 · answer #7 · answered by Starjumper the R&S Cow 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Zac I am sorry for your loss and I hope that your family can piece their lives together again after this awful tragedy, it is obviuos that they are angry with God and you must allow them some space to go through this, God understands and He is full of compassion for them.
The best thing that you can do for now is to pray for their healing and be yourself, do not try to work it all out for them as you will only get your nose bitten of, they are so very raw at this time, and yet with prayer and time they can be healed.
2007-05-22 09:10:08 · answer #8 · answered by Sentinel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for your loss. Everyone grieves their own way. Right now your family wants someone to blame, so they are blaming God. They will work out their own issues in their own time. Meanwhile, you need to do the same. If you draw comfort from the church, than you will perhaps show them that God does not abandon His flock.
Good luck to you.
2007-05-22 09:07:20 · answer #9 · answered by Aron1968_30 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When my sister died in 1998 she was 3 and it was tough on my family. But there was one thing we realized. through her death we were able to minister to many hospital workers. I don't know why God took her from me, but I know there is a purpose. Maybe it is to help you to help your family through this tough spot. My advice is that you realize that if she loved Jesus then she is in heaven. Have your family go and talk to your pastor. Go d didn't just take your sisters life needlessly., he has a plan for your life. I will pray for you and your family. Do not let this incident rob you of your faith
In Jesus Name
2007-05-22 09:06:33 · answer #10 · answered by Joel 2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋