Is 25 too old to have a baby?

Question

I got married a year ago and people are telling us that we need to have kids right away because of our age. Im 25 and my husband is 26, how old is too old to have a baby?

Answer 1

I was 26 when I got pregnant. It is all up to you when you want to have a child. I heard some people say that they wish they had kids younger in age for the simple fact that they feel that they would have had more patience when discipling their children. Also, I have heard some parents say they wish they would have had kids younger so that they wouldn't be so old when their kids had kids. In regard to that, my husbands family, they all had kids young...My husbands grandmother has 17 grandchildren and 11 great grandchildren.

My grandmother has 7 grandchildren and 2 great grandchildren.

The difference...his family started young and our family started later in life.

I have had other parents say that they were glad that they waited cause they were able to travel and do things and get things for them before they got kids to spend their money. It's not what other people think, it's how you feel. If you feel that your not ready...then don't do it.

I know my husband wanted to wait a year after we were married to have kids. Well...ooops! We got pregnant a month after we got married. I wouldn't change it for the world though. It's nice because I'm 27 now, and I feel that I have the energy right now to make her happy. I have no clue how I will feel when I get older.

I also went to school for Special Education and learned that there is more of a chance of birth defects when you have children after 30.

Just think, what is more important to you?

Answer 2

With medical abilities changing all the time, the question of how old is too old is tricky. My wife and I had our second shortly before she turned 31 and I turned 32. I believe there are greater risks of complications after age 35 or so, but the answer is ultimately more personal for you. If you and your husband are healthy and want to enjoy each other for longer before you have children, then wait. You can never really be ready for kids, but taking your time to plan what you can helps.

Think about how old you will be when your child(ren) are hitting milestone ages, and the extent to which that matters. A friend of mine has a little girl who will be graduating high school when he is 67, and it frightens him more than a little. That said, what is most important is what works best for you - not what those pressuring you think you should do. After all, you are the one who will be taking care of the child or children for at least the next 18 years.

Answer 3

Not at all! 25/26 is even still considered a bit young these days. I don't understand why people are saying you have to hurry up and have kids because of your age...are they trying to say that you'll be infertile soon or something? Because that's totally not true. Fertility doesn't significantly decline in most women until around the age of 35. But heck, plenty of women are even having babies at 40 these days! Anyway though, if you don't feel ready to have kids yet, don't feel pressured to. It's really none of these people's business how you guys choose to live your lives and they shouldn't be telling you what to do like that!

Answer 4

I think 45 is too old, but 25 is really just right. I had my first at 26 and my partner was 30. It really worked out well for us and we plan to have another this year at 28 and 32. Our parents started their families in their early 20's, but today I think more and more couples are waiting untill their late 20's. Medically your chances of birth defects and such do not raise until 35. You have plenty of time!

Answer 5

My husband's aunt is 46 and she has a 24yr old, 21 yr old, 18 yr old, a 7 yr old and a 2 yr old. You wait and have children when your ready. All those people telling you to hurry up and have kids, they don't have to raise them, you do, so wait until you're ready. Also I had my first child at 16 2nd at 18 3rd at 19 and then I waited till 25 to have my 4th and 26 to have my 5th. Having children when you're older is much better, in my case it has been a lot easier than when I was young.

Answer 6

I got married at 34, had my son at 35 and am going to have my daugther in the next few weeks and I am now 38. 25 is still young. My husband and I were together since I was 28. We are glad that we took time to travel and experience many things before we decided to have kids. We are now totally ready to spend our Friday nights taking our son to the playground and stay at home with him on Saturday nights. If you aren't ready yet, don't rush into it. You still have plenty of time.

Answer 7

No! it's not too old you are still young it's not like your in your fifties! I am 25 and my fiance is 26 and we are having a baby. I don't think that's old at all. Don't listen to what other people tell you do what you want.

Answer 8

I was 25 when I had my first child. I am now 30 and she just graduated from headstart. No 25 isn't to old. And I believe God knows when your are ready. My husband and I were married for 8 years before we conceived our first child. We now have a two and a half year old son also. You'll know when it is time, and Only God knows when you are ready!

Answer 9

It isn't too old. You have only been married a year. You should wait a couple more years before having kids. My husband and I married at 22, had our first baby at 28. You need time to yourselves first.

Answer 10

HAHAHAHHAHA. No! of course not! 25 is fine if you are ready to have babies!

That being said, if you do want babies, it is usually easier to get pregnant the younger you are. I was 28 when I had my daughter, which was when I was married and ready for kids financially- but if I could have I would have liked to have been married and financially able to earlier. If you wait past 30 you may have a harder time getting pregnant, but you just go and have your babies when you feel like you are ready!!