I've have known since 5th grade (26 now), dated on off through High School, both moved out of state afterwards, lost touch for about 5 yrs, ran into each other while visiting, she moved 1800 miles back, got engaged (about 2 1/2 yrs), bought a home, she left me 7 months ago, completly crushed me, haven't talked to her for 7 months but everytime she needs something or is sad I am willing to drop everything for her and help her.
She is going through a hard time and I'm taking her on a vacation to get her mind of things. I know we love each other but we are not together. I moved on with other girls (most who treat me better) anyways...some girls can be called a muse (bringing out the best in you), a soul mate or somethin, what is she considered....
I call her satan cause even though I don't want her I can't resist her.
Thanks
2007-05-22 07:57:11 · 19 answers · asked by Mike C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't know, but she sure does have your number. So why don't you change you number, get it unlisted and stop letting her use you. It does take two to tango, you know! So then, really you can not blame it all on her if you jump ever time she tells you to do so.
It's like totally time to grow up and stop letting her use you like that, don't you think? Stop calling her Satan, since you are allowing her to use you, you need to take some ownership in this too.
You are so full of excuses, and you pull out every one when ever you allow her to use you, that isn't right. As I said, you Own some of this too. It's time to grow up and stop letting her use you, she can only do that if you allow her to do so.
Now is the time to take ownership and stop saying it's all her fault, when you do own some of the problem.
2007-05-22 08:08:06 · answer #1 · answered by Cindy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm trying to be as kind and considerate as I can here. I've rewritten this a couple times.
How did it become your responsibility to soothe her pain after how she treated you? Do you understand that your continued attention to her will poison any current relationships that you have? Is it too late to call off the rescue mission?
Why does a codependent person hate to take out the trash? Because he knows that he will never see it again.
What is the last thing happens to a codependent person?
Someone else's life flashes in front of his eyes.
Did either of those jokes feel like they were too close to home?
I recommend that you seek counseling.
2007-05-22 15:11:52 · answer #2 · answered by Daniel H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you got it bad! Only thing is she is using you and you know it! You need to cut off all ties and try to put her in your pass which is easier said then done! Why would you take her on a vacation after she broke your heart! Let it go! If you love something let it go if it comes back then its ment for you! Walk away and let some else have chance you never
2007-05-22 15:09:20 · answer #3 · answered by shasha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask yourself, just what is it about her that you can't resist? Figure it out, and get over it. She's clearly taking you on a ride. I can't believe you are taking her on a vacation! She is confused and using you as a security blanket. Make her choose. Does she want you or not? then live with the decision. Don't take "I don't know" "I'm not sure" "I can't tell you right now" as answers. Those are not CLEAR!
2007-05-22 15:07:10 · answer #4 · answered by suugarnspice36 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will always have a special place in your heart for her. and u will always love her no matter how your life takes u in different directions. She probably feels comfortable with u and u make her feel better inside. and it helps her with her life know your there to catch her when she falls. so just hang in there with her.
I've known this guy since 6grade we were very serious and then he moved to fl to be with his mom. we were going to get married but i could leave my family. And we still keep in contact. It's hard sometimes cause u still miss him and sometimes u wish u were with that person. were really good Friends now and i would change it for the world. Good luck and hang in there.
2007-05-22 15:08:29 · answer #5 · answered by angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just move on and find a new girlfriend.As soon as you fall in love with a good woman you should get over her .And stay far away from that selfish chick ! She doesnt care about you or respect you and you already know that.
2007-05-22 15:05:47 · answer #6 · answered by meg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your just stuck in a circle with her which you have to get out of?
You have to tell her how you feel and that she cant treat you the way she is doing?
she cant hurt you then expect you to be there for her every time something turns bad.
Good Luck.
2007-05-22 15:02:03 · answer #7 · answered by DJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd call her bad news. Why would you want to be with someone who uses you like that? Get a backbone and tell her to move along.
2007-05-22 15:00:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd call her a friend w/ benefits. If she is going on vacation w/ you, you'll be a safe guy to have sex w/
2007-05-22 15:02:47 · answer #9 · answered by neohiobiker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A hard lesson in life !
2007-05-22 15:04:25 · answer #10 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋