I acted very needy and like a fool towards someone that I had only been talking talking to for 10 days because I drank way to many Vodka Tonics at a party. Now, it's been three months and recently he has begun to stare me down when he sees me at for example: a concert or the bar. He is now not even hiding it, he will point blank stand 5 ft. from me with his friends and stare at me while I am talking to someone, even guys. What does he want? He was kinda mean to me after I acted a fool and needy and made it clear he did not want to speak to me any longer so, I let it go. Now after 3 months, I WILL NOT approach him but am wondering will he ever approach me? What could he be thinking and how long will it take? When we first met he called or texted me 5-6 times aday and we were both VERY drawn to each other by looks and personality. He was very verbal about liking me, but we have not kissed yet. I want too, but only if its mutual. I am dying to know what is on his mind! Help!!
2007-05-22 07:45:38 · 18 answers · asked by Kellie B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is playing your mind, plain and simple. You need to ignore him, snub him and forget him. He is staring at you to reel you back in to make himself look good. For example, he would love for you to start tearing yourself in front of his friends; I am sure he has let them know how you behaved. Don't beat yourself up too bad---you were drunk. However, I wouldn't give this guy the time of day, and I would act like I did not know him. Also, you shouldn't want to hear from him. Drunk or not, you're too good for that!
2007-05-22 07:51:28 · answer #1 · answered by Phoebe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is still very drawn too you. Im sure if you catch him staring at you on occasions that he is starting to realize that he made a mistake but maybe feels embarrased because he over reacted. Maybe he's not sure how to reapproach you about the situation. I would text or call him and tell him that you're sorry and hope one day you guys will be able to talk again even just as friends. Maybe that will let him know that ur still interested. If he reacts to the text in an angry way then leave him alone. Any guy who doesnt understand a drunken mistake isnt a guy for you....people do make mistakes!
2007-05-22 07:53:31 · answer #2 · answered by elizabeth m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way you will ever know what is on his mind is if you ask him. Perhaps you can break the ice by apologizing to him and telling him that you have been afraid to talk to him because you were embarassed by your drunken moment. Guys are funny that way - they like party girls for partying with, but good girls to date. He may be having a hard time trying to figure out which catagory you are in. It sounds like you really upset and/or embarassed him in your drunken rant and with his recent stare downs (all in alcohol related environments) he might be trying to figure out if that is how you are all the time, or if it was just a one time situation. If he determines that it was a one time situation, he will be open to talk to you again - if he decides that it is too regular for his tastes then you will either be labeled the party girl or not at all. Unless, you are willing to suck it up and talk to him about the situation - I wouldn't hold my breath about being approached lovingly by him. By the way - do you have, or could you have an alcohol problem? Try drinking soda or fruit juice at the bar - this will get your guys attention!
2007-05-22 08:09:39 · answer #3 · answered by Momma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 01:34:40 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could be laughing and making sport of you with his friends. Beware. I'd suggest you go with your initial assessment of this guy; he's already 'went on record' as not wanting any interaction with you and has not said or done anything to indicate otherwise. Get over it! I don't mean to be harsh, but I think you're wasting your time and putting yourself at risk. Don't assume anything in this situation, other than the feelings are not mutual.
2007-05-22 07:50:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently your evening of foolishness-- showed him that you were not a a difficult catch-- guys get bored w/ women they can wrap around their fingers- there has to be an element of surprise-- a chase-- for them -- when they "catch" a woman--it is like coming back from the hunt..they are proud.. The best thing you could do is walk away- if it is meant to be- he will come running-- if not-- then you have been spared.
2007-05-22 07:54:42 · answer #6 · answered by darkness breeds 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are entirely to needy right now. You should fall back and get a hold of yourself.Men like a woman that's confident.
2007-05-22 07:53:25 · answer #7 · answered by Sunshine! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened three months ago and you're only asking about it now?
You messed up and you won't approach him about it?
Will he come to you even though he said he wouldn't and the two of you are drawn together?
hmmm... yes.
Will it work out in the long run?
hmmm... no.
2007-05-22 07:52:55 · answer #8 · answered by Ben R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Busy yourself in your duties, studies if you are studying. You can't make him come to you. So you have to leave it to him to decide if and when he wants to come back to you.
Don't worry too much. If you both are suitable for each other you would get together in the future.
2007-05-22 07:53:50 · answer #9 · answered by Goldman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No he will not approach you. He thinks you are weird and needy and he doesn't want to be involved with you.
2007-05-22 07:49:28 · answer #10 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋