I am 14. He offered to show my conversations to my girlfriend's mom. He saves a lot of them. Is he allowed to stalk me like that?
2007-05-22 07:43:12 · 21 answers · asked by Aidan N 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
They are only conversations with girlfriend.
2007-05-22 07:54:24 · update #1
Parents have EVERY right to monitor their childrens' behavior. That means monitoring chat room activity. Fourteen year olds do not have the sense to know when something is inappropriate or not.
A fourteen year old boy is TOO YOUNG to have a girlfriend. And the parents of the girl involved need to know there is a young teen romance going on.
Kids your age are not very good at keeping things in perspective and perhaps your chats are raising red flags for your dad and her mother. "Hot chatting? Sexually suggestive chatting? Arranging a midnight sneak out of the house to meet each other? Chatting about cheating in school? Drugs? Other illegal activity? Parents NEED to know about this sort of thing before it gets out of control.
They have your best interests at heart.
2007-05-22 08:00:26 · answer #1 · answered by WhatAmI? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I guess it all depends on how you and your girlfriend act with each other. If you two have been caught messing around or talking about it then your father is trying to protect you from doing something highly inappropriate for your age. If this is the case then he probably feels that her mother has just as much right to know what it is the two of you are talking about or planning. This also ensures him that there's an extra set of eyes on the two of you.
If this is the case then I would suggest that you and your girlfriend discontinue these activities and try to gain back your father's trust.
If this is not at all the case then discuss with your father how this makes you feel. Tell him that since you are not acting irresponsibly with your girlfriend you feel it has earned you enough level of privacy to not have your conversations saved and read.
2007-05-22 15:30:06 · answer #2 · answered by Lwood 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are under 18, and yes he does have parental control over you, but to share then with your mom's girlfriend - is there something that is concerning him that is making him act that way? You are only 14, so whatever you guys are talking about I wouldn't do it on the computer
2007-05-22 14:47:37 · answer #3 · answered by ***ME*** 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sorry dear-- it is his parental right!!
He is accountable for you until you are 18 and on your own.
therefore-he has every right to monitor your computer usage--actually you should feel lucky that he does care enough to keep you in bounds-- many teens come up missing --sexually abused-- etc.. all because of "hooking up" with someone over the internet!! Don't make the mistake of thinking it can't happen to you--I'm sure that is what all the others thought as well...
2007-05-22 15:48:29 · answer #4 · answered by darkness breeds 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well....technically, yes. You're a minor. It's called being a RESPONSIBLE PARENT. We need more of them. All children using the internet should have their activity monitored, for their own safety. However, unless you have exhibited behavior that gives your dad reason for legitimate concern (i.e. talking about doing things with your gf that you shouldn't be doing - sex, drugs, alcohol, skipping school, severe depression, suicidal thoughts, etc.), he should also respect your privacy to a degree.
2007-05-22 15:08:41 · answer #5 · answered by Romans 8:28 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I let my kids know that anything they do on the internet is subject to monitoring. I hardly ever really look but because they know, they avoid doing anything dangerous.
It's not only your dad's right but his duty to make sure nothing bad happens to you. Some teenagers think they know it all. They are easy pickings for internet predators.
2007-05-22 14:58:15 · answer #6 · answered by J D 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well these day's there are so many perverts out there ,,, you should be thankful that he care's so much ,,, he is being protective but wanting to show them to someone else is a bit much talk to him and let him know it is okay ,,,, but to invade your privacy buy showing others isnt cool and if he wan't you to confide in him which you should do anyways than chill ,,, kick back alittle.....
2007-05-22 14:48:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am really sick of little kids on here complaining about things that are totally legal. Until you are 18 or you are out of your parents house, which ever comes last, they can read journals, listen to calls, read emails IMs get on your myspace, and etc. It's called looking out for you.
2007-05-22 15:02:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are a kid, and contrary to popular belief, you have no privacy. You Dad is engaged in something called "parenting".
If you are not doing anything you should not be doing, you little brat, it wouldn't matter who was reading, checking or watching your sneaky little self.
Tell your Dad I'll call him tonight about this....
2007-05-22 14:49:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a lawyer, but I am guessing he has a right to know what's going on under his own roof with, by, and for his minor son. He has a right to know who enters physically, by phone, by email, text message, smoke signal you name it.
If I were you I'd clean up my act. You're headed for BIG trouble.
Double with your girlfriend. Her mom deserves to know what her daughter is up to.
2007-05-22 15:01:46 · answer #10 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋