We've known each other for 2 years. We dated 4 months last year (broke up because she needed time/space to get over a previous relationship), and have been dating for 2 months now. We're great friends, get along famously, and share common goals for the future.
She wants to move in together, but I think it might be too soon. What is a good time indicator to know if she is seriously dedicated before we decide to make the big move?
2007-05-22 07:27:28 · 14 answers · asked by thevergeofobscene 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When you feel you'd like to marry her, propose, give her a ring and set a date.
If you don't feel comfortable asking her to marry you, why do you think pretending to be married and playing house is a good idea?
2007-05-22 07:31:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well there is really no set time that is the good time to move in if both of you feel that you can share the responsibility of household items then it's the right time this can be a test for you both to see if you will be ready for marriage in the future. 2 months is a little to soon I would wait another 4 months and see how your relationship is then. If you are still getting along and still want to move in then it's the right time. But remember you are committed to a lease for at least 6months.
2007-05-22 08:22:23 · answer #2 · answered by Melanie N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not how long you have been together, it is about hor right it feels. My boyfriend and I met in May of last year and moved in together in Sept. of last year. Things have been perfect! If you dont feel like the time is right, then you shouldnt move in! Dont get me wrong, moving in together for us was an easy decision, however I know for most others that isnt the case. Dont rush into anything! I did that the first itme around and I ended up alone in an apartment in a crappy place having to pay the frent in full on my own after he left...I am glad he did leave, I couldnt stand him (dead beat, didnt pay any bills and lied saying he did...). Moving in together can be a disaster if you are not ready for it. You learn a lot about a person, how they deal with things...paying bills or not for that matter, how they spend money ... this is a bigger issue then may be apparent at this time. You truly see who a person is when you live with them. Another thing is if you already spend every night together why pay 2 rents when you can pay one?
2007-05-22 07:36:17 · answer #3 · answered by Sarah S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude not a good move. I won' even get into the number of horror stories I have heard of those who moved in together. When you are ready to move in with someone you -are first ready to spend your life with them as in Committed marriage life. Okay you split the bills and everything else and then someone leaves and someone is stuck like chuck. When you guys are ready to say I do you know you will be there through thick and thin. I just had a guy ask me to move in with him after a month of him knowing me. I told him no becuase I don't get down like that (No shacking baby) A month later I can't even get the dude to call me so I had to let him go. I saw his true colors for real. Now if she really respects you or even loves you (not sure if you guys are there yet) and you say no then she will be okay with this and still have your back. Don't let this sweat you really! My advice is to wait until you guys are married before living with anyone. This will only complicate things.
2007-05-22 07:38:47 · answer #4 · answered by maze 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband moved in with me after our 3rd date... we have now been married for 4 years and have an incredible life together. I guess if you don't feel right about it don't do it. I knew I could not spend a night away from him and he was sick of commuting between 2 cities... hope that helps!
2007-05-22 07:33:35 · answer #5 · answered by CC 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
When you see her walking down the aisle in her wedding dress, that's a good indicator. But then, why buy the cow when she's giving the milk away for free!
2007-05-22 07:32:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
When you both stand in front of a religious leader or judge and get married, then it's serious and time to move in together.
2007-05-22 07:30:48 · answer #7 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If that's what you want then anytime is good, life is full of chances and challenges and if you don't try you will never have experienced.
2007-05-22 07:33:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you do move in together keep your finances seperate!!!!! Split the bills, do not get joint checking or savings!!!!
2007-05-22 07:31:52 · answer #9 · answered by Angela C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Right after you get married.
2007-05-22 07:30:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋