Is there any help out there for struggling teen mother's? I am 17 and I am a former prostitute and I am planning to stop at 18 but I dont no who to turn to for help..I dont have any kind of support from family or friends and I have 2 children to take care of where should I turn for help?
2007-05-22 07:18:56 · 30 answers · asked by thatgirlprada 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
you could try to go to a shelter to live
until you get your feet on the ground
if you did not graduate fr. High School then finding
a job won't be easy & if that's the case then try to
get your GED some how .
As far as getting out of prostitution the only thing
you can do is leave & go so far away that you will
NOT be tempted to go back ( saw that on the
Tyra show, perhaps go to her web site for more
info. about this)
best of luck
2007-05-22 07:25:18 · answer #1 · answered by start 6-22-06 summer time Mom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are plenty of places to go to for help. Don't wait till you are 18 to quit what you are doing stop now! Whats going to happen to your babies if you contract a std that can't be cured? I know its not easy because I was a teen mom . I went to school full time and worked part time at pizza hut till I could find a better paying job.I'm 27 now and its been a long hard road.But you can do it. Go to your local dept of family and children services, they have job listings and can help you get the training you will need along with different housing options. I made it without the use of welfare and I raised my children mostly on my own. Their dad was in and out of the picture and though my mom helped when she could they were not her children so everything rested on my shoulders.You can do it you just have to WANT to.
2007-05-22 07:25:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is great that you are planning for a different future. Just thinking about making a change like that is a big step, and it shows you are on the right track.
As much as it may hurt, temporary foster care is probably a good idea. It is going to take time and effort to get yourself back on track, and that may be really, really hard to do with the financial and mental responsibilites that kids bring. Talk to your local social services agent. Explain that you just need a small period of time to get your life back on track, and they can tell you about your options. Many programs allow visitation, and I while your kids may be upset at the temporary disruption in their lives, they will be excited to see you building a new life for them.
Second, you need to decide where you want to go employment-wise. Truthfully, I'm not sure you can receive welfare as you are under 18, so you may want to talk to someone at a women's shelter so you can have food and lodging until you turn 18.
While you are staying at the shelter, you can apply at a temp agency for a part-time job to pay for spending money, items for your kids, and other expenses. You will also want to get your GED during this time so you will be qualified for more jobs when you turn 18.
Once you have your GED and you are 18, you need to decide what path to take. Realistically, if you want to get your kids back soon, college will not be an option at this time. It can certainly be an option later when you are on your feet. Social Services have employment counsleors that can help you find a job that suits your schedule, your financial needs, and your skills. They will help you arrange interviews and can even put you in touch with groups that can give you a professional makeover!
The good news is that our welfare and social service systems are set up to help situations like yours. Take advantage of them by setting up an appointment with a counselor. If you can just break your transition into smaller steps and not get overwhelmed, you can be on a new path before you know it! Good luck!
2007-05-22 07:41:42 · answer #3 · answered by MissM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can go to the police and tell them you are a prostitute and they will take your children away from you so you don't have to feed them, and they will put you in foster care until you are 18 so you will get the food adn medical attention you probably need from the authorities. You might try developing a relationship with the SRS office so you can get what you need from the government for food and housing and maybe involve a lawyer to find the fathers of your children so they can pay child support, but I doubt they can enforce that if you were a prostitute when they were conceived. If youhave ever been to a church you might be able to get help form the pastor or the maybe even the church community. They will may or may not understand your situation, but they might help. You have lots of choices, but if you look for legitimate help I can almost guraantee that you will have your children taken away and be made a ward of the state somehow. It's best if you do it now because if you do it when you are 18 you will be arrested and tried as a criminal and put in jail. It is best to be a minor when you approach the authorities in this case, so do it now and if you want to see your kids again be sure to get a lawyer.
good luck.
2007-05-22 07:28:43 · answer #4 · answered by Cattlemanbob 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
What the hell is your problem????
Go to the dam welfare department and they will help you out with food stamps, cash assistance, medical care, and housing...
You need to stop NOW, not when your 18 but now, they have a shelter you can go to, go there talk to them and they will help you...
I can't believe you would do something like that to yourself, that is nasty and wrong....
Your very young, why didn't you give your kids up for an adoption instead of putting your kids and yourself through this??
Do yourself a favor...If your being serious about this and your not f*cking around give your children up for an adoption or put them in foster care, get your life on track, get a real job, get help from the welfare department and possibly try getting your kids back once your able to financially take care of them...
Maybe ask a close friend or a relative to take the kids in until your able to take care of them yourself....
You keep leading a life like this, you can end up dead, you can end up with HIV, Other illness ect...
Don't be a stupid little girl, grow up and get your shyt together for the sake of your kids and yourself....
2007-05-22 07:38:37 · answer #5 · answered by Kasja 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, honey, I am so sorry. I wish I could just reach out and give you a hug. You are worth so much more than you are selling yourself for. If there is anyone abusive in your situation- get your kids and get as far away as possible. Start over. You can do this!
You can search out services in a yellow pages, or by even calling information. Look for family services, womens shelters, sometimes churches. Call and be honest about what you want and what you need. If someone can't help you, keep calling until you find someone who can. You and you kids deserve a better life. I'll be praying for you!!
2007-05-22 07:30:20 · answer #6 · answered by quirky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Open the phone book and look under social services. Some churches can help, some get too "preachy," it depends on how evangelical they are...my local Methodists don't judge and don't push you to join, they're just trying to get into heaven by helping people, I think. I trust them.
If you don't want to trust church folks, try local employment offices, they are usually hooked into social services. United Way first call for Help, they direct people who call with issues who just don't have a clue who to ask, they give out the right numbers for what you might need. Public schools would have phone numbers, 'cause they see lots of "family issues" that get refered to social services. I wouldn't be assamed to go on government assistance for a cuple of years until you can get the training you need for a real job. Then when you get the real job, you pay taxes, and pay it all back, so somebody else gets helped, right? Good luck!
2007-05-22 07:34:01 · answer #7 · answered by Kristin H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, congratulations for that outstanding decision!! It is very sad to find out that our loved ones do not support our decisions, especially when they are going to improve our life style. You have to be strong for yourself and for your children. This is not the type of life that you want to live the rest of your life - as long as you know that, you can accomplish anything that you want!. You can start by visiting the local employment office (which is ran by the US government), and they will sure find you a job, and possibly even pay for schooling if you need it. You can also call the Social Services office and they will help you find affordable child care for your children and provide you with what you need to get started. Good luck!
2007-05-22 07:28:52 · answer #8 · answered by Cinthia R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't wait until your 18 stop now! you are a minor so the state should be able to help you and your children out. if i were you i would try to get back in school. If you don't have a high school degree get a GED then you should be able to go to a community college and financial aid will pay for it if you don't make a lot of money. but get you and your children out of that situation. you all deserve better!
2007-05-22 08:58:56 · answer #9 · answered by Supermommy!!! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh you're only PLANNING to stop...why are you PLANNING to stop at 18? Why not stop now? I suggest you go to your county support services and see if you can get some kind of job training I also suggest you put your children into foster care because they kind of life they've had so far is going to cause them several problems later on and you aren't emotionally/finanically fit to parent. They need stablity and I doubt very much if they have had that in their lives.
2007-05-22 07:24:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋