we usually all eat together, but i had a migraine and i came in late, so i didn't take a lunch. when i walked past the lunch room, i heard one girl( who has told me in the past that not telling the person what you think of them to their face, is immature and high-schoolish!!) saying my name. then they all got quiet so i stood there for a minute. so of course someone else covered for her and asked me a question about something to make it seem like thats what they were talking about. when i walked out of the room to go back to my desk, they began to whisper, talking about me, so i stood there for a while listening until they changed subjects.while in the lunch room they were telling me to watch where i put my cell because my son will flush it. i said that he doesn't do that and he never has. their kids did, so of course all kids do it!!! They all try to act motherly to me because i am only 24. i don't appreciate it and i think it is immature and highschoolish... oh and hypocritical!!
2007-05-22 07:10:29 · 14 answers · asked by shortyc1282 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Don't stoop to their level. They obviously have very little to amuse themselves with, and they got around to talking about you. I don't necessarily think it was malicious. This shouldn't be blown out of proportion by you. Just keep it in mind (forewarned is forearmed) and go on about your business.
2007-05-22 07:20:17 · answer #1 · answered by clarity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just be the bigger man in the case of the gossip. Just let it go. You cant be sure if it was bad or not. If you can then say whats on your mind but remember you have to work with them on a daily basis so be a grown up about it. About being motherly everyone older thinks they know it all and will want to give advice. Say thanks and wait for the day when they really give you some good advice. All in all talk to them say what is bothering you in a grown manner or one of them and get it off your mind.
2007-05-22 07:17:11 · answer #2 · answered by that girl 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT say sorry! And stop letting these people use you as a doormat! You have a right to your emotions & your personal space & other people are not above you so much that you have to feel guilty for upsetting them. You are not the manager of the universe honey. You just don't have that much power over things, over people, or what they do/how they act. So don't think that just because someone else has a temper tantrum, it's automatically your job to fix them.
2016-05-20 01:25:00 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I would isolate the gal who said she felt that not telling someone to their face what they thought was being immature, etc. I would tell her that I overheard my name when I passed by and that when everyone got quiet it was obvious I wasn't being spoken about kindly. I would tell her that it hurt me to think that the group would gossip about me. Further, I would ask her if she was confident that when she was not present in the group setting, they would not be gossiping about her. Tell her the buck stops with you--that you intend to take the high road on the gossip and will not participate in any of it. Also, it might be time to take it a step further at your workplace -- that is, if you feel that there is simply too much gossiping going on (especially when it includes hurtful comments about your children's behavior, etc.), ask to see a supervisor privately to discuss the situation. You needn't be confrontational with anyone -- that might just make it worse. But maybe it's time to tell someone in power that the excessive gossip in the workplace is unhealthy and creates a hostile environment. It won't be easy to do this -- of course, your alternative is to just hang in there, but begin to seek out other employment opportunities.
2007-05-22 07:40:49 · answer #4 · answered by felixthecat 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
a mature person would take the information in. They would realize that these are co-workers and NOT friends. Keep your business relationship professional and not confide in them or lower yourself to their level of boredom.
In the work place there is no other person worse to hang out with then aged mothers!!!!
Like most mothers they think they know it all and act like high schoolers towards others.
2007-05-22 07:30:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
To answer your original question I would repeat something that a person said in from of them and put it into a convo
I also think it might be time to reevaluate who is your "friend"
Also one more thing The fact that they were not nice just proves that you need to just stop fretting on what, tom, dick ,harry ,and jane said about you . Just do as my mom said kill me with kindness and then they MIGHT feel bad about what they said let them know that you heard them and ask why .Maybe you will need to reevaluate you .
2007-05-22 07:24:59 · answer #6 · answered by mom 2 a queen 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
shortyc1282 - I'm sorry that your feelings were hurt by your coworkers.
Please know, how you hear what someone says is determined by your interpretations, and your interpretations flow from your past. This is very important to know, especially if you find that you overreact to what others say or habitually get your feelings hurt. . . . Remember, what someone said is not necessarily what you heard, and what you heard is not necessarily what they meant.
Just give them the benefit of the doubt and shrug it off. If they were talking about you, what can you do about it? Is over and done with, let it go.
YOU ARE JUST MAKING YOURSELF MISERABLE.
2007-05-22 07:34:09 · answer #7 · answered by dragonsong 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i would blow it off and the next time lunch rolls around make it a point to go in late after they are all in there talking...stop outside the door where they cant see you and say loudly as you enter "you can stop talking about me now ~ i'm here!"...bet they dont do it again ~ besides...think of how pathetic their lives are and how interesting yours must be......Oh to be the topic of someones conversation because i am just so damn interesting!....besides honey if theyre talking about you ~ they're giving someone else a break!...cheer up and dont sweat the small stuff!
2007-05-22 07:20:33 · answer #8 · answered by cookiesmom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
your there to work not make friends. if they're talking about you, oh well. just do your job and don't worry about it. if they are talking bad about you to the boss then that's a different story. you could also not let these people know your personal business, discuss only work related issues. if you don't give them any info they will start talking about someone else.
2007-05-22 07:21:30 · answer #9 · answered by christina m 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you're blowing this a little out of proportion and only perpetuating the cycle. Like making it a point to let them know you know they were talking about them isn't immature and junior high-ish?
2007-05-22 07:14:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋