I have 2 aunts and a cousin that's giving me a bridal shower. I also have my mom and my sister, but they're not really financially able to help with the shower. My aunt is sending out the invites, but is skeptical about what to put on the Given By Line. My mother is the type that will be upset if her name isn't on there. Do anyone have any suggestions on what to put in that line, I don't want to have too many names in there, so what should we put?
2007-05-22 07:05:44 · 19 answers · asked by me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Your mom is YOUR MOM and your aunt is your aunt. Don't make your mom feel left out on heer OWN daughters engagement party. YOU are HER daughter. Just have her HELP. It doesn't cost money to HELP. and if she helps then include her. BUT now if she refuses to help let her know that you are not putting her name on it since she didnt help dont be rude just let her know before she gets it and sees.
2007-05-22 07:12:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I'm not sure what is normal, but my bridesmaids all got me a gift for the shower. I would say you should probably still get her a gift, but it doesn't have to be anything big since you've already spent so much! You could just buy her some candles or lotion or little things like that that will help her relax before the wedding. Also, there are places you could go where you can paint your own pottery (we have one called "Hot Pots" where I live). You could paint her some coffee mugs, or ice cream dishes, a big platter, etc. It's special b/c you made it for her, but It would only cost between $10 and $30. So I would say, just get her something inexpensive that is something special that no one else will probably think to get her :-) Oh, and if she's having 5 showers, you definitely don't need to buy her a separate gift for every shower...I would say just 1 shower gift is fine.
2016-05-20 01:21:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is the people who are giving you the shower who's names shoud be listed, but they could just put "friends and family" and not list any names. Your mother shouldnt really be upset as this is tantamount to having her name put on a gift that she didnt help to purchase. This is all about you anyway, not your mom. You should only list the names and phones #'s of the 2 aunts and cousin as far as rsvp.
2007-05-22 07:20:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not proper that a member of your immediate family give you a shower. So, your mom's name should not be on the shower invite.
Two aunts and a cousin are what you would put on that line. Everyone will *know* that your mom helped, but it's still not proper for her name to be on the invite... it looks like you are begging for gifts.
2007-05-22 07:13:38 · answer #4 · answered by Patti C 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your aunts and cousin are giving the shower then their names should be on it. If your mom is helping then you could add her name, however if not then there is really nothing for her to be angry about.
If you are really concerned about it the you could write something like given by: (your name)'s loving family or something like that and leave names of all together. Personally I would just put your aunts and cousins name.
2007-05-22 07:12:01 · answer #5 · answered by paganmom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your mother is helping out with the shower her name should be on the invitations. She could help with decorations, cleaning, sending out the invitations. Those are things that don't require money. And if you are worried about a list of names just put last nights ( the Smith and Jones family).
2007-05-22 07:24:42 · answer #6 · answered by al l 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Given By Family Johnson.
You know, it wouldnt be fair though to write that seeing as how your aunts and cousins are throwing you the shower and not your mom. She doesnt need to get butt hurt. She should appreciate the fact that someone else is doing this for you so that you can actually have one.
2007-05-22 07:43:51 · answer #7 · answered by MariChelita 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Mothers & Sisters are not supposed to give showers, so another name should always be put such as Aunts, Cousins or "Bridal Party"
2007-05-22 07:14:52 · answer #8 · answered by ee 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can only include your mother's name if your aunts and cousin agree (which probably isn't a problem since they stepped in when it was a financial hardship for your mom) but I'd talkl to them about it first. And then you could say, "Loving given by: Beth, Mary, Susan and Sarah (you don't need to list their relationship to you unless you wanted to say: Aunt Beth, Aunt Mary, Cousin Susan and (your) Mom. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-05-22 07:13:56 · answer #9 · answered by tersey562 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Given by" should indicate ALL who contributed to your shower, either financially or with their efforts of time. If your mother and sister are planning on making a dish for your shower, then you better put their names on that invitation! That's time and money! So, given by mom, sis, autie, autie, and cousin.
2007-05-22 07:23:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Family CAN give bridal showers. I have seen plenty of showers who have the family (mom, sister, SIL, etc) organize them.
Just put "Given by the family of the bride"... IF you feel the need to put who is giving the bridal shower.
2007-05-22 07:17:56 · answer #11 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋