I am 31 and never married. I have had 2 relationships that were 3 years, and have 2 kids. Other than that, not anything long. SO I have spent my life looking forward to that day when I will have 'the rest of my life with the man that I choose'. BUT I am finding that some men just don't want that. The guy I am interested in right now doesnt' really know if he wants to settle in a commited relationship. He is willing for 'us' to happen, but isnt' looking for it.
Is it unrealistic to want a man that is 'looking' for someone. I would like to be anticipated, not stumbled upon. I don't want to change someones mind. I want to be what he was waiting for. Is that unrealistic?
2007-05-22 05:32:22 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
At least he is being hnest with you up front. Aren't all relationships stumbed upon? Unless you are promised to someone else at birth, you never know who you will end up with. Give it some time. Maybe he will be the one. Give him his space and wait and see.
2007-05-22 05:40:42 · answer #1 · answered by kidjaz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not unrealistic, but to be honest some men have a problem with raising another man's kids. Women seem more adaptable in that sense. Don't force it let things happen and when you least expect it the man you have been waiting for will arrive,
2007-05-22 12:37:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think a lot of women feel the way that you do. Forgive me for saying so, but fairytale mentality will not get you far in a relationship. Perhaps you should not look that far into the future. Just date for a while. When we build up expectations, especially in relationships we are bound to be disappointed.
2007-05-22 12:39:45 · answer #3 · answered by sleepingliv 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your views are not at all unrealistic. There are PLENTY of men out there (although they're not necessarily in abundance) who want to settle down and get married, etc. Don't settle for anything. You have to work for what you want and you'll find it!
2007-05-22 12:36:49 · answer #4 · answered by crabbyone 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is obvious that you seek out men who are not ready to make a commitment. Not consciously but that is the kind of guy you are attracted to. All I can say is if you want things to be different then - change that behavior.
2007-05-22 12:37:34 · answer #5 · answered by Moondog 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not at all. However, this does not sound like someone that willing to settle down and make you a prioity, nor your children. Honey, quit looking, love will find you, believe me, believe in yourself.
2007-05-22 12:36:16 · answer #6 · answered by Only In Dreams 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. But quit having kids outside of marriage - it's not fair to them and doesn't say much about you.
2007-05-22 12:35:53 · answer #7 · answered by Stefka 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
whats with you and having all these kids. at this point i dont even know why your picky at all. your lucky a guy will even date you at this point.
beggers cant be choosers!
2007-05-22 12:37:43 · answer #8 · answered by Steven Colbert 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋