It used to be when I was a kid, that a baby shower was something that me and my dad dropped my mom off at, and then picked her up 4-5 hours later. Men just didn't go to these things, and they really had no interest. Unfortunately, someone got it into their head that this has changed, and that it is ok to have co-ed baby showers. This is completely crazy to me. I would never go to one, and when my wife has a kid, her shower is going to be women only, and I won't be there.
I want to know how this happened and what kind of man would actually want to go to an event like this.
2007-05-22 05:15:41 · 12 answers · asked by eviltruitt 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Actually, I am not having a child yet, my wife and I may start thinking about it next year some time. I just noticed because friends and family have been having them recently, and I noticed this wierd trend. When we do have a kid, the shower will be populated by my wife, mother, and female friends and family members. There will be no men there at all. Baby showers are for the hens to get together and cluck, I don't see how men would be interested in attending them.
2007-05-22 06:13:02 · update #1
I don't think it has anything to do with how eager a guy is to be a parent, or how involved they are. I just happen to believe that some things are exclusively for women and some things are exclusively for men. That's all.
2007-05-22 06:15:56 · update #2
If you don't want to go to the baby showers of friends or relatives, then by all means -- don't go. But if/when your WIFE has one for your child, I think it would be admirable of you to be there for her. After all, don't you want to support her in every way possible while she's carrying your child? You ask what kind of "man" attends these things. Well, my husband is a tattooed, Harley-riding, drum-playing man's man and he was at our baby shower. I'm sure it wasn't on his "Top 10" list of things he'd rather be doing that day, but let me tell you, he got plenty of brownie points for going and I was so thankful to have him there. It was an exhausting day for me, as I was in my last days of the pregnancy, and I don't think I could have made it through the day without him.
It is no longer the 1950s where everything that had to do with babies was automatically thrown in the woman's lap. Pregnancy and parenting is no longer a one-woman show. Today's fathers are involved in every aspect of pregnancy... from attending childbirth classes, to being present at baby showers, and at the birth itself. In the "old days" men would pace outside in the waiting room, while today they are in there coaching the mom and cutting the cord. I hope that you don't plan on sitting the birth out, too, because of some crazy notions that are over five decades old.
2007-05-22 06:50:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It became acceptable when baby showers became a celebration of life instead of a bid for presents. (or at least as well as). Believe it or not, some men are just as eager to be parents as their wives/significant others are. If and when we get pregnant, it would never occur to me to exclude my husband from the festivities, we have been trying too hard and too long to get there.
2007-05-22 05:42:07 · answer #2 · answered by mikalina 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It became okay ever since becoming an equal partner to your wife in parenting, earning for the household, being there in labor room to support the birth of your child and having a say in the decision making of the child's life became okay.
Beer or no beer, since you would be there at the conception of your child, you might as well be there at every step of the way! Good luck to your wife btw..
2007-05-22 05:42:02 · answer #3 · answered by Pinewind3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if it is a couples shower then they may go. They also have diaper showers for all the guys to get together. Each guy brings a pack of diapers and they just drink beer and play poker or whatever.
2007-05-22 05:23:17 · answer #4 · answered by Jaime P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG how ald fashion are you? I am current planning a "baby shower" in which it will be co-ed and we will be BBQ-ing serving beer and basically celebrating that my husband and I are pregnant. No I won't be drinking the beer. Its really a great excuse for a party with gifts, I don't plan to do any silly baby games, but maybe some fireworks and have alot of fun...
2007-05-22 05:24:03 · answer #5 · answered by Kristin M 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
In my book, it became acceptible as soon as men started making babies. Why should just the mom have all the fun? Men are expectant parents too.
2007-05-22 05:28:42 · answer #6 · answered by Brandy B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't really put down a guy for celebrating his friend/family member's pregnancy. It's not really a written law that no men are allowed. They just usually wouldn't enjoy it. It's really up to the women who she wants to attend.
2007-05-22 05:24:48 · answer #7 · answered by Ash Marie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It became acceptable when men started being invited. And men who are interested go... although most don't.
If someone is hosting a party it is up to them who is invited. There are no laws on the subject. It's acceptable because people accept it.
2007-05-22 05:24:33 · answer #8 · answered by KC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its continually been a prepare that the better half/better half the mother-to-be attend the toddler bathe. even with the undeniable fact that, i've got continually considered adult adult males at toddler showers. And presently it has have been given much extra customary quite with the extra youthful mothers and fathers. Invite who you like, male or woman. it is your bathe.
2016-10-31 02:32:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys are actually really into being a father, and being at every event they can...as sometimes they aim to be a better father to their children...
As they themselves had a bad or not so good up-bringing!!
2007-05-22 05:26:57 · answer #10 · answered by LAURA G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋