like we can be in the phone for hours and hours i like his personality but when were in public i tend to look and talk to other better looking guys i know what im doing is wrong but i cant help it.I dont know he tells me he loves me and all treats me like a quenn but i dont want him to feel that way for me i dont know how to tell him ok i understand but i just see you as a friend im afraid i might hurt his feeling real bad and i feel bad cause he s been there for me in hard times and helped me out alot..
2007-05-22 05:02:08 · 40 answers · asked by lucky7 b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Then you need to be open with him and tell the truth. If you continue to let this drag on, you will be seen as a user. Be honest.
2007-05-22 05:04:36 · answer #1 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I was in the exact same situation a few months ago and I must admit it was really hard for me when i had to made the decision, but yeah i had to do it then at the beginning of the relationship rather than later. So, I decided to tell him i can`t stay in that relatioship because i just don`t like him that way. I am sorry i even let it go that far, i should have said it a week earlier, it would have been much better for both of us, but yeah i was thinking ...i like his personality so i might eventually fall in love with him in spite of not being sexually attracted to him.
But this story made me learn a very important thing...i really thought this was shallow before allthis happened, but yeah i was wrong i guess, it is true....so for a relationship to work physical attraction is as important as personality, a relationship can`t last long or be a happy one of these things isn`t included.
I hope this will help you figure out the best solution for your situation. Good luck.
2007-05-22 05:15:16 · answer #2 · answered by terracotta 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he is a great person you should look past the physical aspect of things. If you both share feelings for each other romatically then thats great. If not tell him flat out what you feel and why you feel that way. If you are hung up on the social aspect of what people will think when they see you with him I personaly find that very shallow.
We only live once and not for very long. Be honest with him and yourself. If your friends can't accept your choices then that is their problem not yours.
Don't use the guy because he makes you feel good when nobody is around because your just leading him to belive that things might be more then they are.
2007-05-22 05:10:00 · answer #3 · answered by Dan G 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't lead him on if you don't feel the same because 10 times out of ten you'll wine up hurtin him more by leading him on then telling him the truth. You want hurt him that much long as he's not in love with you then you'll hurt him worser if he was. if he really like you he'll be happy to be friends than rather no relationship at all with you . You could write him a letter if it is hard for you to tell him face-to- face
2007-05-22 05:08:23 · answer #4 · answered by candy699 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
u have to tell him he will soon be able to tell something is upanoither thing do it as soon as possible cuz the longer u wait the more it will hurt but to tell u the truth i think the really problem is u not him u say u like his personality but u like hotter guys so the really problem is that u dont like his outer shell but his inner im srry to say this but u really have to get over the whole superfical look thing and u should no that u can look all u want but u cant touch or do anything else thats the rule in the dating book another thing before u dump him or tell him off(i dont no if ur dating im or not) but go out with him a bit and get to no him try spending time with him and see if u might actually start to like him u never no or u can say look im not really interested in u right now and i like u as a friend so for now maybe we can just hang out and see how it goes from there maybe after i get to no u better i might be interested (thats if u not dating) before u do anything u should give him a chance so just wait a week or to and see wat happens if ur still not intereted tell him and say srry but before u go on a date tell him i dont want to make a commitment i just want to see how thing work out so if it doesnt can we still be friends or something ohh ya and please dont be mad if it doesnt work u have to let him no this so u will be prepared for wat might happen and so he woont be surprised with the news u bring let him no that ur giving him a chance to sweep u off ur feet giving him a chance and telling him u are will help him with wat may come
2007-05-22 05:20:08 · answer #5 · answered by Gossip Gurl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't tell him this - you'd break his heart. If you're embarrassed to be with this guy in public, then there is no potential for a relationship. Do you think he's unattractive or are you afraid of what other people will think? When you get a little older and more mature, you'll realize that it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. Your happiness is the only thing that matters. You should let this guy go, so that he can find a girl who really appreciates him and is proud to be with him no matter the location.
2007-05-22 05:06:33 · answer #6 · answered by crabbyone 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You are young now, and cough up in appearance, and what people think. Popularity are your world......But after awhile, as time goes by, you will care less about what random people think. He is the sort of guy you will be looking for, a good guy who treats you right, instead of an attractive guy who looks nice, but doesn't treat you the way you should be treated.
Looks are only skin deep, and fade with time......Often, the most attractive people can be the ugliest, and the ugliest, are the most beautiful.
2007-05-22 05:09:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If the guy really cares a lot about you, he would accept being your friend rather than not having you in his life at all. You have to tell him the truth, just be honest with him. If he really has been so good to you, then he deserves at least that much from you. Leading him on is only going to cause him to get hurt worse in the end and it isn't fair to him.
2007-05-22 05:08:05 · answer #8 · answered by The Raven † 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-11-26 01:08:26 · answer #9 · answered by bulgarella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you like the guy are not? If you like get over the fear of being in public with him. if you dont like him tell him the truth. The truth may hurt him at first but being honest will be worth it in the long run. Honest is the key.
2007-05-22 05:07:08 · answer #10 · answered by Diann s 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have no obligation to him. If you are having sex, then he probably considers you his girlfriend already. It may hurt him, but you have to tell him that you just want to be friends & you only like him as such. Tell him you're interested in someone else. But tell him soon because the longer you wait, the more it will hurt him. Try hooking him up w/ someother girl.
2007-05-22 05:22:01 · answer #11 · answered by J Doe 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋