2007-05-22 04:50:03 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Why do you want a baby at 17? You should see all these episodes on "Maury" where teens want to have babies and they're so disrepectful to their parents (mothers, usually). Or how about the same shows where women get angry that the baby's fathers (and their family members sometimes) deny these children, and in cases where it turns out the accused is not the father, and they have to bring back 5-10+ more men to test for paternity. I seriously doubt you want to be in that boat.
Listen to me closely, Ashleigh. Seventeen is far too young to have a baby these days. How far are you in high school? If you are still in, stay there, and if you aren't, go back and get your diploma. Then, get your secondary education, (business college, career college, university, whatever) get yourself a job and/or get started on your dream career (whatever that may be; I'm sure it isn't "young stay-at-home mom") Get yourself into a committed relationship with a man who will love you and really want to have a baby with you, there are plenty out there. Travel and experience life some. Then, once you have enough money (it's very expensive these days) and a plan to support a baby (housing, agreed parenting techniques, etc.) only then will it be okay to have a baby. Please don't throw your life away now. You have plenty of time, sweetie. God bless.
2007-05-22 05:37:51 · answer #1 · answered by Sharon Newman (YR) Must Die 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to have you're own house to have a baby. I'm 17 and pregnant and I'm living with my parents until my boyfriend and I can find a suitable house and I'm finish with school. Babies to cost a lot of money. Lucky for me, I have 6 nephews and nieces. So, my brother and sister have clothing, toys, etc. for me. I have my parents, my brother and my sister that support me. If you decide to have a baby then you should look up some programs that can help you get through it. I'm joining a program called Care Net that prepares me for having a child and WIC, which is for you and the baby. It covers the baby's food and everything. Having a baby is a wonderful thing. I love children. They can be so much fun. You can still go out once in a while but not a lot. As they get older you'll be able to go out a little more. Kids can be trouble but for the most part they're great. I'm glad I'm pregnant. I wouldn't want it any other way. My sister is going to be babysitting for me while I finish school. When I got pregnant I didn't have everything figured out. So, if you do want to have a baby then know everything before you do it. Are you and the baby's father going to get married? Get a house? Are you going to finish school? Will you have someone to watch the baby if you do finish? Are you going to have enough money for a baby? Think about it. The decision is yours. Good luck!
2007-05-22 06:13:21 · answer #2 · answered by absilence 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, first get an education. Having a "BABY" (not babay) is a lot of work and requires financial stability, maturity and a good family ethic. At 17 I haighly doubt you are ready for anything to do witha child. Go to school, get a job and mature a bit before trying to raise a family. Once a baby is born it can't be given back.
2007-05-22 05:39:08 · answer #3 · answered by Angelina L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a job, a home (not living with your parents), insurance, emotionally prepared to give up the next 18 years of your life to support/raise a child? You are still a child yourself. You are selling yourself short if you have a baby now... finish school, go to college (if that's what you want to do), get a good job, live on your own, travel, experience life. Then meet the right person and decide to have a child. 17 is much too young. Do you want to be home changing diapers on a Friday/Saturday night when your friends are all out having a good time, or are you just planning to dump the child on your parents. No, you are not ready.
2007-05-22 05:14:40 · answer #4 · answered by zeus112999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 21, 5 months pregnant w/ my first and I am not even ready! I work full time, go to school and trying to figure out exactly how I am going to be able to take care of my child and still continue work & school. I will not be able to become a stay at home mom, because financially I will not be able to do it. Would you? Are you financially ready? Are you ready to sacrafice your life for a child?
I remember before I was pregnant....I was living my life...traveling...partying...enjoying sorority life....than once I became pregnant...everything changed right than and there! Nevertheless, I am very excited for my little one to be here....but it's sooo hard, emotionally & physically. Honestly, you aren't ready...you have so much to look forward to and so much to accomplish....I suggest you hold off for a little while more....
2007-05-22 05:43:04 · answer #5 · answered by oOoLaLaiTzSina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not ready...it doesn't matter what your circumstances are. 17 is still too young and if you not already pregnant you should avoid becoming so. In just a few years you will realize how much you didn't know or could afford at 17 and you want to be able to provide for your child.
2007-05-26 02:36:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably not... but i can't say for sure you didn't give enough information. You need to take into account that to get everything for a baby costs between 3 and 4 thousand dollars, your body goes through extream stress and changes, a baby grows into a toddler and then into a child and then a teenager and you can't just stop having it once it's not a cute baby any more.... It is a lot to think about you should seriously weigh the benefits and consequences.
2007-05-22 05:08:37 · answer #7 · answered by NewMommy!!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is "babay" the ghetto version of baby?? If so, I do believe you need to finish your education and wait until you are in a committed relationship.
2007-05-22 05:07:30 · answer #8 · answered by Ashley V 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was 17 when i had my first baby and me and my partner seemed to manage ok. my baby didnt go with out anything. now 4 years later i have another child and we are doing great.
So what are all you closed minded people out there trying to do? make someone depressed? well you all succeeded this time. great effort. honey don't worry about the answers on here as long as you have the support team (partner, friends,and most of all parents), i think you will be right.
2007-05-26 00:00:41 · answer #9 · answered by sonyagiddings 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe anybody is actually ever "ready" to have a baby. You don't realize how it will effect your life, until you have one. At least give yourself another couple of years. Ask yourself these questions.
Still in High School?
Sill live with mom and/or dad?
Are you still dependent on others to make a living?
If you answered yes to any of these, for the babys sake... you are not ready.
2007-05-22 05:19:56 · answer #10 · answered by Cosmetologist_momma_of_2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋