please help me and give the best advice i appreciate it and he wont use a condom help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-05-22 04:47:56 · 26 answers · asked by karebear4009 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him if he doesn't wrap it up, it doesn't happen. And besides, he's 16. He shouldn't want to have sex with a 13 year old girl. I am sure you hate hearing this, but you are still young, some may even put you in "baby/child" standings when it comes to this sort of thing. Tell him no. You don't want to deal with it. What if you get pregnant? What if he gives you a disease? What if he just wants it because he's horny and drops you like a bad habit after wards? If he doesn't respect your answer, tell him you want nothing to do with him, if that doesn't work tell someone like a parent or a teacher.
I applaud you in keeping the strength to say no!
2007-05-22 04:53:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if this guy truly cares about you then he wouldn't be pressuring you. If you're questioning this decision you obviously have reservations about having sex with him. Second, the fact that he doesn't want to use a condom says that he's not considering what's best for you. Of course he doesn't want to because he won't experience as much sensation if he were to. The chances of you becoming pregnant are extremely high, so you should ALWAYS use protection unless you're attempting to conceive. Third, you definitely don't want to contract an STD, so you need to make sure he's been tested if you DO decide to have sex with him. And last, you are sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo young! Sex is something sacred that should be shared between married couples (I'm a Christian, so this is my own personal belief). If you give it up to just anyone you won't get to experience that emotional intimacy that only comes when you do it when someone who loves you for who you truly are...not just for your body.
2007-05-22 12:02:35 · answer #2 · answered by Kori spelled backwards is Irok 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not ready for sex then you tell him that. If he insists on it then you leave him. He needs to consider your feelings in this matter. Not just getting his rocks off. If you do decide to have sex with him....make him use a condom. The pill isn't 100% effective and neither is a condom. Best to use both if you go ahead with it.
But you should really wait. How long have you been dating? If it's not long he may just be wanting a wham...bamm...thank you mam.... and leave you after you have sex.
Think about this really hard. Good Luck and be safe**
2007-05-22 11:55:24 · answer #3 · answered by Adam 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NOOOOOOOOOO! Run, run, run! He's a predator! You've heard that boys are from Mars and girls are from Venus? You and he are looking at this from two completely different worlds. You're thinking it will make him your boyfriend, but he's thinking sex, sex, sex. If he really respected and liked you, he wouldn't be pushing for this (and he certainly wouldn't be refusing to wear a condom). Besides, it's illegal! He could go to jail for this! If something bad happened, like you got a sexual disease from him (and it does happen) or got pregnant (it can happen from even one time), is he the type of guy that will stick with you even if your family wants to kill him and he has to go to jail for it? Or is he a high school kid who will turn on you and say too bad...he has a new girlfriend this month... Please tell him that your answer is no -- and if he really liked you he'd stop asking.
2007-05-22 12:39:15 · answer #4 · answered by Neonzeus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think that #1 you are too young to be doing that to yourself and making that kind of commitment. I know that you probably like him and that he gives so a ton of attenion, but I've been in your position and I know what is likely to happen. He will get some from you, then dump you, just think very carefully and don't do anything you don't want to do or anything you aren't ready for. Maybe tell him that you won't sleep with him until he has proved to you that he loves you and isn't going to hurt you afterwords. Just make sure you don't through your life away by getting pregnant. If that happens, you won't finish your education and you won't have anyway to provide for you and the baby. Most guys won't stick it out, especially after they are fathers. Don't do anything stupid, please, it would ruin your life!
2007-05-22 11:55:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best advice any of us can give you is dont have sex with that guy. You have a lot to lose. You have alot going for you.School, College, Jobs, and freedom. There are alot of consequences if you have sex with this guy. Once it is gone, You will never get it back
2007-05-22 11:53:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Please, please dont do it. You are way to young. I know right now you feel like you know it all and are grown up, well your not. Thing about how much of a kid you was just 3 years ago. Well in 3 years you will look back and think the same thing. He is a boy with his hormones raging so he will do whatever he can and say whatever he can to get you to do it. You need to be the sane one and just tell him your not ready. Tell him your family gets pregnant real easy...he will say he will pull out but that doesnt matter. Some still gets in there.
2007-05-22 11:54:12 · answer #7 · answered by the need to know 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
DEFINITELY NOT GOOD!
U need to dump him. Just from what little u said it's obvious that all he wants is to get laid. And u are way young too...that ain't good either.
Get outta there quick!!! And then find a boyfriend that likes to be with u, do stuff with u, and don't just think of sex.
2007-05-22 11:55:35 · answer #8 · answered by Travis M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well ur way to young to be having sex(trust me,i'm only a year older then u)I think u should break up with him.He's a little too old 4 u...and if he's pressuring u to have sex,he's definitely not right 4 u.U need to find a guy who is with u becuz he likes u 4 u and not becuz he wants to have sex with u.email me if u need anymore help,i've been there b4.
2007-05-22 11:54:24 · answer #9 · answered by ... 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Clearly he doesn't respet you. If he won't even use a condom then he could care less about you and what happens afterwards. Don't give in to him. You will end up regretting it in the lond run. He's not worthi it. Good luck!
2007-05-22 11:53:58 · answer #10 · answered by mandy 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋