its like hes rlly into me one day and the next treats me like a buddy, im so confused! why does he do that?
2007-05-22 04:34:39 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im a little bit old fashioned when it comes to guys, i like to let them lead, so do 17 year old guys want the girl to make the 1st move once in a while or should i let him lead all the time?
2007-05-22 04:47:12 · update #1
You are very lucky if he is willing to "treat you as a buddy". Many guys exclude their women from that part of their lives.
Count your blessings and enjoy the experience.
2007-05-22 04:40:39 · answer #1 · answered by campojoe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, the answer may very depending on what age he and you are. Since I don't want to make any assumptions, I'll see if I can explain on a general footing (being a guy myself).
If you're both younger, say in your mid to late teens, it could involve the guy's hormones to an extent. During that time, the introduction of a great deal of testosterone to his system can cause emotion to run haywire. This can directly effect how he's feeling about you, and a lot of other things.
If you're both older, I would venture the guess that it could perhaps be...and this may sound cliche...a fear of commitment. Perhaps he feels very strongly for you one day, then becomes afraid of where that road may lead. So he tries backing off, becoming more chummy and less romantic about things on the off-chance you're not looking for that right now. But eventually he drifts back towards being romantic again, and the cycle continues.
In both cases I'm not really sure what you could do to help the situation. The best bet would be to try and stay as consistent in your attitude in return as possible. Having that solid foundation to work with is something he will really appreciate and, if it's the latter problem, will give him more confidence in his direction with you.
Hope this helps.
2007-05-22 04:43:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not like everyday a person has to be acting the same way. maybe he has an off day or something?
at the same time, dress attractively. not too sluttish to get her attention, just dress in a way that will grab his attention. maybe when you 2 talk, you can change the way you speak (more seductive, not too much!) and have a little skin contact
2007-05-22 04:40:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the long run you simply need to be yourself; dressing up nice may be fine for special occasions but you need not sell yourself to impress anyone.
This may sound counter productive as you "want attention", yet, it filters out geeks, whom again, in the long run, are not focused on you as opposed to "how you look" or "act".
In time, you may go throught many boyfriends, maybe not, but in the end you will end up with someone who actually likes you for you and not the dress or "attitude" that goes with the dating game.
If you find yourself tying to keep his attention as you say, how long can you sustain this energy mentally chasing anything? I think you'll find if you sustain that energy you will neglect yourself as your focus will be on making someone else happy for the single reason, to date or stay with him; in truth, he will not even know the real you as he is focused on your looks and dating game attitudes to keep him smiling; this will last a short time...
2007-05-22 04:44:00 · answer #4 · answered by Adonai 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he seem to treat you like he is really into you when its "just you two?" Then when you are around people is when he treats you like his buddy? He could be a flirt whore and just doesnt want any other girls to think he might be exclusive with ONE person.
2007-05-22 04:37:23 · answer #5 · answered by Moops 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you are involved with him for. If you are just dating for fun then this is what you have. If you are looking for a possible mate for marriage you need to be the right person first, then find the right person to involve yourself with.
2007-05-22 04:39:34 · answer #6 · answered by Jacob W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well does he tell you he loves you and do you love him because it sounds like you are just a piece of *** for him and he treats you good when he wants some and then when he don't need anything he's a dick and it kinda sounds like there is someone else maybe in his life.. sorrry sweetie
2007-05-22 04:37:56 · answer #7 · answered by chrissy23w15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, here's an idea... Start dressing really hot, and be sure to attract other guys attention. You see men always want what other men want, so just make sure to let him see that other men want you.
2007-05-22 04:39:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just be yourself, somethings in life u cant play as a game. When ur urself that is when your most beautiful. If its not wot he wants so be it.. Don't play games as it jsut mess up wot u have :)
2007-05-22 04:38:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is key in a relationship. Talk to him about it and compromise on something. Good luck!
2007-05-22 04:37:52 · answer #10 · answered by corroded 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋