OK. I am in a new relationship and I realize my man doesn't want to have sex as much as I would. like. He works 2 jobs and has kids so I understand he may be exhausted. Is this something I should look to change when he gives up the second job and be able to get more rest or just as something that wont change and move on. I know sex is not the only thing in a relationship outside of that he is awesome. But when I find my self asking for it it makes me wonder if he is attracted to me in that manner.
2007-05-22 03:49:03 · 31 answers · asked by me 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'll have sex with you whenever you want. Your man is nuts.
2007-05-22 03:51:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You neglected to mention your age. Otherwise I would maybe give you a different answer. More than likely this man is as you say exhausted from his daily routine. What I would advise you to do is to aproach your "other" as to designating 1 day (or night)a week as "our day". No work, no kids, no nothing if it doesnt directly aply to the relationship. See where this takes you. If this doesnt appeal to your other, then I would say that he isnt willing to work with you on this one and more than likely is in the relationship for other reasons. Free babysitter maybe? The thing to remember is that absolutely no relationship is perfect. They ALL require a certain amount of work and above all communication by both. If this is something that you two absolutely cannot accomplish then I would say move on.
2007-05-22 04:08:55 · answer #2 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he make you feel sexy and wanted in other ways? For a woman, the act of sex is secondary to feeling wanted and desired. If I am reading your question right, this is a nice guy but it doesn't seem like he is doing much to make you feel desirable. I wouldn't look for him to change from the way is right now, even w/o the 2nd job.
But talk to him before you give up because maybe, just maybe he IS tired and stressed and has a lot on his mind with kids. I felt completely devoid of sexual desire when I'm all stressed out.
2007-05-22 03:56:30 · answer #3 · answered by asldfkjdfj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
two jobs is a lot, and having kids even more..
he may be able to spend more time with you if he does give up the second job though. things will change. but also remember, he's in a new relationship, may be he doesn't want to rush into things, give it time and concentrate in his problems and everything that concerns him. am sure he's got a lot in his mind, so instead of going for the sex, focus on other things that will help you figure out his lack of sexual apetite.. .
2007-05-22 03:55:26 · answer #4 · answered by laa morenaaaaaaa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he is married it is not proper to ask him to have sex with you that also when he is not willing. Also you know that he is having two jobs and after the two jobs he would be very tired .With his jobs, family, kids and you poor fellow, I only sympathize with him.
When a man is in problems or in tension he will not have any sexual urges. In this women are better as they need have an erection while man must have an erection for sex. When in tension nobody can get an erection.
2007-05-22 03:58:12 · answer #5 · answered by rajan l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that he is definately exhausted just think if you had two jobs and came home and helped with kids. Maybe when he gives up his second job he will want it more...but dont push it...if he wants it after he gets some rest he will ask.
2007-05-22 03:53:11 · answer #6 · answered by country_chick_09 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do the math 2 kids + Girlfriend+ 2jobs+ sleep
That guy is kickin *** and takin names for his fam, which is probably why he's appealing to you. but what it sound like is a competetion of attention he's devoted (at least) 90 percent of his time to everything but you. Look at the positive when he's there he's great so just let him be and support him, you'll get your 70 percent like you need
2007-05-22 03:56:44 · answer #7 · answered by Druqk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send a text message to meet you at home a certain time. Leave little notes for him to follow in the house and treat him to a chair dance... TRUST ... Try Trey Songz- Wonder Woman tonight!
2007-05-22 03:58:30 · answer #8 · answered by NicOOd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't pressure him to have sex because it going to make it not work out between ya'll so just wait till he is not tried and fit him a nice candle light dinner let it go from there
2007-05-22 04:05:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He works 2 jobs and has children, how about a little understanding on your part. If you expect this relationship to work, stop thinking about yourself.
2007-05-22 03:54:06 · answer #10 · answered by Katie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If its a problem already when the relationship is new, it will be a HUGE problem when you start etting tired of each other. Don't go in hoping/expecting ti to get better.
2007-05-22 03:54:05 · answer #11 · answered by SvetlanaFunGirl 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋