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im going to the funeral home even though we have not talked in almost a year i called him yesterday since we have been texting back and forth updating eachother on our lives. i was not going to say anything about our breakup (not the right time) but he did after he said how he has a gf and i told him i was engaged then he said he bought his gf a ring....we congradulated eachother but then the Q's started coming out why are we together what happened we were a very good couple but he had a slight drinking problem and i had a baby (not his) and didn't want my 1 year old arround him so basically i dont know if i should go tonight i dont know how this will go and i dont want anyone to get hurt because he asked me if we could talk for a few of course i want to talk to him but this is not the right time!

2007-05-22 03:31:26 · 4 answers · asked by sunshine12_25 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

ok let me just add that im not going with intentions to hook up and i wont like i said im engaged i just know everytime we see eachother there's something there

2007-05-22 03:49:40 · update #1

4 answers

Go to the service, extend your sympathies and that's it. He is vulnerable now and being back in contact with you has brought back a lot of happy memories during a very difficult time. You can't go back in time so move forward. Wish him well and move on.

2007-05-22 03:35:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

This isn't hook up time dear, its respect.
You go to say I'm sorry for your loss to his mother and to him.
Then you say you're sorry but you must leave. This isn't the time or the place to discuss anything else. Since he may be quite upset with his dads passing he may say or do things he hasn't thought through, and won't mean in the morning.
Spare yourself and him that uncomfortable thing, and keep the visit brief and to the point, the point being that a man has died.
Edit
You are fooling yourself if you think you are going without the hope of talking to him about your relationship, the fact that you say that 'something is still there' tells me all.
Leave the something under the rock, don't poke at it unless you are interested in ending your engagement, and breaking up his. If you stick to those rules, you will know how it will go, it will go nowhere, and that's where it should. You do have some control you know, and hurt is what you will be dishing out if you don't control the conversation, the emotions, the desire to talk to him about anything other than his dad.

2007-05-22 10:38:49 · answer #2 · answered by justa 7 · 1 1

be the strong one if yo honestly care about him. Do NOT take advantage of his vulnerability.

2007-05-22 10:37:38 · answer #3 · answered by Edhelosa 5 · 1 1

Go but bring your fiance with you.

2007-05-22 10:35:44 · answer #4 · answered by Jacob W 7 · 0 2

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