me and my partner are due to get married on 4th august . to start off with we found out when people were planning to go away and we planned our wedding round them. but last night i found out that my aunty is going away at the begining of august when we were told originally that she was going at the end. my mum is having a great big go at me saying iv got to move the wedding but if i do that then other people from my partners side cant come because they aranged there holiday around us. she says she really wants to come but she wont change her holiday. should we have to change?
2007-05-22 03:21:37 · 51 answers · asked by mummy to 3 miracles 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Ironically I was supposed to get married on August 4th and we moved it to June 23rd. First of all you really dont have alot of time to move your wedding. It is soooo soon and competing with all the summer weddings the chance that you wont lose deposits on vendors and have them all switch to a new day is slim to none. When we moved ours up due to a conflict in my fiances family we found out that now my grandmother cant come due to prior engagements. You need to think long and hard about who is important because there maybe other people that have planned their summer around your wedding and by moving it you could mess it up for them. Decide if you can celebrate without your aunt and make it a point to get together and share wedding pictures and pictures from her holiday. As hard as you try there will always be people that are important to you that just wont be able to make it. Do what is right for you and your partner!
2007-05-22 05:10:43 · answer #1 · answered by Ann B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't change it. You were very considerate in doing your best to plan a summer wedding around other people's holidays. You should not rearrange your plans for just one person, especially when there are many more people that won't be able to come if you change the date. If your aunty really wants to come, she can change her holiday. It's a lot easier to change a holiday than a wedding! It's only a little over 2 months away--if you've booked a reception hall, etc., it's probably going to be very difficult to change all of that now.
2007-05-22 03:33:19 · answer #2 · answered by Flamekat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the date alone. If your Aunt was so concerned then why didn't she check with you regards the date before organising her holiday plans. You have to be firm with your Mum. Why doesn't your mum have a go at your Aunt for planning a holiday when it's your wedding, that's far worse than the other way round. You can book a holiday at the last minute easily these days but you can't do that with a wedding.
If you change your date, what kind of shambles could it end up, with having to re-order cars, venues, finding a new date when you could have it etc etc. No.........PLEASE STICK TO YOUR GUNS AND TO HELL WITH EVERYONE ELSE.
Have a nice wedding on the 4th. I got married on the 5th August last year and we didn't let ANYONE interfere with it.
2007-05-22 05:44:06 · answer #3 · answered by Dave C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh My God you poor thing, under no circumstance should you change your wedding, you have to remember that IT IS YOUR WEDDING and the whole idea is to celebrate you and your partners love for eachother, not worry about making sure everyone can attend, if they cant make it thats there problem, people can go on holidays whenever they want you on the other hand will only be getting married once, I think you should tell your mum to back off and stop trying to ruin your wedding. Tell her as if she doesnt know already that it would be much easier for your aunt to change her plans for a holiday rather than to rearrange your wedding to suit one person. Best of luck xx
2007-05-22 03:38:02 · answer #4 · answered by Jeni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No do not change. Your last sentence says it all about she isnt going to change her holiday which she probably takes at least once a year-yet your wedding is a once in a lifetime event . Not everyone will be able to come but thats OK. Mainly you are being manipulated by your mom and aunt so move away from that. You have set the date so stick to it and try to not get into a debate about anything else in your wedding either. It should be between you and your fiance only.
2007-05-22 03:32:40 · answer #5 · answered by barthebear 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Weddings are, (at least in therory) a one time event, vacations are yearly. Gently advise your mother that you love your aunty but you are keeping your plans. It is about you and your partner not about mom or her sister. Be very nice to her when you tell her. Think about what you want to say. Write it out a couple times so that you can be in control under great stress. Lastly remember Marriage is the number one cause for divorce. What I mean is that people fight over the planning of a wedding, don't let others make it hard for you.
God Bless you vows
2007-05-22 03:36:33 · answer #6 · answered by Theopholus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, lets get practical for a minute. If you cange the date of your wedding to suit one person you will put out loads more. You may not be able to change the date cos its only a couple of months away and everywhere will probably be booked up. If your auntie really wanted to come, she would change the date of her holiday and not expect you to change your wedding date.
I suggest you stand your ground, tell your mum and auntie that the date is staying the same, and if they don't like it, tough!!!
Good luck. I had a lot of problems sorting out my own wedding, but int he end I had the people around me who really wanted to be there so thats all that mattered.
Its your day, don't let this spoil it for you.
2007-05-22 03:28:20 · answer #7 · answered by Emma W 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
mutually because it truly is unlucky that your niece has a recital on that individual same day, she is 5. She'll recover from it. she will do it next 365 days. i might say your wedding ceremony day is extra considerable than a recital. this is totally considerate which you may evaluate changing the entire wedding ceremony around for her, yet once you probably did no longer understand what the date became once you planned it, i do no longer think of you should experience undesirable approximately her having to pass over it. Your distributors will possibly no longer have your new date obtainable at this component, and likely, you will get charged to go it if there are themes. there is probable no longer something on your contracts with them pointing out that they'd not charge you a cost to alter your date. enable your sister understand that it will value you too plenty to alter your date, yet which you tried. i do no longer see why it truly is one in all those enormous deal. this is ballet, and the baby is 5 after all.
2016-10-31 02:21:24 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother needs to understand that you have already planned this around other people and to change again would be unfair. I am assuming your aunt knew about the date a while ago? She has changed her plans when she knew the date of your wedding. I know how you feel with the stress of trying to make everyone happy on your big day (going through it myself!) and your mother needs to realise this is your day, not your aunt's and if she cannot be bothered to make the effort then why should you upset everyone else and yourself just for her? You are right to stick to your guns, stay on that day and tell your aunt you are sorry she is not going to be here but it is too late to change the day.
2007-05-22 05:05:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi no dont change it for just one person as you will upset loads more other people, Dont feel guilty either as you have done nothing wrong you should of been told the correct date and thenthis woudnt of happend. No dont change whatever you do, it they dont like it then fine. Its your day and that means if you change the day noone else might come or loose out on there hoilidays surely enough they knew you where getting married before they planned to go away. Dont worry about it.
2007-05-22 06:33:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋