Actually, the first time i saw the pics was 3 months ago but i didnt take a good look at it coz its about 4 dozens. and i asked him about it and he just said some girls hired him to take those pics, but with the look on his face, he was shocked i found it. And to my being nosy i wanted to see it again, i mean all of it and that was yesterday when i saw him in the pics. and last night when he got home from work, well, i have to prepare him food as usual. And he noticed i was kinda sad and lonely and asked me why. i just said nothing, i'm not feeling well.
i love him very very much, inspite of that. I've told him before to be open with me. Cause whatever his past, i'll have to accept it. But whenever those pics come to my mind i cant help but cry and wondering what kind of a man did i marry. He tried all those erection pills but i guess it wouldnt work unless you wanted it to work. He had operation 4 abdominal aneurysm last year
Should I talk to him about it or just keep it to myself
2007-05-22 03:06:45 · 17 answers · asked by eigger57 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You want him to be open with you, but when he asked what was wrong, you said nothing? Sounds a bit hypocritical to me.
2007-05-22 03:10:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
the best way to predict future behavior is to look at past behavior. im assuming your both atleast around 25 and the pics were something that could be on girls gone wild so heres what i think. people rarely change especially when you get past the age of twenty. sit down and talk to him about it, tell him that it is serious and you want to know all there is to know about the pics. you dont need to accept his past, dont try to force a square peg into a round hole, it sounds like your really invested in this guy, which is fine but you cant be afraid to let him go if the answer you get is not the one you want. guys will always play the victim with stuff like this. nobody forced him to take them, he could have declined. hope this helped, talk to him!
2007-05-22 03:18:36 · answer #2 · answered by mike 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow this sounds messy. The fact is if you don't talk to him about this you'll always feel that sick knot in your stomach when you are around him. And why is he taking erection pills? Didn't you say you guys are married? If his attraction to you led him to marry you, he shouldn't need help in that department. I would ask myself "Whats really going on?" Has he fallen out of his attraction to you or is he a freak and just wants to be ready for any action he can get outside of your marriage. Either way it goes your marriage sounds like it's in trouble. Talk to him, seek a counselor, just do something before your marriage takes a hit that wont heal. I hope this helps.
2007-05-22 03:16:01 · answer #3 · answered by drivn2excelchery 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
nicely i think of you mustn't do it through fact you deserve extra advantageous then that i might understand through fact i exploit to be like that if he would not desire something extreme with you he's not well worth some time in the beginning up its form of relaxing and exciting yet in the tip you finally end up regretting it and you're able to be able to even experience used and thats an awful feeling so it may be extra advantageous in case you drop him do only whats best for you or although makes you happy :)
2016-10-31 02:19:36 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your relationship cannot improve until your communication does. If he has an erectile dysfunction that does not mean he can't satisfy you sexually. He can do it manually, orally, or with toys. And perhaps you both should consult with the doctor to find out why the pills didn't work, there are a few out there now, maybe trying another one would has better results. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-05-22 03:10:59 · answer #5 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I personally believe that a husband and wife need to be open and share. I think that you should talk to him about this but approach it in a non-confrontational way. Let him know that you just want to try to understand him better.
2007-05-22 03:11:04 · answer #6 · answered by BetsyLauren 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Am I missing something? I am confused by just trying to read this. What pictures? Does he have a problem with erections. A "triple A" surgery is mentioned somewhere in there. I'm sorry, but need more info. Oh and can you narrow it down to one question?
2007-05-22 03:13:00 · answer #7 · answered by Alchemist 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes you should talk to him I mean dont like rush it out just take it slow and then calmly ask him about them and tell him to tell you the truth and if he lies to you again then just pack up a suitcase and take a nice vacation well dont really do that just confront him but the vacation idea that is what i would do LO L=) but any way bust of luck to you i hope it works out.
2007-05-22 03:17:54 · answer #8 · answered by doe77 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I honestly understand your situation,my husband had an affair with his secretary and got a child out of it, but i am not ready to leave him cause i love him so much and the trauma of explaining to our four kids the reason why we had to dirvoice is unbearable for me. i'll suggest you talk to him and try to keep the incident out of your mind, 'cause it easier to live a situation you cannot change by pretending it does not exist.
2007-05-30 03:13:34 · answer #9 · answered by black&proud 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to air all these problems --- you must be able to talk about anything that may harm the relationship ---- also think of it this way --- his past has shaped him into the person you fell in love with --- dont hate what he did accept it and actually be thankful as he is with you now ---- best wishes
2007-05-22 03:17:02 · answer #10 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋