this guy i works with has down syndrome and he asked me out. He is realy sweet and i have a lot if fun talking to him, and to tell the truth i wouldn't mind going to dinner with him. Is it wrong for me to date him?
2007-05-22 01:58:48 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no
no way no shape no how
2007-05-22 02:04:06 · answer #1 · answered by DENISE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the privilege of knowing a mentally challenged couple. Tim and Kathrine were long-time married and loving and kind and gentle. They danced old-fashioned square dances and we always paired beginner dancers with them because they were great to learn from. Everyone in our dance group loved Tim and Katherine.
I'd be careful dating this man - or any coworker for that matter, however; because he may think he's fallen in love with you - when all you want is a good and fun-loving friend. You work together and a relationship misunderstanding between you two can both ruin a friendship and cost both of you your jobs. Make sure this is first and foremost on your minds.
You can, however, go out to lunch. Try a hot dog stand close by and bring cracker crumbs for the pigeons. Or perhaps there's an outdoor concert nearby you can go to.
But the MOST important thing is DO NOT LEAD HIM ON. He's apt to think he's fallen in love because you are gentle and kind and seem to enjoy spending time with him. So be very honest about how you feel towards him - a true and honest friend. Do whatever it takes - but DO NOT LEAD HIM ON! Even if you have to decline an invitation to dinner, DO NOT LEAD HIM ON. That would be cruel.
2007-05-22 02:38:08 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl I wish there was a lot of girls like you that wouldn't care of going out with a down syndrome guy. See I never had the opportunity to date someone with down. But I think if you like this person and he makes you laugh and makes you feel good.
Yes girl you should go out for dinner. I don't see anything wrong with it at all.
I will tell you something you make the choice that you have to make but remember that there are people that will try to look at you in a wrong way because you are going out with down syndrome guy but I want you to know to forget what people say. You be happy and enjoy the day.
2007-05-22 02:08:37 · answer #3 · answered by mary o 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
While it is sweet of you to be compassionate about the invitation, I don't think it's a good idea to lead him on.
Think about it in the long-term. Do you really see yourself having a long-term romantic future with him? Do you fully understand the responsibilities and additional burdens that dating a person with Down's syndrome brings to the table, such as always driving (very few Down's syndrome people are capable of driving vehicles), always managing financial responsibilities, etc.? I seriously doubt it.
You have to understand people with Down's to know why it's a bad idea. People with Down's are completely without guile. They assume that everyone is acting upon their pure intentions, just as they are.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying you have an impure motive in thinking about accepting his invitation. In fact, I think your motive for considering it is laudable in a way. But you have to understand that he won't think of your acceptance of his invitation as anything other than returning his romantic interest. People with Down's don't ever consider that there could be a different motivation for the actions of others.
Now I think it would be fine if you accepted the dinner invitation while making it clear to him that you were just going out as friends rather than a bf/gf kind of date.
I have a brother with Down's syndrome, that's why I know.
2007-05-22 02:20:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be cruel to lead him on if you have no intention of going out with him as your boyfriend. I would not get romantically invoved with a guy who has down syndrome. It was absolutely hell even going out with someone with a mild disorder like OCD let alone down syndrome. You need someone to care for you as much as for you to care for him. I would make it clear I am his dear friend, then only once he understands that fully would I go for dinner with him.
2007-05-22 02:06:49 · answer #5 · answered by Micia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would it be wrong of you?....if he's sweet and you have fun talking to him, then go out with him, he's human just like us, he just has down syndrome, we have the freedom to date whom we want, people date other people with aids, or diabetes or people with pimples, if you really like this guy go out with him....
2007-05-22 02:03:35 · answer #6 · answered by Nita and Michael 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say go for it. But let him know up front about your friendship. It will be easier for the both of you, especially with someone with high emotions. Good luck and have fun.
2007-05-22 02:24:19 · answer #7 · answered by Laura C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you are romantically attracted to him I wouldnt do it. Maybe you could set it up just as a friend thing if you werent, but you cant really lead him on.
2007-05-22 02:02:31 · answer #8 · answered by My December 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is all up to you. but if you go out with him now he might develope feelings for you and you might have to tell him later which would be a lot harder. me personaly i wouldnt.
2007-05-22 02:03:19 · answer #9 · answered by mommy2be 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not at all, if your feelings are genuine than why not, everyone suffers from one thing or another, he would be delighted!
Do it :)
2007-05-22 02:01:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no-woooa imagine breaking his heart b/c he knows its his d/s thats the reason you wouldn't really seriously be w/ him.
friendly is good
up to you
2007-05-22 02:12:35 · answer #11 · answered by eirama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋