if thou shalt honor thy father and mother, what do u do when they command something dangerous, or impossible!?

Question

I have always wondered this...especially when my friends parents had them use drugs and kicked them out of the house at very young ages....and MY parents ask me to work physically hard when they know I have a physical disability

Answer 1

To honor them is more than just obeying them. You may very well be put in a position where you have to disobey them. However, to honor them speaks to your attitude toward them. Do you respect them, even when you disagree with them? God doesn't expect you to obey something that is unrighteous.

I'll give you a personal example: I never knew my father as he denied me from before birth. He was married to someone else and never had any input into my life. When I was an adult, I sought him out. I found that he was dead, but I discovered siblings and other relatives. After I learned of the circumstances surrounding my conception, I set out to honor my father, partially by forgiving him. I made it a point to never bad mouth him and I came to understand what I believe are his reasons for what he did. What he did in denying me was still wrong, but I no longer hold any animosity toward him. With God's help and guidance, I've been able to move beyond that and learn who the man was.

That commandment has more to it. It says, "Exo 20:12 Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee."

It is the first commandment with a promise.

as an aside, earlier, someone here misquoted Luke chapter 19. Now, those words are on the page. However, what that person fails to mention is that Jesus is relating a parable at the time. The words that are ascribed to Jesus in this person's post are actually the words of the person within the parable, and not a directive from Jesus. That is what happens when someone takes things out of context to justify their own bigotry.

Answer 2

Ephesians 6:1 and Colossians 3:20 both address this issue. They state for children to obey their parents "in the Lord". That means that if the parent is telling them to go against the will of God by telling them to do something wrong, immoral, dangerous, etc., that the child can respectfully decline.

Answer 3

Yes, you should honor you father and mother, however, you still need to be your own judge. If they were to tell you to jump off a cliff, then that would be a time to not listen to them.

If ur parents are making you work physically hard, just do what you can within your own limits. If they can't understand that, then that's their problem, and they'll be judged for their own actions.

good luck!

Answer 4

When my parents use that on me, I retort with "fathers, provoke not your children to anger." And, honouring someone does not mean blind obedience to them.

Main Entry: 1hon·or
Pronunciation: 'ä-n&r
Function: noun
Etymology: Middle English, from Anglo-French onur, honur, from Latin honos, honor
1 a : good name or public esteem : REPUTATION b : a showing of usually merited respect : RECOGNITION
2 : PRIVILEGE
3 : a person of superior standing -- now used especially as a title for a holder of high office
4 : one whose worth brings respect or fame : CREDIT
5 : the center point of the upper half of an armorial escutcheon
6 : an evidence or symbol of distinction: as a : an exalted title or rank b (1) : BADGE, DECORATION (2) : a ceremonial rite or observance c : an award in a contest or field of competition d archaic : a gesture of deference : BOW e plural (1) : an academic distinction conferred on a superior student (2) : a course of study for superior students supplementing or replacing a regular course
7 : CHASTITY, PURITY
8 a : a keen sense of ethical conduct : INTEGRITY b : one's word given as a guarantee of performance
9 plural : social courtesies or civilities extended by a host
10 a (1) : an ace, king, queen, jack, or ten especially of the trump suit in bridge (2) : the scoring value of honors held in bridge -- usually used in plural b : the privilege of playing first from the tee in golf

Answer 5

Respectfully say "no". If you talk in a calm peaceful way, denying them is not a sin. You can still honor them and protect yourself as well.

Answer 6

The Bible says that childrens could desire to obey their mothers and fathers. Adults only could desire to honor them. this would not advise you or your loved ones ought to could desire to post together with her abuse. in case you nevertheless have touch together with her, verify it truly is on your words. enable her understand why you do not have as plenty touch together with her. one way of honoring her is exhibiting her she has a issue she needs to handle. although you do, enable the youngsters and every person else understand which you nevertheless love her and understand her for raising you as superb she could desire to.

Answer 7

Contradictions are throughout the bible. God, in Exodus 20, said thou shalt not kill. But for political gain, Jesus said in Luke 19:
27 But those enemies of mine who did not want me to be king over them - bring them here and kill them in front of me.
28 After Jesus had said this, he went on ahead, going up to Jerusalem.

Answer 8

It says to honour them, not to do what they say blindly. Honouring them, to me, means that you should respect them and listen to what they have to say, but not just do what they ask. You have a brain, use it. Respectfully disagree, and explain yourself to them.