I just met this guy friday, and we kissed. So he called me the next day and we talked. But the following weekend i went to a party and drank, and ended up kissing 2 of his friends. It meant nothing to me and i know being drunk is no excuse, but he is really upset. Usually i am on the other end of this story but now i am the one causing the hurt. Do you think i deserve a second chance?
2007-05-22 01:20:53 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well first off...are you two actually dating? Was there an agreement that you two would be in a monogamous relationship with each other?
If not, then really he doesn't have reason to be extremely upset. You met him on Friday, you kissed, you talked. He is basically your friend, whom you were probably considering dating. Unless you two were actually dating and having a monogamous relationship you have no reason to feel like you're cheating. He needs to grow up. But if you do get in a relationship with him...I hope you can learn to control yourself when drunk.
I should have known there was no point in answering this. By the time I got to it fifty others had already answers, lmao.
2007-05-22 01:25:56 · answer #1 · answered by Lexi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all just because you were drunk does not mean you don't know what you were doing. If you just met the guy and and kissed him how in the world does that put u in a relationship?? Also 2 of his friends you should have known that was gonna cause a conflict. How old ar you anyways?? If it meant nothing to you you shouldn't have done it. I don't know if he will give u a second chance. Do u really wanna have him already distrust you?? He's gonna be wondering everytime you walk out the door if you're going to mess around. but then again you two just met.
2007-05-22 01:26:01 · answer #2 · answered by Sasha R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody deserves a second chance. We're human. We all screw up. But I hope you realize that somewhere along the line, you did in fact screw up. I'm sorry but I'm just not going to sugar-coat this for you. You formed some sort of a relationship with the first gentleman you met on Friday. Even though it was only a short while thereafter you kissed his two friends, you hurt his feelings. Despite having only been with him for such a short while, he was obviously under the impression that you two were now an item and he didn't get that signal or vibe from anybody but you. Relationships are a two way street, like it or lump it.
It's time for a reality check. Using alcohol as an excuse is about as valid here, as it is when it comes to drunk driving. It just doesn't cut the mustard.
But you do have two things working in your favour : 1) Your past experiences having been on the receiving end of the hurt and 2) You're not being completely selfish and denying his emotional stress/pain.
My advice is simple. Admit to him you made two mistakes. One, you lead him to beleive that this was a meaningful relationship, which it obviously isn't because if it was, you wouldn't be in this predicament and two...admit you made a mistake using alcohol as your excuse. But the most important thing here is that YOU understand that admitting these mistakes is not to make everything ok between you two, but to learn from them so that you don't do this again in the future.
I know this may have seemed harsh, but I only said this because I honestly believe it's the best route for you. I speak from 9 1/2 years of marriage and 3 years of dating my wife prior to getting married. Trust me when I say we've had our ups and downs.
Sometimes it's just better for all of us to admit our faults, learn from our mistakes & not hold on to the aftermath of it all.
2007-05-22 01:42:37 · answer #3 · answered by yousafmshaikh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to put yourself in his shoes. How would you feel if you went to a party and the guy you had expressed interest in the weekend before kissed two of your friends? Would you think, "Oh, it's OK. I don't mind. He was just drunk." Probably not, right?
Sure, it's fun to have a few drinks. But be careful with yourself! Don't drink so much that you find yourself making bad or unsafe decisions.
Talk to this guy and see if he'll give you a second chance. If he does, great. If not, lesson learned the hard way, right?
2007-05-22 01:27:35 · answer #4 · answered by Melanie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no excuse for what you did and it's good that you realize that. Make sure you tell him that and that you're willing to accept whatever he throws your way for it (as long as it's not overboard). You've done a bad thing and he's right for being really hurt but it's not the end of the world. It's the trust right now that's been damaged a bit. While this is difficult to regain immediately, being a good girlfriend to him will be the best thing you can do. In summary, yes you deserve a second chance.
2007-05-22 01:24:52 · answer #5 · answered by Nikhil M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah, I've been in this EXACT same situation. I don't think it's cheating. You met him Friday... is he your boyfriend already? You don't know him all that well, and if you two aren't dating, then it's not considered cheating. You need to explain to him that you two are just friends right now and you didn't mean to do it. Tell him you don't have feelings for his friends. I feel you do deserve another chance. When I was in this situation, the guy did give me another chance & realized that I was just drunk when I kissed one of my co-workers at a bar. If he's not your bf, he shouldn't get upset.
2007-05-22 01:25:52 · answer #6 · answered by danielle b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I do think that kissing is cheating. I don't know any details about your relationship like how long you two have been together or how old you two are. I know that if my girlfriend of 9 months kissed another guy that I would be so upset that I would get mad and might even leave her depending on the situation but I would give her another chance.
2007-05-22 01:29:05 · answer #7 · answered by Man of love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U deserve a second chance bcoz what u did was in a condition of uncounsiousness means when u were drunk.
But can i ask u one question being a girl how can u kiss any one in first meeting this is not a right behavior to be done by any girl
any way just apolozise to him for that behaviour and ask for a second chance and assure him that it will not happen again.
If he is an understanding person he will defintly give u a second chance
Thanks
2007-05-22 01:37:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too fast for a date. You should be more respectful toward yourself. You cause hurt to this friend. Why kiss his friends. Being drunk isn't a excuse that you are using. Maybe you don't know how much you are to drink. Be careful, that this don't give you a bad name around friends. Emotions of your friend is damage.
2007-05-22 01:27:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kissing guy#1 certainly doesn't mean that you are in a relationship with him - so of course you could kiss others. HOWEVER - doing that with his friends is not a great idea. If a week later you've kissed two of his friends, he's sure to wonder who ELSE you might be kissing. It seems that you aren't really ready/interested in dating him seriously at the moment, so make that clear to him (to spare his feelings) and just have a fun summer. (But avoid lip locks with his buddies in the future.)
2007-05-22 01:26:36 · answer #10 · answered by little-miss-know-it-all 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋